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Grounds In My Coffee Cup Of Life

Coffee = life, at least most mornings in my world. The java kicks in and I am magically transformed into Super STNA! Katie bar the door this girl is kicking butt.  Without the liquid from the magic coffee beans I can and have functioned quite well and at the top of my game, but why would anyone want to do that when 32 ounces of sippable dynamite is available? But this is Friday, my standard off day, so the cape and tights are hanging up and my Nana tiara is perched on its pillow, ready for me to pull myself together for some fun.

Today I have a hot date with 2 mega cutie pies, my youngest two grandsons. We have a date at the Newport Aquarium today, and I can’t wait! Last night I was sitting down with my sister, mom and a huge salad to binge watch season 6 of NCIS (we started over at the beginning, can a get a yahoooooo for Netflix?) when I received a FaceTime call from my 2.75yo grandson asking if Nana would accompany his royal adorableness to see the fishes. I have a to-do list as long as my arm of really important things I need to do, but making memories is way more critical. When I’m dead and gone, or bat quano crazy in a nursing home and cannot remember my own name, these times will still be treasured by my grandsnugglers so I cleared my morning. I hope I never forget the sounds of the 2yo’s giggling as we crawl through the stingray exhibit because that is the stuff that warms my heart.

But first: coffee. Because toddlers have more energy than you can get drinking an entire Dunkin Donuts coffee shop.

Today we get to see the newest exhibit, the Octopus!! Or as he so sweetly says, opa-pus. I find them super creepy and yet fascinating. He will be beside himself when he sees it is there and we get to check it out up close. I have to admit I’m probably more excited about this than he will be but that is my inner child, the one who drops her tiara in the grass and goes splashing through mud puddles in the rain.

These are the grounds in my coffee cup today, and if I don’t get moving I will not be ready when the time comes, so this marvelous Nana is out! Have a fantastic day!

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Unpacking My Big C

That other post I talked about? The one about my journey? Here it is:

The Prodigal Princess

comfort.jpgSo 2 weeks ago our church started this year’s all church journey: Obsessed – Leave Your Mark.  I LOVE it and disdain it all at the very same time. Why? Because like the journey(s) of the past it uncovers things within that need to change, or be eliminated in order to grow in relationship with Christ. And that, dear friends, can be uncomfortable to say the very least.

This past week the message dealt with the 3 C’s that the world uses to pull us from God:

  1. Comparison (the thief)
  2. Comfort (the illusion)
  3. Control (the liar)

In the Crossroads app we do work each week after hearing the weekend message and before meeting for our small groups. And this was no fun at all this week because I had to do an assessment and discovered that my big C of obsession was……Comfort. I was pretty certain it was going to…

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Coffee & Brain Dump

Have you ever noticed that when you make a to-do list you are more likely to actually DO what is on that list than if you just keep it mental? Then again if you are like me you might hit a bump in the road and while you keep adding to that list, nothing is getting crossed off. This makes for a long list and that causes anxiety. The list is long, my friends, very long.

My blog is on that list and so here I sit, coffee next to me and I’m typing away. This is good stuff happening, something will be crossed off of my list now. It may only be one item with a line through it but that is one more than the current list displays so I’m celebrating this little victory.

So what is this bump in the road of marvelous? Well truth be told it is a whole pile of debris of life piling up and overwhelming me lately. Is you coffee or adult beverage in a Yeti style tumbler? Because this could get long y’all and don’t want your drink to get cold if it needs to be hot or the other way around.

