Monday Quiz About Me

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Welcome to Monday Quiz About Me - hosted by Acting Balanced and Touristic

Here are FOUR QUESTIONS that everyone can answer and then you have the option to add a fifth question of your own for those who are visiting your blog to answer in the comment section, along with commenting on the four standard questions you answered!  Click the badge above to link up and add it to your post:

1. Do you decorate outdoors for the holidays?

2. What is the best thing about office Christmas parties?

3. Gloves or Mittens?

4. What do you think of Secret Santas?

**Bonus question for visitors to the post to answer**

5. What is your favorite holiday indulgence that you only find during this season?

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1. Do you decorate outdoors for the holidays?

We put up lights but not a lot of them.  When I was married the outside was always nicely decorated on the marital residence.

2. What is the best thing about office Christmas parties?

NOT having them!  We never had parties in the 26 years I worked for the company, that included spouses or significant others.  It was usually a ‘party’ all day while working and frankly I do not miss those one bit!

3. Gloves or Mittens?

Mittens are warmer and I love them!  Gloves when driving though, I don’t feel I have a good control of the steering wheel in mittens.

4. What do you think of Secret Santas?

They can be fun.  I prefer the Secret Encourager program at my church with the Ladies Outreach.  You fill out slips with some general information and then they go in a ‘hat’ and are drawn by someone who secretly encourages you all year long.  I love that!

5. – Bonus Question – What is your favorite holiday indulgence that you only find during this season?

Eggnog shakes!  McDonald’s has a good one.  But by far the best is from UDF (United Dairy Farmers) and because they are only available during the Christmas holiday season, they are a wonderful treat.  I shudder to think of the calories and fat content, however.  I’ve never looked, just don’t want to know!

Day 23 ~ 30 Days Of Thankfulness 2012

The house is all cleaned, turkey and associated leftovers have been put away to be nibbled on now for days to come until we can no longer stomach turkey anything.

I’m thankful for the time spent yesterday with the members of my family that were able to be here, even if only for a short visit.  And thankful for the memories shared.

During the cooking portion of the day, we were trying to figure out how long mom has been making her pecan dressing/stuffing.  I distinctly remembered one Thanksgiving way back when I was a little girl, in my parents first house.  My grandparents, my mom’s siblings (most were not married) and a stray aunt and uncle or so, crammed into our tiny house.  Me and my siblings ate at the card table by the window in the dinning room.  That is the first time I remember having the dressing.  I  don’t recall exact ages but I couldn’t have been more than 8 or so years old.

The recipe is from the newspaper, and it is yellowed now.  We decided this needs to be laminated soon so we don’t lose it.  To me and my sister, it isn’t Thanksgiving without mom’s stuffing!

Day 22 ~ 30 Days Of Thankfulness 2012

Thankful today for all those who will not be able to be home.

Our military deployed away from family – thank you for serving our country.

For the police and firefighters who have to be on duty today and away from family, my son and brother among them, – thank you for keeping us safe, please be safe today!

For doctors, nurses, and countless other jobs that must continue despite the holiday – thank you for all you do to keep things going.

And for the families who will celebrate this day without their loved ones in these various roles, thank you for your sacrifice that enables those men and women to do their jobs.

To everyone, have a very blessed Thanksgiving!

Day 19 ~ 30 Days Of Thankfulness 2012

I’m thankful for dinner.  With family.  Around the table.

I have very fond memories of dinners growing up, the whole family around the table eating a home cooked meal.

We have dinner around the table every night here in the Diva Den, and I love it.  While all the Divas cannot always be present, 3 of us are almost always here and that is makes it nice.

I love that my brother and Angie likewise have made dinner at the table as a family, with a home cooked  meal, the norm for their family.  And it isn’t easy when you have a blended family, but they make it happen.

Sharing about everyone’s day, over food someone cared enough to prepare, is one of those things that make being a family special and for which I am very thankful.

The only thing better is a family dinner with all my siblings and their families, and of course my kids and granddaughter.

Monday Quiz About Me

It’s Monday, time for the Monday Quiz About Me meme/hop.   Been a while since I did this one (was Meet Me On Monday), figured it is a good place to get my Monday morning juices flowing.

It’s the HALLOWEEN WEEK edition!

Here are FOUR QUESTIONS that everyone can answer and then you have the option to add a fifth question of your own for those who are visiting your blog to answer in the comment section, along with commenting on the four standard questions you answered!  Click the icon above to go to Acting Balanced and join up!!

