Wine & Cheese ~ 74th Serving

wine n cheeseWelcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.

Every week on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times.

I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs.

I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well.

I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal.

If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings.

Sit back and join me now for the 74th serving of some wine and cheese!

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:(  I have been up to my eyeballs in crisis management of sorts.  Where to begin?

:(  Dad is adjusting to the nursing home, and while he looks SO good and just over all is in such better health now that he isn’t smoking or drinking, gets good meals etc, it is still hard to see him there in a nursing home.  Mind you, this place is top notch, like what I figure rich folks would be happy residing within the walls. The place is AWESOME!  But still, he no longer can get anywhere quickly, even with his walker.  And while he has more freedom in many ways (he can now attend mass daily, has friends and isn’t lonely in that big house by himself), he doesn’t feel like he did in his own home.  I know that I’m facing his mortality head on too.  That is difficult.

:(  Mom is recovering like a champ from her last cancer surgery, but again, facing the fact that she isn’t going to live forever is not fun.

:(  I am SO strapped for cash right now that it isn’t even funny.  So any blip on the “you need money to pay for this” radar screen is going to have to crash and burn, I have nothing period!  So a kitten who suddenly stops playing, sits in one place for hours and hours and is drooling like a faucet was enough to have me in tears all the way to work Tuesday.  The story on KLOVE for their Home For the Holidays contest broke the damn resulting in  a river of tears for 28 miles.

:(  I think one of my cats has fleas.  Which no doubt means the other cat does too. SIGH.  That other cat, every couple of days pukes up what she eats, just once for the day, if I feed them canned food. But still, nothing says “YUCK” like feline “feels like cold oatmeal” barf on the rug. Ewwwwww.  The dog, I believe she has mange.  Again. Attacking that as best I can but finding time to bathe her in the special shampoo that I am nearly out of (and it ain’t cheap) is hard to do right now.  Then the kitten. Oh that little bad ass dare devil.  She took a 12 foot fall and failed to land on her little feet.  Thankfully she will be okay, thanks to a critter angel I cannot thank enough (she footed the vet bill).  But she has some injury to her back right leg, and her jaw.  Nothing broken but very tender and she must have been in a lot of pain because she was salivating like she was being paid by the drop.   “Welcome to our zoo, stop by the gift shop for Avon, jewelry candles, and hippie oils and scents.” (That was courtesy of the Knight who thinks he is SO funny).

This is the Anderson Ferry, the same one that carried the semi that I was certain would be certain death.

This is the Anderson Ferry, the same one that carried the semi that I was certain would be certain death.

:(  My trip to get the kitten checked out required leaving work early to go 28 miles home, then get the kitten and head back to Ohio to the vet.  To cut the distance and time in half if I took the ferry over the Ohio River.  Now mind you, I don’t LIKE the ferry much.  I am not a fan of any body of water I cannot see the bottom, and fast moving, debris filled rivers are high on the list.  But it is the quickest way to the west side of Cincinnati from where I am in Kentucky.  So, I pull up to wait on the ferry, and 2 vehicles ahead of me is a semi.  My jaw dropped.  My thought was “no way pal, they are NOT going to let that big ass truck on that boat, ain’t happening sucker.”  The driver, once the ferry arrived from Ohio and emptied of cars, flagged the car ahead of me, me, and the guy behind me, around him.  This seemed to confirm for me that he was not going to be riding the ferry with his truck.  Usually when you board the ferry, they fill the middle, then each of the sides.  This time?  They had us pull one in the middle front, then one on each side of the front, in a neat row.  That is when I realized OH HOLY CRAP they are pulling that damn rig on to this boat.  There is no turning back now.  And with that, I feel the truck start to get onto the ferry, and the front end of the boat lifts up out of the water as the truck slowly inches aboard.  As it got further on, in the middle, things returned to normal but much lower in the water.  More cars now got on either side, and then we began to move SLOWLY across the river, my thought? OMG WE’RE ALL GOING TO DIE!!!!!  I was certain the ferry would sink and my kitten and I were bound for the pearly gates.


:)  No matter how insane life is, mine is so full of blessings that I am never lacking for something to be thankful for each day.

:)  While mom won’t live forever, and 3.5 years ago I was feeling embarrassed and like some kind of failure having to move in with my mom after my divorce, I was able to spend so much quality time with her, my sister and nieces.  We all laughed daily, the memories I have of the Diva Den are priceless ones.  And now, once again, just as mom says, “wait a  year, the landscape of your life will be very different than it is now”, mine has changed and it is awesome.

:)  I love coming through the cut in the hill on 75N in the morning and the first sight of the city of Cincinnati is gorgeous.  Either lit up when it was dark (before the time changed), or as the very first light of the sun is starting to touch the faces of the buildings along the river front, it always makes me smile. I love my home town!  Sure, I moved away, to northern Kentucky, but now I get to see this view of my beloved city every morning.

:)  While it IS a pain to have to confine the kitten to our room and have her walking all over us while we’re trying to sleep…there is something so priceless about waking up to find her snuggled in against my stomach or my boyfriend’s back, sleeping deep and contently.  You can’t buy that in a store!