  • Mom is on a steady decline. Weeks perhaps even a few more months, but the decline is on. I know, since July when she was given 2-4 weeks I’ve been saying this, and the decline has been steady though thankfully slow. But lately she is in pain and nauseous a lot. And tired. She lays down and sleeps a lot. In fact she is in bed more than out of it now. I’ve started to de-plan my calendar, turn down invitations because I’m unapologetically selfish with my down time. She may be sleeping most of the evening sometimes but when she is awake I want to be where she is, soaking up her final days.
  • Apartment Hunting is the name of the game. But not too intense on this just yet because until mom dies there is no moving ut so timing is going to be a big factor in the where and when. Mostly the where at this point because until there is a when on the table it is hard to really locate anything more than where I’d LIKE to be living. I cannot afford to put down a deposit and pay rent monthly until it is time to actually move, and then I have to hope the places that appeal to me have a vacancy. And finding a place that accepts cats is harder than I thought. Seriously they allow birds up to 10 pounds and 50 gallon aquariums but not cats. Birds are nasty, dirty creatures (I had one) so why them and not a sweet, declawed, spayed, 8 year old cat? I won’t rehome her because I’ve had her since she was 4 weeks old and orphaned. You don’t rehome an animal like it’s a set of no-longer-used dishes.
  • Work as in trying to keep my health coaching job and Avon going while working full time and dealing with the above. I’ve really sucked lately at coaching and I just need to focus. I was doing great bullet journaling the coaching business, it kept me DOING the work and in contact with clients, and now dust is gathering on the notebook and I’m a week behind on my bootcamp training and actions for coaching. Seriously need to refocus. And there has been drama at work and I hate drama. Plus my A-team gals all have something derailing our lives right now from physical injuries to personal life issues and it is just sucking the fun out of our job. We are all in reground and regroup mode, kicking around the idea of all taking off the same day and going to an escape room locally. Though we’d prefer to take a few bottles of wine and not escape the room at all! We just cannot seem to catch a break of late. We also had a resident pass away this past week, one we all loved, so we’re a bit raw emotionally. She was the same age as my mom which only made it harder for me than I expected.
  • Etsy Shop needs some new listings. I have 3 blankets that are finished and ready to be listed for sale and have yet to photograph them and get them online. And it is time to tweak descriptions on products but my creative juices have dried up.

Those are just some of the items of life debris piling up. I have to file my taxes (actually have to prepare the stuff, I have a tax guy thanks to all this side business hoopla), finish CEUs for my MA-C certification renewal, clean my closet out, place an Avon order, place a food order for myself so my health stays solid, pay some bills, write my sponsor child in Nicaragua, clean/dust/sweep my room, finish 6 partially complete crochet projects (can’t sell them if I don’t actually complete them), and that is just the top of the to-do list.

Right now I’m ever so thankful I decided to head back to Crossroads for the all church journey. Honestly I tried to love the church I had switched too, the teaching is solid there and all, but it just feels like stale crackers to me. I missed the energy, love, vibe, and teaching (also solid) at Crossroads. It fits me better. And that was a stress producer too, because one of my kids is at one church, the other is at Crossroads and I was trying to attend both! I loved when we all went to the same church, same service. Even the ex-hubster and his wife went there, and while awkward to some, I found it kinda cool that we all were doing faith together. They are now with the son at the other location and I’ve come back home to where I found my way back to God. And I’m happier, and growing again in my walk with the Lord. I’m beyond delighted my kids are both in churches and actively walking out their faith, with Christian spouses doing the same by their sides. What more can a mother hope for really than to see her kids serving God and His people?

So about that all church journey, it is called Obsessed and we are on weekend 3 right now. And to quote my daughter, “I’m not digging this journey”. Oh we are really thankful for it, but it’s not a comfortable trip we are on here. Facing down our obsessions and getting them in line is not easy. I’m uncovering some things I do not like about my life and myself and what I pay attention too. “Pay attention to what you pay attention too” stuck out this past weekend and the work in the app for the week really pried the lid off things I did not care to see.  That is the stuff of another post though.

So, that brain dump felt good. There it is, in a nut shell, because no one has time to write and then have anyone read a 20 volume encyclopedia size dump of ALL that is going on in my crazy, marvelous life right now.

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Part II ~ So You’re Putting Mom/Dad In A Nursing Home: Do’s And Don’ts

In my previous post, So You’re Putting Mom/Dad In A Nursing Home: Do’s And Don’ts, I mentioned things like valuables, clothing sizes and socks. Can I mention socks again? Seriously they all need socks, and if they are all the same kind of socks this is even better. I swear socks get lost more than anything else in the facility. Purchase 20 pairs of identical socks and the staff will love you. Mismatched ones are hip for younger folks but on your mom or dad in a nursing home, it looks like they and the staff lack the good sense to put together appropriate attire. Often we are struggling to do just that!

So, adding to other suggestions:

Sports bras. When moving your beloved mother in with us, please forget the lacy, sexy bras, the ones that hook in back, and think in terms of COMFORT. Hooks stabbing them in the back all day while in a wheel chair or arm chair, get uncomfy. Hooks get caught on things in the laundry and get twisted. Sport bras, a size larger than necessary, are comfortable, and much easier to for all involved. Your mom likely cannot hook it herself any longer anyway. If you want to do a hook bra, get one that hooks in the front!

