Posted in Christmas 2012, Coffee

Christmas Eve Morning Coffee Musings…

Coffee cup with steamI need to vent.

First, over night there was another drunk driving fatality.  Really, is it so difficult to call a cab? A friend? NOT GET DRUNK AND DRIVE???  It doesn’t just impact the family of the victim.  And by the way “victim” I use loosely as if you drove drunk and wrecked that is rather self imposed.  I prefer reckless fool to victim.  Word is out that he was in fact drunk, was verbally reported on the news.  There is a family that now for Christmas Eve morning is being told that someone isn’t going to be there to open his gifts this year.  But the impact doesn’t stop there.  Police officers and fire/rescue personnel will carry those images home with them today.  If you think it doesn’t bother them you are nuts.  And please don’t tell me that they should get a different job, it would eat at the heart and mind of the Grinch himself.  Then the lucky officer who had to go ring someone’s doorbell in the wee hours this morning to share the “good news” with the loved ones of the 24 year old deceased, he or she will carry that with them through the holiday as well, the shock, grief etc. of that family.  The only good is that he only took out himself.

Yesterday in the wee hours, a family headed to visit relatives for Christmas was forever changed when a drunk driver going the wrong way on the highway hit them head on. He is dead, his 7 year old is dead, and in the other vehicle the parents are dead and some of their children are in the hospital with life threatening injuries.  All dead, so many grieving, and all because someone was not responsible enough to get a designated driver.

Yes, I’ve been one of those drivers in my life, and thankfully never hurt myself or anyone else.  Things like this remind me that it just is NOT worth it.

On to better things.  Sorry just had to vent for a minute.

I am not ready for Christmas, I have a few things to finish up here today.  But despite being dead broke and no money, I’m happier than I have been in years.  I have my family, my health, and finished classes and got certified to work as a nurse aide.  I have the love of a bunch of awesome, quirky, slightly off balance and dysfunctional family and friends.

On Wednesday my 2nd grandchild will make his entrance into this world and the huge family (on his mommy and daddy’s sides) that already love that little man more than we can all begin to say.

In this year I’ve gained a daughter-in-law, a granddaughter, and before it ends a grandson.  So much love to go around, something money cannot buy to put under my tree.  Lives that make mine so full of joy and laughter.

Maybe that is why those stories make me so mad…I know how precious life is, and what a gift filled holiday this is simply because of who touches my life, and how I’d feel if one of those priceless treasures was torn from my world because of stupidity.

Posted in Meet Me On Monday, Monday Quiz About Me

Monday Quiz About Me!

Welcome to Monday Quiz About Me hosted by Acting Balanced and Touristic
Here are FOUR QUESTIONS that everyone can answer and then you have the option to add a fifth question of your own for those who are visiting your blog to answer in the comment section, along with commenting on the four standard questions you answered!
To join click the icon above!!!
1. What is your favorite kind of soup?
2. When was the last time you saw snow?
3. What is a must have trait if someone is going to live with you?
4. Who was your favorite James Bond? 

And don’t forget to add a 5th Question on your own blog so we can answer as we hop around!

My Answers:

1.  What is your favorite kind of soup? 
WOW that is a tough one, as I really do not have a favorite.  My ex makes one called Cheese Burger soup, the recipe came from someone we went to church with, and that might possibly be the favorite.  Hmm, in fact I think I will contact the source and see if she still has that recipe, it is to die for delicious, and if she gives it up, I’ll post it!

2.  When is the last time you saw snow? 
Last winter!  This area of the country (southwest Ohio) sees its share of snow in winter.  Not usually a mega bunch like other areas, but we’re good for several decent snow falls each winter.  Personally I’m a fan of it on Christmas Eve after I go to sleep, it can snow several inches, we can wake to a white Christmas, then the crap can melt on December 26th and not return until Christmas Eve the next year.

3.  What is a must have trait if someone is going to live with you? 
A really good sense of humor and playful spirit.  Life is too short to take it all so seriously, and I like to have fun and laugh, a lot!

4.  Who was your favorite James Bond? 
Sean Connery without a doubt! OMG I still think at 82 the man is sexy!

And now for my question for those that happen by my blog to answer in the comments:

5.  What is your favorite guilty pleasure when you take time out for yourself?

Link up and don’t forget to leave your answer for #5 in the comments!

Posted in Random

The Elf On The Where?