And now for this weeks Questions

1. Do you consider Halloween a holiday for children or adults?
2. At what age should children stop trick or treating?
3. What are your plans for Halloween?
4. What frightens you?

Do you consider Halloween a holiday for children or adults? 

I think it is for both!  Different ages enjoy different aspects.  I still enjoy getting dressed up for a night of fun, but then I am rather in touch with my inner child still.  It keeps me young and keeps the magic in life flowing.

At what age should children stop trick or treating?

I think as long as they are respectful, and their costumes are really good (no smearing dirt on your face and calling that a costume), then I have no problem with them going all the way through high school.  Heck I did it!

What are your plans for Halloween?

Well not entirely certain to be honest.  Our first year in this house we pulled out the fire pit and sat outside like my former neighborhood (that street rocked Halloween) but we only had 14 kids.  And our neighbors over here just aren’t all that friendly.  Last year we went down to my brother’s, sat around the fire pit in the driveway, handed out candy and ate pizza.  It was a blast.  Kinda hoping for an invite back! (HINT)

What frightens  you?  

I am terrified of fire, afraid of the dark, terrified of heights, afraid of bad storms.

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The Elf On The Where?

I love the holiday season.  For me it starts Monday, October 1st and runs through New Years Day.  Halloween and all things spooky kick it off and it rolls through 3 months, 1 full quarter of the year.  Seems appropriate that deep winter follows, good time to hibernate after all of the activity.  I even coordinate my cell phone wallpaper and texting theme (I use GO SMS Pro) to the various holidays.

As  far as Halloween goes, I’m not into haunted houses unless it is the real deal, like Waverly Hills Sanitorium or some such truly haunted place.  I do not like masks on people, I need to be able to see their eyes to be comfortable. And I am no fan of anything or anyone jumping out at me or touching me.  In other words I am not one that likes being scared by pranks and stage makeup, but I am into paranormal type frights because I’m not scared by that, just fascinated.  I do enjoy the fun side of Halloween, like carving pumpkins and cute witches  and goblins that come ringing my doorbell, fun foods for parties and even a good costume party if folks dress creatively.

Thanksgiving is like intermission with food.  I enjoy food.  REALLY enjoy food, goes with being a Taurus, there is an ongoing love affair with all things delicious and edible, and a bittersweet relationship with the scale as a result.  Thanksgiving day is just for loading up on calories for energy for Black Friday shopping, and a great excuse to bring the family together.  Hopefully you don’t  wait for such occasions to have your family come by for dinner.  Around the Diva Den all it takes is a phone call in the afternoon and some creative combining of resources to produce a family dinner.

My all time favorite holiday is Christmas.  So much so that thanks to living in this very big house, we can have 2 trees, which is my dream.  I love decorating trees, and would have one in every single room!  Even my bedroom has a tree, a Charlie Brown tree :)  because it  is such a great Christmas show.  I love the decorations, smells, sounds…everything about this holiday rocks!  We have a tradition of watching “It’s A  Wonderful Life” on Christmas Eve after all the festivities are done and we’re in our jammies.

I want  to start a new tradition this year.  I get that in this house everyone is an adult, and while we believe in the spirit of Santa, we’ve gone beyond truly believing in the person.  However, traditions can be fun for adults even if they are mostly for kids.  Last year I stumbled on the whole Elf On The Shelf craze just after the holidays.  I think the entire thing is just adorable and my hat is off to the authors of the book, who have created a very special tradition in so many families around the globe.  Even though we are adults, I want to ‘adopt’ an elf and begin the tradition.  I’m checking out the local adoption centers, you can find your local centers on the website, Elf On The Shelf so you can adopt your own family elf.  For those parents looking for creative ideas for their elf to be found each day, I found this cute blog of 100 Mischievous Elf Ideas, they are great!

It is never too early or too late for that matter, to start thinking of ways to make holidays more fun and enjoyable for children young and old alike!

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Meet Me On Monday

It’s been several weeks since Java at Never Growing Old posted a set of Meet Me on Monday questions, but we’ve been missing it – so Acting Balanced decided to resurrect the idea and starting today she’ll be posting 5 questions on Sunday evening along with a linky for you to link up your post answers!

Here are today’s Questions:
1. Are you planning anything for Valentine’s Day?
2. What song automatically popped into your head when you saw this question?
3. What did you have for breakfast today?
4. Where do you keep your keys?
5. Who was your favorite teacher from when you were in school? 

Answer them on your blog and link up!