:)  A hot, fresh cup of coffee first thing in the morning. Simple things just make my day.



Wine & Cheese ~ 70th Serving

wine n cheeseWelcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.

Every week on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times.

I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs.

I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well.

I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal.

If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings.

Sit back and join me now for the 70th serving of some wine and cheese!

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:(  I really have NO tolerance for stupid drivers.  On the way in today, on the highway doing 70mph, I watched a semi barely avoid running into the rear end of a car in the lane 2 over from mine.  I have NO idea what the moron was doing, but he found himself on the tail end of the car in front of him and without looking swerved to his right barely missing the car as he shot into the other lane to his right.  Fortunately there was no one in that lane or he’d have caused a major accident.  Seriously people, put the damn cell phones down, books (yes I have seen people driving and reading books or newspapers!), makeup (really ladies, no one at the office needs to be that impressed that it’s worth risking your life and mine – paint the face at home or in the parking lot at the office) and just DRIVE!

:(  While I do love summer, not real fond of storms.  Severe ones could happen today, and I dislike that.  Yet we need that kind of weather here at work.  Severe storms mean lightening that causes house fires, and wind damage.  We get paid to fix the damage left behind.  We need it but I don’t have to like it.

:(  Missing my honey.  Long hours this week mean we see each other as we’re crawling into bed at night.  Though if I have to chose between times to be apart, I do prefer to sleep next to him at night, I feel much safer that way, than be alone over night.


:)  Got to see some of the Tribe last night from the direct sales circles.  Love my gal-pals and it just motivated me all the more!  And I signed up for another direct sales business…jerky!  WOOHOO!  I couldn’t help it, $12 to start another business was too good to pass up and I know SO many folks that love good beef, buffalo and turkey jerky.  They even have jerky for cats and dogs.  LOVE it!  And yes, if you want to sign up under me, I’d love to have you in my downline, just go to my site and follow the links!

:)  It’s COLD in this office and I am so happy about that.  No complaints, as outside it is SO humid.  I don’t mind, but as one of my favorite weather forecasters here in Cincy said, outside it is “air you can wear”.

:)  I got my new jammies in my Avon order.  I know that is crazy, but I really do LOVE jammies.  Modest, fun lounge wear styles that I can sport while I take the dog out to pee without giving the old guy next door heart failure.  I may buy a second pair of these, they are so cute.  Coca-Cola ones from Avon.  They will be in an upcoming brochure for those wanting to buy some.  :)

:)  It’s dinner with the Divas today.  I enjoy my family and while I’m bummed that I cannot be there with my honey, it is nice to have my Diva time with my mom and sister.



Oops…almost forgot.

This made me laugh out loud, I’ve watched it several times. Enjoy!

Friday Confessional


It is time to slide into the confessional and let it all out again.  Mamarazzi is on a blog break so they are linking up over at High Heeled Love.  Come on, you know you have  stuff to get off your chest!

:)  Naughty – Oh I have been a really bad girl this week….yes really bad.  I went and got myself involved in one of these time wasting, online games.  On Facebook.  I am so darn stuck in FarmVille2 that when I’m out running errands I have this nagging thought in the back of my brain that I might have forgotten to harvest something and will return to a field of withered plants.  It is just pathetic, I know.  They are just computer pixels, not real fruits and veggies, yet I let this eat at me.
:)  I didn’t care – Okay, I confess.  The Cincinnati Reds were in the baseball playoffs…and I did not give a flying frog’s butt.  Really.  I am a hometown girl, I love my city and our teams, but it is October.  WHY is the baseball season so long now??  It used to be long over by now didn’t it?  Sorry but it is FOOTBALL season now, I don’t care anymore about baseball, those are the boys of summer.  I also wasn’t the least bit surprised they choked and blew it in the final game yesterday.  And I just didn’t care.

:)  Meat – as in deer, ground venison.  My son got his first deer of the season and brought his mama a few pounds.  It is going to be mixed into my now famous, black bean chili.  I will use both the venison and ground round, but not going to tell anyone around here in the Diva Den.  They’ll only know if they read this today.  But bet me they will forget by the time I get around to making it.  Waaahaaaahaaaaa……

:)  Over Indulgence – I’m using donating blood today as an excuse to over eat.  Cannot have me passing out and hitting floor, right?

10 Restaurants I Love

As part of the 100 Things I Love, here is a list of 10 restaurants that I just love!