I love the holiday season.  For me it starts Monday, October 1st and runs through New Years Day.  Halloween and all things spooky kick it off and it rolls through 3 months, 1 full quarter of the year.  Seems appropriate that deep winter follows, good time to hibernate after all of the activity.  I even coordinate my cell phone wallpaper and texting theme (I use GO SMS Pro) to the various holidays.

As  far as Halloween goes, I’m not into haunted houses unless it is the real deal, like Waverly Hills Sanitorium or some such truly haunted place.  I do not like masks on people, I need to be able to see their eyes to be comfortable. And I am no fan of anything or anyone jumping out at me or touching me.  In other words I am not one that likes being scared by pranks and stage makeup, but I am into paranormal type frights because I’m not scared by that, just fascinated.  I do enjoy the fun side of Halloween, like carving pumpkins and cute witches  and goblins that come ringing my doorbell, fun foods for parties and even a good costume party if folks dress creatively.

Thanksgiving is like intermission with food.  I enjoy food.  REALLY enjoy food, goes with being a Taurus, there is an ongoing love affair with all things delicious and edible, and a bittersweet relationship with the scale as a result.  Thanksgiving day is just for loading up on calories for energy for Black Friday shopping, and a great excuse to bring the family together.  Hopefully you don’t  wait for such occasions to have your family come by for dinner.  Around the Diva Den all it takes is a phone call in the afternoon and some creative combining of resources to produce a family dinner.

My all time favorite holiday is Christmas.  So much so that thanks to living in this very big house, we can have 2 trees, which is my dream.  I love decorating trees, and would have one in every single room!  Even my bedroom has a tree, a Charlie Brown tree 🙂  because it  is such a great Christmas show.  I love the decorations, smells, sounds…everything about this holiday rocks!  We have a tradition of watching “It’s A  Wonderful Life” on Christmas Eve after all the festivities are done and we’re in our jammies.

I want  to start a new tradition this year.  I get that in this house everyone is an adult, and while we believe in the spirit of Santa, we’ve gone beyond truly believing in the person.  However, traditions can be fun for adults even if they are mostly for kids.  Last year I stumbled on the whole Elf On The Shelf craze just after the holidays.  I think the entire thing is just adorable and my hat is off to the authors of the book, who have created a very special tradition in so many families around the globe.  Even though we are adults, I want to ‘adopt’ an elf and begin the tradition.  I’m checking out the local adoption centers, you can find your local centers on the website, Elf On The Shelf so you can adopt your own family elf.  For those parents looking for creative ideas for their elf to be found each day, I found this cute blog of 100 Mischievous Elf Ideas, they are great!

It is never too early or too late for that matter, to start thinking of ways to make holidays more fun and enjoyable for children young and old alike!

Posted in A Day In The Life

Secrets Under My Bed

I am very much in a mood to write today, but for some reason I cannot get my ADD brain to narrow down a topic.  I hate when this happens.  My fingers are dying to be typing away and my brain is a jumble.  Kind of like restless leg syndrome, only it’s restless finger syndrome, which just sounds ‘wrong’ on too many levels to call it that and idol hands are the devil’s workshop and…never mind.

I wish I could blame the inspiration issues on The Backyardigans but we’re not watching them of late as the baby I watch just isn’t quite into them yet.  I reached for a box of Table Topics in desperation for just ONE idea rather than the fragments floating around in my head.  Sadly, at 3am this morning when I woke up I had several great topics in mind.  I know, I should have written them down, but there was nothing handy except the white board on my closet door.  That meant getting out of the bed.  The bed on which the electric blanket resides, keeping me warm all night.  The bed that is SO comfortable that I can justify hitting my snooze alarm 10 times on any given morning so I don’t have to leave the warm, cozy place I don’t spend enough time in lately.  I was sure I’d remember what I had woke up thinking about.

Anyway, I promised myself I would write about whatever topic I pulled from that box.  I should really just not write because this could be a dangerous thing to do sometimes.  And believe me, it COULD have been very dangerous and yet oh so juicy, as I pulled the card that says, “What’s under your bed?”