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1.  Are you planning anything for Valentine’s Day?

That would be a huge NO!  I jokingly refer to it as ‘Single Awareness Day’ and think it is a nothing but a big scam by greeting card and candy companies. It is also a guilt driven reason to show some token of affection, which I wrote about last year in my post, My Favorite Valentine Tradition.  I don’t want, need or even appreciate anything on that day from anyone professing to love me.  Do it another day when the rest of the world isn’t, because you thought of me and wanted me to know you love me.  If you do it for Valentine’s Day, then I cannot help but believe that is the reason you did anything, out of fear of being a dolt and not because there is a true desire to show affection.

2.  What song automatically popped into your head when you saw this question?

Seriously, some dumb song I cannot even sing more than a line or two of because that is all I know, from a goofy animated, singing thing we found at Walgreen’s.  I was out shopping with my sister and I happened upon it.  I suggested my brother needed this at the firehouse to amuse himself and the other firefighters.  Here is a small video clip of the insanity that I took before we dropped it off to him at work yesterday.

3.  What did you have for breakfast today?

Nothing yet other than coffee.  It is only 7:08 and I rarely eat at this hour.  I need to be up a few hours before I can handle food.

4.  Where do you keep your keys?

I keep my keys in my car.  I park in the garage so I see no reason to take them out of the car or then I never seem to be able to locate them!

5.  Who was your favorite teacher from when you were in school?

Mr. Peter from English I and later Creative Writing when in high school.  He always challenged us and he and I would go head to head now and then.  I actually learned much about myself as a person thanks to him those two classes.

#35 ~ 365 Reasons Being Single Rocks

Scheduling Conflicts

#35

Never having to get back to anyone after you chase down your S/O to find out if you are available for parties, showers, movies, whatever it is that needs to be done.

No one bitches because you have to work late, conveniently, on the night of your mother-in-law’s birthday extravaganza…the one that you’d rather have a root canal without the benefit of numbing medications than attend.

It’s YOUR schedule, you fill it in or leave open space as you see fit.

#28 & #29 ~ 365 Reasons Being Single Rocks!

DRAMA!

#28

It happens, this thing called Drama.

For some of us simply waking up means there it is, waiting for our eyes to open.

Others…well they have to try harder I suppose.

Drama is going to happen in a relationship.

Be it with friends of his/hers, family, whatever or whoever, drama will occur.

Unless of course you are single.

No drama with his mama….

or sister, or niece, or whoever.

AHHH!

Holidays

#29

Holidays are stressful enough without trying to split them down the middle.

His parents want you at their house, her parents want you around their table.

No one wants to give, especially the couple, when it comes to traditions.

Our family always does….

Thankfully, when it is just you, there is no need to worry about where  you will spend a holiday or if it can be split in such a way as to make everyone (except the two of you) happy.

#25 ~ 365 Reasons Being Single Rocks!

Tootsies!

#25

Seriously, when was the last time I painted my toes?

Hmmm…..before the camping trip I think, around Halloween.

See, I was dating The Count back then and so I kept the piggies all pretty.

Now that I am single?

Screw it, who cares?  Still a peek of red polish left on a few toes and I just don’t care!

Shelving 2011 ~ Box 30

I follow The Single Woman and that is where I was inspired to come up with this year ending purging from my life. The first post (Life’s Changing Landscape: Shelving 2011) covers the how/why, the rest will be the 31 things I am shelving from 2011 that will not go with me into the new year, the full list of posts pertaining to what I’m purging can be found here: Shelving 2011.

Box 30

WOW, 2nd to last box of the 31 things I plan to leave behind in 2011. 

In this box will go all the grudges I hold against people who have hurt me.

Some were judgmental regarding posts I’ve made, or my past when I returned to church.

Some were people that stabbed me in the back, threw me under the bus, some broke my heart, or otherwise caused me pain.

I could name the names but that wouldn’t really be of any benefit to anyone.  You know who you are and what you did.  If you don’t, well all the better.  I’ve let all this live rent free in my heart and head and it is time to box it up and leave it here in this year.  Everyone gets a clean slate for the new year, bygones are just that, it’s all water under the bridge.

Forgiveness…it isn’t about those that have caused us pain, it is about US.  About ME.  And I am letting go of it all, it is just not worth the energy to hang on to past inflictions. I’ve learned and accept that some people are just assholes and that is okay.  You can be one, outside of my head and heart.