Coats…one is plenty. I currently have a resident who has no less than 6 coats.  Really, one winter, and one spring/light weight one is all they need. Space in the closet is limited, those 6 coats take up nearly half of the space, the rest is crammed full of clothes. That brings me to the number of outfits your parent needs. 14 is good, 2 per day if there is a disaster, for a week. Most facilities are doing the resident laundry on their shower days, and most of facilities have 2 showers a week. If you are not familiar with this, don’t freak out, elderly skin dries out really bad and 2 a week is quite sufficient. We do perineal care daily (cleaning their bottoms/private parts) and apply deodorant etc so they are not going to smell foul, and this cleaning prevents skin break down as well from soiled underwear/adult diapers. Check with the nurse or aides to be sure your parent has sufficient clothing.

Slippers. If your mom or dad don’t wear shoes any longer, then nice slippers are wonderful. I recommend ones with non-slip surfaces if they walk. Slippers protect the feet of those in wheel chairs too, so think in terms of comfy, and protective!

Just a few more things I wanted to share, for those with loved ones in nursing facilities.

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Sleeping In Is Overrated

Hot cup of fresh coffee on the wooden table and stack of books tMy intent today was to sleep in until I woke up natural. Well natural arrived at 6am so here I am with laundry going, coffee, and y’all. Seems my body just cannot go more than 7-8 hours tops.

I might have wasted time laying in bed playing Yatzee on my phone and surfing Facebook but I have a date today with 2 cute members of the male side of the species, as in grandsons. The 2.5yo wants to go to the aquarium so Nana is up, plowing through the “I have to” stuff so I can go make memories.

I have a new addiction!!! I’ve always felt that even with no makeup a gal looks better with her lip color on. But when you are taking care of 16 adults with dementia you do not have time to stop and reapply your lipstick over and over again. Or when you are hanging at the Zoo with the grandkids, sipping coffee during a church service (yes our church has cup holders for your coffee cup..seems they get it that adulting is rough without the caffeine), etc. And leaving a lip print behind on your wine glass or grandchild’s forehead is not cool. My daughter’s lip color is always on point and so I broke down and shelled out the money for a starter kit of Lipsense during an online Facebook party she hosted for a friend-distributor. I’m hooked! Yes, I love my Avon, I’m a #BeautyBoss, but this stuff is AMAZING! SO many colors and I’m here to tell you this stuff is marvelous. NO I will not be selling it but I can hook you up with an enabler consultant if you’d like, just message me! I may need another job in addition to STNA and Health Coach to support this habit.

Any This Is Us fans in the house? OMG did anyone else have this desire to go toss the crockpot in the trash after the least episode? And finally we will be faced with the complete answers to how Jack died, right after the Super Bowl this Sunday. I may need to call off work the next day to mourn. This show is SO well written, and easily is my favorite one I’ve ever watched. If you don’t know what all the fuss is about, find season one and start from the beginning or it seriously won’t make sense to you at all. No fluff and unicorn farts here, this show is so realistic with the family dynamics and characters. You aren’t wishing there were people like the Pearsons in the world, you know them! In all likelihood you are one of them. If I have to DVR an episode I stay off social media until I see it so no spoilers.

Oops, time to go hit the shower so I’m ready to make those memories today! More to come as I’m off ALL WEEKEND BABY!


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Wine & Cheese: 1st Serving 2018

wineandcheese2Some Wednesdays I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just search past postings. Sit back and join me now for a serving of some whine and cheese!

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😦 I know, it has been months since I blogged. Life. It happens.

😦 Mom is on the decline, I probably see it more than the rest of the Diva Den because I don’t see her for a few days sometimes when I’m doing double shifts. And others see it when the come over and haven’t seen her in a few weeks. 😦

😦 Winter is here and it has been so dang cold! And snow…OH I really do not like it one bit outside of being pretty to look at as it is coming down and then it just plan sucks.



🙂 Mom may be declining but here we are in January, 6 months past when we were told 2-4 weeks left to live. WOW. We had 2 Christmas celebrations, one in July and then she made it to Christmas anyway! She is one tough cookie. She is going to lose this battle, we know that, but we rejoice that she is still here!

🙂 Nearly a year into this job and I love it still just as much as the first day! Okay MORE than I did when I started. These sweet souls with whole hearts and broken brains are so amazing with what they can do, and how they make me smile, challenge my reserves when I cannot find a ‘tool’ in my belt to redirect or comfort them…I’m growing as a person thanks to them.