Now I will be completely honest, I wasn’t sure.  I can feel my friend over at Martinis Needed cringing now, because under a lot of beds one will find clutter.  Three weeks ago I know that I had 3 rolls of Christmas wrapping paper under the bed…from Christmas 2010.  It served to be a good place to shove it in a hurry after wrapping gifts that year, on Christmas Eve, just before the entire family descended on the house.  After that it proved to be entertaining to the cats, because cats like things things that make crinkle noises.  Those rolls are no longer there, as I had to wrap things again this past Christmas and I used it all up. 🙂  But I never actually looked under the bed for the paper, because I could just reach under and feel it.  I wasn’t entirely sure there was not more until now.

I pulled my handy dandy, never needs batteries, black cat flash light off my vanity and got down on my hands and knees to have a look under the bed.  By the way, it never needs batteries because it  has a little lever that pops out on one side and you pump it up so to speak to charge it.  This thing is so cool because most of the time, when a flashlight is needed, Murphy’s Law dictates the batteries within are dead.  But back on track here as I’m hijacking my post.  Brace yourself, this is top secret stuff.

What is NOT under my bed:

There was no body. Shocking, I know, as I have 2 ex-husbands and a recent ex-boyfriend that is a pompous ass.

There are no dirty clothes. I actually put all my laundry in a hamper now, in my closet, and do my own wash.  SO unlike when I was a teenager and had to walk past the laundry shoot going to and from the shower and instead of sending the clothes down the hole to the basement laundry area, I shoved them under my bed like any logical teenager.  How else could I later have a fit over the fact that I had no clean clothes and blame my mother for losing them?  Not even a stray sock was under the bed now.  I only buy white, little footie socks, no hassle when it comes to mating those puppies.

Sorry dad, no dirty dishes, or cups of mold.  In high school I was working on discovering a cure for cancer and the development of a super antibiotic.  At least that is what my father would tell you.  Whenever there was a shortage of coffee cups he went to my room to find them.  I had a habit of getting a cup of milk and sugar with a little coffee (I drank java like daddy did), taking it to my room, drinking half and then forgetting it.  In an effort to find a clear spot on my desk to do homework, or the nightstand for another cup of coffee, I would stuff those cups all over the place.  Dishes too.  Never mind that I went up and down from my room to the kitchen a dozen times a day and could have taken the dirty dishes with me.  It is no small wonder we never had a problem with rodents or roaches.

No bizarre objects that cannot be defined, no hair ties (mine is too short to tie in anything), no pencils, pens, books, old mail, mismatched shoes….no none of the standard things you might find under any female’s bed.

What I found under my bed:

A power strip.  My phone charger cradle, 2 vanity lamps and a small fan on the vanity are plugged into it. The small fan because I’m moving about in an on again/off again personal, tropical climate known as hot flashes of late.

1 pair of slippers.  Not bad, as I own 3 pair.  I have to be coordinated even when it comes to sleepwear (even though single) so I have slippers to go with any of my jammies. Laugh, but when my fat butt is being carried out of a window due to a house fire, when you see the footage on the 11pm news  you’ll remark how cute I look in my PJ’s and matching slippers.  You know you will!

1 pair of running shoes.  I wear them for better support when walking.  I own several pair, but only one is under the bed, the rest are neatly in a shoe rack in the closet.

1 box fan.  Look, there is no where else to put that thing right now, so I layed it down and pushed it under the bed.

Yep that is it.  The deep, dark, naughty secrets of what one will find under the Marvelous One’s bed.  Nothing exciting, not even one of the cats.  Actually they are busy trying to figure out how to get in my closet, where mine recently discovered 2 very large, feather boas from costumes gone by.  She thinks she made the kill of the century when it comes to fowl and keeps trying to drag them away.

I’ll have to work on getting a body or two, or some blood evidence under there, something exciting at least.

Posted in All About Me In 30 Days

Day 11 – A Photo Of Me Recently

All About Me In 30 Days – Day 11

This is not a favorite day in the “All About Me In 30 Days” challenge.  Mostly because I believe the past year has aged me rapidly as I worked through the pain of my divorce.  But I also grew and matured in areas that make up for that.  I don’t like the idea of aging gracefully, I want to fight it every step of the way.  But the reality is I am getting older and need to just accept that I suppose.

So  here are some photos from Christmas Eve this year, that is about as recent as it gets!

Divas! Right to left: Sarah, Jeanne, Boo, me and Mom
Diva Sarah and Me
DIva Boo, Diva Sarah and Diva Marvi Marti
Mr. Wonderful and Me!!!