So, into the box goes the grudges, and the void left behind by those is filled with forgiveness and grace.  When I am tempted to pull the tape off the seal and open that box, instead I will pray for that person.

Shelving 2011 ~ Box 28

I follow The Single Woman and that is where I was inspired to come up with this year ending purging from my life. The first post (Life’s Changing Landscape: Shelving 2011) covers the how/why, the rest will be the 31 things I am shelving from 2011 that will not go with me into the new year, the full list of posts pertaining to what I’m purging can be found here: Shelving 2011.

Box 28

My vanity is where it all happens in the morning.

My vanity

I sip coffee while putting on my face for the day, then drying my hair and applying whatever goop is going to be in it today.  It is my magical place because I am transformed from a sleepy, kinda pale looking zombie, into the marvelous and beautiful creature you see in person (if you know me).  Kinda of like Monsters Inc. to Cinderella or Snow White.  It is an amazing process.

Trouble is that the drawer of the vanity is a complete mess.  My buddy over at Martinis Needed would go into a full blown OCD melt down if she had to find anything in that drawer.  Needless to say this can slow a Diva down when she is trying to make awesome in a brief period of time before the baby arrives for the day to spit up all over said princess type.  I lead a very tough life.

So, Box 28 will be all of the crap in that drawer (i.e. old makeup, unused stuff etc) finding it’s way into the trash can.  I think I heard applause from down in the family room…

I will give you a peek into the drawer in question.

The drawer of the vanity

See…it really needs some…help.

Cleaning out that drawer will make my life so much easier.

Shelving 2011 ~ Box 27

I follow The Single Woman and that is where I was inspired to come up with this year ending purging from my life. The first post (Life’s Changing Landscape: Shelving 2011) covers the how/why, the rest will be the 31 things I am shelving from 2011 that will not go with me into the new year, the full list of posts pertaining to what I’m purging can be found here: Shelving 2011.

Box 27

Oh Tumblr, you are kinda cool and all, but really not feeling the love here.  I have tried very hard to like you, get into you, form a tight and lasting bond with you.  But, my confusing love, just not having any desire to update you or follow anyone on there with your assistance.  I think I will have to box you up now too and send you away.  I’m sorry, we both tried hard to make it work, but just not seeing the need to keep you in  my life, making me feel guilty for not updating you, paying you the proper  attention.  Thanks for the memories!

Yes, it is over.  I tried Tumblr, really tried to like it.  I am still at a loss as to what it’s purpose is in anyone’s life?  If I have any type of social media account I feel the need to update it and use it.  I’m finding this one to be more of a pain in the tush than it is worth.  I get nothing of value from it and waste time I cannot retrieve.  So, that one gets the box too.

Shelving 2011 ~ Boxes 19, 20 and 21

I follow The Single Woman and that is where I was inspired to come up with this year ending purging from my life. The first post (Life’s Changing Landscape: Shelving 2011) covers the how/why, the rest will be the 31 things I am shelving from 2011 that will not go with me into the new year, the full list of posts pertaining to what I’m purging can be found here: Shelving 2011.

Box 19

Empire Avenue….you fill up my inbox with emails about who bought shares in me or traded my shares.  I didn’t even know what it was when I signed up and the more I see, the less I care.  Time waster with absolutely NO purpose.  At least none I can see, so that is going on the shelf. Now if I can just figure out how to delete my account!

Box 20

News twitter accounts and Facebook accounts – I am so done following them.  My feeds fill up with all kinds of “breaking news” that frankly isn’t worth knowing.  And one local news chain has 3 twitter accounts, one for news, traffic and weather.  They tweet the same stupid information across all 3!  I follow weather to get weather, not traffic.  So, bye bye to all of it.  When I want to know what is going on in the world I will go to their sites to look.  No more weeding through things I just don’t care about!

Box 21

Sleeping in…excessively.  I’ve spent several days peeling the paint off the ceiling of my room way past when I needed to be in bed.  My normal rising time during the week is 5:30am.  It gives me time to shower, dress, check emails and allow coffee to pass the blood brain barrier so I can function enough to ensure I diaper the right end of the babies.  :)   7:30am is sleeping in, by 2 hours.  Time to start pulling out of the rack so that the day is not a waste of time.  Too much to accomplish!

Hopping Around Friday

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friday favorite things | finding joy

I love blog hops, I’m jumping into 3 different ones today so if  you see one that looks like  you want in just click the associated button/image and jump on board!