🙂 I have new air plants! I killed the last 3, I forgot for long stretches to dunk them in water for 20 minutes and those little things dried up. But I have 3 new ones. I have already neglected these too (face palm) but I’m trying!

🙂 Not sure what rock I was living under but I’ve only recently learned of bullet journaling and OMGoodness I LOVE it!!! Maybe my air plants stand a chance of survival after all now that my life is becoming more organized. More on this topic in a later post, which will happen thanks to this new way of being organized.

🙂 I have new jammies. I got a nice, warm, fuzzy set from my sister for Christmas and that prompted me to watch for after Christmas sales. Got a nice, $40 pair for $15 on sale and with some Kohl’s cash. I now have 2 pair and I’m in heaven. Go me!



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Saturday Coffee Musings

Close up of cup of coffee with pink roseI’ve become dependent on water. Okay, yes, our bodies do require it to function, but I have developed an addiction to it. Perhaps more like a dependency on feeling great, which has a lot to do with the amount of water I drink when on plan, 100+ ounces a day. Give me one day of not drinking enough, then the next day (like today) getting even less, and this girl isn’t feeling all that marvelous. My brain gets fuzzy and I feel like a hangover without the party.

This goes for not eating healthy too. Yesterday was just a mess of not eating the right things and not getting enough water. It was day #2 of 16 hour shifts so to say I suddenly don’t feel so hot would be understated. Thankfully just a big tumbler of water and I’m starting to feel great again.

The pause button was pushed on my health journey the past few weeks. Thanks to continuing in a mostly healthy vein of food choices I’ve not gained  back a single pound, but I haven’t taken anymore off. One resident I care for informed me I needed to stop because she feels I’m “too skinny”. I’m not stopping and in fact my schedule is set to push the play button again on November 1st. I want to reach transition and maintenance by Thanksgiving. I want to roll through the holidays a yet better version of the already improved edition of me!

Nana’s Super Heros

Today I had planned to spend my entire Saturday curled up in a chair with a crochet project and ongoing coffee. Instead the day was even better. My work community hosted trick-or-treating for resident and associates families and it was so sweet! The residents really enjoyed it and 2 of my grandchildren made it up for the event! So, now I’m going to curl up and crochet while I catch up on last night’s episode of Blue Bloods!


We had a touch of snow in Cincinnati in the wee hours of the morning. Just some wet flakes that  vanished upon impact with the ground, but still it was snow because it got THAT cold. NOT a good thing and this needs to stop at once. I’m not ready to be cold even if I do enjoy curling up in front of the fire to crochet.

Just when I was debating taking this fashion gingery color to a bit more brown, I received half a dozen compliments on it and how good it looks on me. Guess I’ll just refresh it and my roots and keep rocking the more red than brown locks! 🙂


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Wine & Cheese ~ Getting Colder Edition

wineandcheese2Some Wednesdays I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just search past postings. Sit back and join me now for a serving of some whine and cheese!

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😦 It is chilly in these parts, Autumn has finally arrived. Colder winds are now blowing, leaves crunching under foot, and dreary skies are the norm. I really dislike it, this is really depressing!

😦 I currently work a mix of first and second shift, and it is messing with my sleep cycle. When on second shift I would sleep until at least 8am. First shift means getting up at 5:30am. When on first shift I go to bed by 9:30pm to ensure adequate sleep, and on second shift I would get home and be in bed by midnight. Now that I’m all mixed up I’m awake at 6am on days I have to work until 11pm and that is frustrating to say the least.

😦 The next two days are 16 hour shifts, because I’m crazy and actually volunteered to do this to myself. I love the over time but sometimes I have to question my sanity when I say “sure sign me up!”.  I’m NOT getting any younger.

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🙂 Thankfully I am feeling amazing with all of the energy I have now that I’m not lugging around 38 pounds of excess, less than marvelous, fat! 16 hours of caring for elderly, dementia residents doesn’t always go by fast, can be exhausting both mentally and physically, but when you have energy you can pull it off, even at 54 years old!

🙂 I got to snuggle with my youngest grandchild today! Nana is a happy camper and her baby-fix meter is on full.

🙂 Along with the colder weather, which sucks, comes fire place season! YES YES YES!!! We’ve already made use of this wonderful feature in our home, if it has to be cold then we might as well enjoy a warm fire in the evening. If only we could find a way to get to work without going outside.