Christmas Eve was a complete blast around here.  I am so happy that Mr. Wonderful was a part of my holidays, it was a lot of fun and I love having him around.  One thing I noted, I am the only blond left in the Diva Den, all the other girls dye their hair brown in winter.  Hmm…maybe I should give it a try?

Posted in A Day In The Life

Heart Warming Joy

I  really wasn’t certain what to expect emotionally this holiday season, as the landscape of my life has changed so much.  I am SO thankful now for the changes and how this Christmas has been for me!

Our living room ready for Christmas

The  Divas LOVE Christmas time, as  do I.  It has always been a very special time of year for  me despite a few times that were painful.  For 22 years a little black rain cloud  hung over the holiday season as Ebeneezer Scrooge, the ex’s alter ego, fought  his inner demons to try to enjoy Christmas.  This year has been outstanding!  Everyone cheerful,  shopping and wrapping and  ENJOYING this season.

We put up 2 trees here, one in the family room, one in the living room.  Our house is decked out with old world Santas and Nut Crackers all over the place.  Even the upstairs bathroom is in theme,  with snow men shower curtain,  rug and accessories.  We get into  it  around here. 🙂

Last weekend Stan took me to the Festival Of Lights, a  holiday favorite I had missed for years.  It not only was fun but for me it was rather magical because  of the hand holding mine, the fact that he too very much enjoys this time of year.  Then we snuggled near the tree together.

Thursday evening my immediate  family celebrated Christmas and more change was there as us girls hosted our first family Christmas in this house…and my brother and his wife have split and he was there with his new love and her daughter.  It was a fun evening,  filled with some happy tears and lots of laughs.  It was a great reminder to me of what a wonderful family I have and how blessed I am to have them.

For Christmas Eve we Divas hosted the annual family party with my aunts, uncles and cousins from my mom’s side.  This time Stan was present to celebrate as well.  He has been such a wonderful  encouragement to me in my return to my faith.  He gave me a beautiful cross  necklace for Christmas, something I will cherish very much because it came from him.  It will be a constant reminder to me that someone very special loves me and prays for me.  I very much enjoyed having him here, someone that loves to hold my hand,  hug me and hold me.  One of my favorite memories this season will be sitting with him in front of the fire last night.

My baby girl slept here last night and my son arrived promptly at 6:20am to celebrate Christmas with us.  My second favorite gift this year is the Kindle they gave me.  I LOVE to read and love that I will be able to carry an entire library with me as I purchase books now  online for my E-Reader.  It was an enjoyable time this morning and was wonderful to spend it with my kids, mom, sister and nieces.

And of course the best part of this holiday was that my soul celebrates the return to my faith and church family, to being  in God’s Word, praying on a regular basis,  memorizing scripture, and worshiping each week with other believers.

Yes, it has been a very wonderful Christmas,  the best one in a very long time.  Never did  I imagine that I’d be truly thankful for being set free.  It has been a JOYFUL, blessed Christmas!

Posted in Meet Me On Monday

Meet Me On Monday

Welcome to the 27th edition of “Meet Me On Monday!”

Blogging  is a funny thing…we tell our most intimate thoughts for all to read  and yet most of the time we find ourselves sitting and wondering, “who is  this person!?”  I know them…but yet I don’t know them!  I want  to know who the person is behind all those words so Java thought of a great  way for all of us to “meet” each other!

Every Sunday Java will post five get to know you questions that you can copy and paste into your own Monday post and we  can all learn a little more about each and every one of us!!

“Its a great way to to meet new friends and for others to get to know me better….one Monday at a time!!!”….as quoted by the Chacogirl!! I will make this SIMPLE and FUN!!!

Java  will add a linky so we can follow who participates and get to know them  better!!  Be sure to link the POST and not just your whole blog!


1.  What will your Christmas dinner consist of?
2.  Do you watch commercials or flip through the channels?
3.  How long will you leave your Christmas decorations up?

4.  What movie makes you cry every time you watch it?
5.  Do you have a Facebook?

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1) What will your Christmas dinner consist of?

Well that depends which Christmas dinner.  Thursday evening my brothers and their families will be here at the Diva Den, along with my kids, to celebrate with the immediate family.  That evening we are having chili for dinner.  My black bean chili to be exact and then sides and desserts furnished by the sibs and their significant others.  Oh and my daughter who is questioning our sanity in not having ham for dinner.  She’ll get over it.