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Each week, Feeling Beachie will plan on listing four statements with a blank for you to fill in on your own blogs. If you want to join the fun and come up with four fill in’s of your own, please email them to her at feelingbeachie@gmail.com. If she uses them, she will add you as co-host to the hop!

1.       ____ is my ideal winter night.

2.       I don’t remember the last time I ___ but, I really want to.

3.       I will never turn down __________

4.      To save money I like to ____________

My Answers:

1.  Curled  up with a cup of flavored coffee, in front of the fireplace in the family room with the other Divas (mom, sister, 2 nieces) laughing and watching TV while I crochet a blanket is my ideal winter night.  For now, as I’m not in a relationship with anyone of the male side of the species.

2.  I don’t remember the last time I heard my son play the bagpipes but, I really want to!  He plays the highland pipes and is in the Cincinnati Emerald Society. He used to play with the Sheriff’s dept. pipe band but being on road patrol he really doesn’t have the ability to be away for events the department band participates in.  He is getting married on St. Patrick’s Day 2012, maybe he’ll play at the reception….

3.  I will never turn down dark chocolate.  I LOVE it and if it is there in front of me, I’m going to eat it.  Life is too short to worry about a few extra calories, especially if it happens to be an Esther Price dark chocolate candy, YUM!

4.  To save money I like to invite people over with food and drinks to watch football games.  While I enjoy the game in a sports bar full of cheering fans, or a good seat at the game with 65,000 screaming fans, I prefer to save money and enjoy the games with friends and family at home.  Not to mention the bathroom is clean and has no line.

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Welcome to Five Question Friday!! You’ve come to the right place if you want a fun, easy post or if you’ve suddenly discovered your muses have been Christmas baking and are covered in flour and chocolate.
Rules for 5QF: Copy and paste the following questions to your blog post, answer them, then watch for the linky post to appear Friday morning and LINK UP!
Oh, and remember (pay close attention…this is the important one)…HAVE FUN!
1. What’s the best Christmas present you’ve ever received?

2. Worst/Funniest White Elephant gift ever received?

3. Is your Christmas tree plain and simple (white lights and matching ornaments) or is it wild and crazy (colored lights with lots of ornaments collected over the years)?

4. “How” do you iron your clothes? The old fashioned iron/ironing board way, the shower, back in the dryer, etc.

5. How much baking do you do for Christmas and what are your “must make” items? (I’m looking for recipes here, peeps…)

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1.  What’s the best Christmas present you’ve ever received?

Wow, that would have to be the I received and gave to someone else.  I gave a child up for adoption at 16yo.  She was born the day after Christmas and was just beautiful.  I knew I was just a kid and not ready to be a mom, and that on a waiting list somewhere was a couple that desperately wanted a daughter.  Giving her life and giving someone else that life to have as their own changed me in many ways that I cannot even begin to explain, all good though.  Sometimes the best gift is the one you give to another.

2.  Worst/Funniest White Elephant gift ever received?

Wow this probably sounds crazy, but I’ve never participated in one that I really remember, nothing stands out.  My sister did though, and it was a clock, still in the package, and it didn’t work.  We hung it up for a while, we thought it was amusing.

3.  Is your Christmas tree plain and simple (white lights and matching ornaments) or is it wild and crazy (colored lights with lots of ornaments collected over the years)?

Actually…both. Though the ornaments collected over the years are with my ex husband and daughter in the marital residence on their tree.  When mom, me, my sister and her 2 daughters bought a house and moved in together, last year was our first Christmas here together in The Diva Den.  We have a living room and family room so we put the tree with white lights in the living room.  We have started collecting “girlie” Diva like ornaments (glittery shoes etc) for that tree.  In the family room is the tree with colored lights and a hodge podge of different ornaments.

4.  “How” do you iron your clothes?  The old fashioned iron/ironing board way, the shower, back in the dryer, etc.

Good grief cannot recall the last time I actually ironed something!  Been a few years that is for certain.  Permanent press is my way to iron, so if all else fails it goes back into the dryer for a bit.  If it is something that NEEDS to be iron, the dry cleaners does it cheap enough that I’ll drop it there.

5.  How much baking do you do for Christmas and what are your “must make” items?

I haven’t done holiday baking for many years now.  I have an old Mirro Cookie Press, the kind you build muscles twisting to push out the dough through little cookie forms.  The Christmas trees per the recipe in the box are the one cookie I must make if I’m going to bake.  My son can sit down and eat several dozen in a sitting, he even has been known to ask for them throughout the year.  My daughter will handle that, along with my niece, here in the Diva Den this weekend.  And they’ll make pies. YUM!  However for the most part no one lets me handle sharp objects or use the stove, the local fire boys have to be put on stand-by if I’m cooking/baking.