🙂 Coffee. Seriously if you love it, then you know that is enough said right there. (says this girl who has her cup sitting right here full of this delicious, hot, black, liquid wonderful!)

🙂 Days off are the best! Don’t get me wrong, I truly love what I do, it is my passion through and through, but a day off to just veg, do laundry, help mom get her errands ran, see old friends at a previous employer while dropping things off to dad…days off work are rejuvenating. Batteries recharged, full steam ahead!

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If you are not familiar with Sweat Pants & Coffee, you really should get acquainted. She is funny and her insights on life shared through her illustrated memes surrounding coffee are just great! If nothing else follow her Instagram!


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Wine & Cheese ~ Red Head Edition

wineandcheese2Some Wednesdays I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just search past postings. Sit back and join me now for a serving of some whine and cheese!

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😦  I am just not as time organized in my personal life as I am at work! I really need a handle on things so I can take time to write on my blog! ARGH!

😦  I dislike this time of year. Oh I LOVE the smell of fire pits and fire places burning wood to keep warm, but not the chill in the air or the changing of the leaves. Brings us to such a dreary time of naked branches and dead everything.

😦  I cleaned my closet and found so many nearly-done projects for the shop that it frustrated me. Guess a bit too much AD/HD, jumping from one to another. Time to finish them!

Okay, enough whining….


🙂  I’m kicking butt today! Yesterday I cleaned my closet and rearranged my room. Got rid of a bunch of clothes that no longer fit (I shrunk out of them YAHOOOOO!), and reorganized the closet so I can get a grip on all of the projects I want to finish and get in my shop. Today I’m attacking Mt. Washmore and if it is laying around it is getting washed and put in my niece’s room. Yes, it is mostly all her things but she is out of town for a week so I’m on it! Random act of kindness.

🙂  My coaching business has been going along well. Not only does it help me stay focused on being healthy, but I’m helping so many others get healthy and lose the weight. It is exciting to be a part of the positive changes in people’s lives.

🙂  Got on the scale today, after a few weeks of not really sticking to plan and found I had not gained anything back! No doubt because I tend to opt for healthy choices now out of habit. It feels so good to be in skinny girl clothes an feel so amazing.

🙂  I watched 3 of the grandkids this past weekend. Me and the granddaughter, Little Red, binged Harry Potter movies. The entire series! It was awesome.

🙂  Winter hair is here! I decided that despite the effort required to get back to blonde or my own dark grey, I wanted to be a red head again. Red is fun, spicy, sassy….just fits!




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Wine & Cheese ~ October 4th 2017

wineandcheese2Some Wednesdays I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just search past postings. Sit back and join me now for a serving of some whine and cheese!

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😦  Well I had great intentions of getting back to regular whine and cheese posts, and did a whole giant….ONE. *Sigh* Clearly time gets away from me and I need to learn to block my calendar and manage my time better. At work I’m like a super star of time management but clock out and it all goes to insanity.

😦  Have you ever noticed how easily negativity spreads? A bad attitude or grumbling from a coworker and down the toilet goes your own and everyone else’s perspective. I’ve allowed myself to get sucked into it all lately and I’ve got to stop. I’m usually the peppy, dancing, singing, FUN person at work. Positivity increases productivity, and that is what I intend to do, time to tweak the attitude!

Enough of this, let’s get positive!

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🙂  I’ve had 3 sales in the past few weeks in my Etsy shop. I had considered giving it up and suddenly BOOM influx of orders. I’ve started working on a bunch of scarves to add, and so sales+crocheting=HAPPINESS! Bring on the hooker therapy.

🙂  NYC has finally gotten the message and is leaving me alone. As has Long Beach. I am beyond delighted to be done with the freak parade on my phone and in my email.

🙂  The fun of getting healthy and getting 38 pounds off? Buying new clothes, of course! I love having skinny girl jeans and cute tops that don’t hide my butt since it is no longer the size of a battle ship. I still have 8 pounds to shed, which means rebooting my focus. It is nice to know that I’ve lost and not gained it back, and my blood pressure is still low so my high BP was weight induced. YAY ME!!! Oh and healthy coaching is providing a nice little sum of money to purchase those new clothes and pay bills.

🙂  LOVING my new adorable grandson. This whole Nana gig is just too much fun!

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