Then dinner again on Christmas Eve when my mom’s siblings and their families come for the annual Christmas Eve celebration.  Mom’s family had Santa come on Christmas Eve, so when my parents married they went to that each year. I’ve been there almost every year for 47 years myself, and except when  circumstances prevented it, I wouldn’t miss it for the world.  That night we will have ham and fried chicken, and everyone will bring food to share to go along with the main dishes.

On Christmas day we will graze on whatever is left through out the day.

2) Do you watch commercials or flip through the channels?

I tend to watch them on those rare occasions that I am sitting in front of the TV at all.  How else would I get to see such insanity as sex used to sell carrots?

3. How long will you leave your Christmas decorations up?

As long as we can!  We in the Diva Den LOVE Christmas so we’ll try to get by with them being up until at least New Year’s day.  Most likely, since we all return to work on 1/3/11, we will put them away on Sunday, 1/2.

4. What movie makes you cry every time you watch it?

Frankly more than one will do that to me.  Always, Steel Magnolias, Mr. Holland’s Opus….just to name a few.






5. Do you have a Facebook?

Yes I do! I only allow people I know on my personal page, but I do have a ‘fan page’ for my blog that I would welcome followers to ‘Like’!  If you care too, click the badge for it on the side bar to the right and ‘like’ me.

Posted in A Day In The Life

Weekend Wrap Up…

This past week was a tad crazy to say the least.  Tuesday the big boss  in Columbus let me know that it was time to shut down the office for the winter as work has dropped way off.  Friday was to be the last day in operation for the office to be open, which meant being out of work for winter.  This was not good news but then again it was not unexpected as hours had already been cut and I scheduled all production for Cincinnati and Dayton so I knew it was about that time.

This job was perfect as it really was a transitional and temporary thing and it timed out to carry me through from finding out Grumpy Dwarf wanted out of the marriage and through to the end of the divorce and then beyond some months.  It was a job that gave me plenty to do but also gave me a lot of  solitude.  This was  not bad thing  considering the mental and emotional train wreck that I was, when I needed a good cry while  I worked, no one saw but me.

But the time was here  now to find something more stable and hopefully permanent and also something at a faster pace.  I am well past the divorce and the drama is behind  me.  Tuesday  evening I began my quest for a new job and by Friday had two  options.  Funny thing, I did not take the one with the higher financial potential.  Call me stupid if you wish, but I follow my gut instinct and my gut told me that the  one I have chosen is the right fit.  It is  close to home (6.5 miles) and I just feel like there is a good  chemistry between me and the new boss.  I start Monday and cannot wait to get in there and get learning.  I’ll be honest, I HATE learning a new job because I am not able to perform at my best until I learn the position.  But soon I will have the ropes down and that will mean I am ready to get in there and prove myself.

Saturday we added a new addition to the Diva Den,  little Miss Ditzy.  Diva Sarah wanted a kitten and upon meeting this adorable little 8 week old fur ball she had to have her.  She is TOO cute and photos will be forthcoming!  The other two cats were less than thrilled, but Pixel has softened up and  been caught grooming Ditzy’s head and playing with her.  Noel will get there, she is the top cat in the house and not yet approving of the addition.

I found out my daughter will be spending the night on Christmas Eve and waking up to open presents on Christmas morning with me, and that just made my weekend!!!  So much has changed in my life and I miss her so much now that I no longer live with her.  I really do still have some bitterness toward her dad for putting me in a position that I no longer get to share in her life on a daily basis.  It may seem selfish but I’m very glad he will be on duty at the fire house and she will be at the Princess Palace! 🙂  His Scroogie ass hates the holidays any way and was always like a little black rain cloud over the day so I am thrilled  she will be with us.

I  really do not care for the time change, it messes with me for about a week.  My body says it is 9:37 and I should be getting ready to sleep.  I do plan to crawl in my bed here shortly but the early darkness now setting in  makes me even more tired.  UGH

These hot flashes  must be more than a passing thing.  Between them and the night sweats most days are turning into a total waste of makeup!  And I am just miserable when they hit.  Wondering what wonderful things I can do, eat etc without medication to make this more bearable?  If you know of things please share!

Okay, time to get the electric blanket turned on so my bed is nice and warm, get the contacts out and get ready for work tomorrow.  My pillows are calling me!!!!