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friday favorite things | finding joy

Want to join? — simply write a list of your favorite moments from the week {or a favorite picture or post or even little notes like I did today}, then click the picture/button and go link up!

As my broken heart is healing from the end of the relationship with the Count, many of The Single Woman’sblogs and Tweets, as well as things I see on MyStandards Tumblr account are jumping out at me as things I need to remember.  Here are some of those:

TheSingleWoman™

“Perfect” doesn’t mean “Perfect for YOU.” Don’t settle for someone just ‘cuz u can’t think of a reason NOT to.

Being the author of your own life gives u permission to write anyone you choose OUT of the script at any time.

No one is responsible for your happiness except YOU. Stop making excuses & start making changes.

Genuinely wanting to be with someone is love. Not wanting to be without someone is co-dependence.

Your circumstances don’t DEFINE u, but REFINE u..turning the ashes of your past into the diamonds of your future.

The most radiant woman in the room is the one full of life and experience. ~Sharon Stone

Sometimes God takes away everything you thought you wanted to bring you everything you ever dreamed of :)

Dear So and So….

Dear So and So...

Dear Rumpke,

It is that time of year again when we open windows to sleep.  So, in advance of the coming late Spring and into Summer, we need to talk.  I  don’t know why you insist on collecting the trash on our street at 4:30am, but surely we can come to some kind of compromise regarding the loud radio and slamming cans around while out there.  I get that you might not like your job, or being at work so early.  But let me remind you that YOU chose this career, not me.  I opted for one that allows me to sleep until 6:30 and I would thank you to keep in mind that while you are outside in the street waking the dead, I am trying to get my beauty rest.  For the sake of the health and safety of all I must come in contact with on Fridays, KEEP IT DOWN OUT THERE!

Kind Regards,

One mean, wicked bitch if I don’t get enough sleep!

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Dear Marvelous Offspring, of  Whom I Am SO Proud and Love So Much,

YES! That really is what I want for Mother’s Day.  That is it, very simple, 1.5 hours of your life for one morning.  It is the least you can do to show how much you love the woman that went through 14 hours of intense, painful suffering to bring you each into this world, then lost countless hours of sleep that I can never get back, and after all the times I was pooped on, peed on, puked on and otherwise ran through the mill raising you.  And I still lose sleep praying for and worrying about you both! (guilt intended)

Thanks with so much love,

Your Mother

My Favorite Valentine’s Day Tradition

My favorite Valentine tradition…is the boycott.  The UN-Valentine celebration.  Yes, for nearly 22 years of marriage, I did NOT want anything for Valentine’s Day.  And I never will want anything.

See, to me it is a big scam.  Once a year, men and women who normally do nothing special for their honey-baby-mine outside of birthdays and Christmas, are guilt driven by displays shoving it down their throats some creative marketing to do something to prove their love.  They don’t do it because they were driving home from work, or out running errands and thought, “wow, I love my sweet schnookems, I think a little token of my love is in order“, at which time they buy a card, or candy bar, or flowers, and surprise their dear, sweet cupcake.  The only reason they think to buy love  gifts is because everyone else is doing it so there is pressure.  Not only from store displays, but billboards, TV  and radio commercials.

Let me help you realize something…people  don’t feel special if you are guilted in to doing something for them, no matter where the pressure is coming from.  Special is being the only woman in an office building of hundreds that gets flowers, out of the blue, for NO reason other than being loved by someone who was thinking about you.  It isn’t special when there are 50 florist delivery trucks in and out of the complex dropping off flowers for dozens of women because for a change their man did something special.  Not to mention that for what he paid for those flowers on Valentine’s Day he could have sent her flowers 4 different times on other days.  The prices are jacked up because it is a heavily promoted scam to bilk a bunch of money out of people.

If I am special, I want those unnecessary tokens (unnecessary because one’s kiss, touch, hug, attention etc should speak their affection on a daily basis, with some passion and feeling and not just when they want a little some-some) when no one else is getting them.  I want it to be because I was thought of and as a surprise (it isn’t a surprise if everyone is doing it on a national holiday) not because it is expected.  If it takes a month of advertising to bring me to mind  enough to pressure someone into spending far more than they would if they thought of me on their own..then I must not be that special and would rather they just didn’t bother.

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