  1. Chipotle Mexican Grill – this is the top of the food chain for me.  LOVE this place.  My all time favorite dish is the steak bowl, with white rice, black beans, corn salsa and cheese.  It must be eaten with chips, and a plastic fork.  Not sure why the plastic fork, it is an OCD thing with me, I cannot ever eat it with a metal fork for some reason. Go figure.  I cannot live anywhere that does not have a Chipotle.
  2. Holy Grail - West - LOVE this place!  Great place to catch any sport on TV, eat awesome food and drink a few cold ones. Love the atmosphere.  I prefer to sit outside on the patio so needless to say it is a favorite in the nice weather.  LOVE me some Goebel’s Reuben Wontons!
  3. Price Hill Chili – You cannot live on the west side of Cincinnati and not eat here.  If you move to the west side, you cannot be an official west sider (the best side of the city by the way) until you’ve had your first meal here.  They have way many more things to eat than chili.  Every political candidate that rolls through our town has to eat here, famous people come to town and eat here. Go figure.  It is THE place to run into someone you know, so it is not recommended if you are having an affair on your significant other.
  4. Dancing Wasabi – I only just became a sushi lover this year, thanks to my daughter.  OMG this is amazing. LOVE the atmosphere and the food.  She has me hooked on sushi now!
  5. Drew’s On The River – Nothing beats a few cold ones and whatever sounds yummy to eat while watching the river traffic or a live band.  Another great place to be outside when the weather is nice. Nothing fancy, just a fun place.
  6. Skyline Chili – If you are going to be in Cincinnati, the best chili ever is Skyline.  It is a Cincinnati thing and it is GOOD stuff.  4-way bean for me.  What that means to those unfamiliar, spaghetti noodles with the chili, beans and cheese.  Only way to eat it in my opinion.  Skip the onions, rude to talk after you have eaten it with onions.  Besides that would be a 5-way if you add onions and I’m trying to watch my hour glass figure.
  7. Sebastian’s is next on the list.  Simply the very best Gyros around, ever!  Trust me I have had them all over, and no one makes a gyro this good, that simple!
  8. Plaza Vallarta here in my township is the best Mexican around. Love this place, the chips and salsa are great and the service is pretty impressive.  My favorite place when I have a hankering for some steak fajitas.
  9. Nicholson’s Tavern & Pub – “Cincinnati’s First and Finest Gastropub” is amazing!  More upscale than the other places I love to eat, you’d want to go business casual, or at the least your best dress jeans.  I’ve seen  my fair share of kilts and bagpipes in there as well.  The food is amazing.
  10. White Castle – Not something I want often, as you can feel it clogging every major blood vessel and you will burp up the flavor the rest of the day, but they (sliders) are SO good.  I hear that they are awesome for a hangover too,  not that I would have any experience in that area.

That pretty much rounds out my favorite places to eat.  My top 10 anyway, as far as home town munching!


Wednesday Hodgepodge

I found another great hop/meme recently, so jumping on board and linking up with Joyce, From This Side Of The Pond.  Click the badge above to link up or check out her page. She posts the questions for volume 69 of Wednesday Hodgepodge so here it is:

1. Did March come in like a lion or was it something less ferocious in your neck of the woods?

On March 2nd, it roared in like a lion on crack!  Tornadoes blew in Friday and while we dodged the bullet because they hit all around us (115 miles west, 27 miles south, and 27 miles east) it still rattles my cage when these happen.  And 4 weeks before the start of tornado season in this area.  Then we woke up to a light blanket of snow on Monday.  Go figure.  I’m very hopeful that this is not a sign of the weather to come this spring, I hate storms and very afraid of severe weather.

2.  Speaking of lions, which one’s your film favorite…The Cowardly Lion (Wizard of Oz), Mufasa (The Lion King), Elsa (Born Free) or Alex (Madagascar). You might notice I left Aslan off the list. Including him would have made this question way too easy for many of you.

My favorite is Mufasa from The Lion King.  I loved the movie over all because I felt like it was a good lesson in doing what is right even when it take us out of our comfort zone.  Sometimes it means having to go back and right apparent wrongs but it is important.

3.  What’s your favorite spot from which to view the sunrise or sunset?

Both from the sands of the beach.  I think the beach is God’s therapy couch for us.  Sitting and listening to the waves hitting the shore is so therapeutic and when you toss in a beautiful sunrise or sunset there is just no way things cannot look so much better.

4.  To what extent is knowledge power and to what extent is truth power? What is the difference?

Knowledge is useless without action.  As a team leader in a direct selling business I see this a lot.  There are so many books, interviews, etc from speakers and authors that can arm my team with all they need to know to be successful, but until they put that into action, it isn’t powerful at all.  I think it applies pretty much to any situation, all the knowledge available us useless until we USE it, then it is very powerful and can change lives.

Truth is critical.  Lies, deceit and fabrication are dangerous.  Truth allows us to make informed decisions.  Truth IS knowledge but again, knowing the truth and not using it renders it worthless.

5.  What is something peculiar you’ve seen recently?

Exploding manhole covers!  I didn’t actually see it in person, but rather on the news this morning, from yesterday in our downtown area.  The story carries a viewer video of one of the explosions.  Very scary really, thankfully no one was driving over the cover when it blew!

6.  Bottle water…your thoughts?

Well, in countries where the water is not well filtered, an excellent idea.  When in Mexico I even brushed my teeth with bottled water (imported from the U.S.).  But locally our water is very well treated and frankly I’m too cheap to spend the money on bottled water.  I will fill a water bottle for convenience when I want to take some with me to walk or driving around because it is healthier than drinking soda, but I don’t make a big deal out of tap water vs. bottled.

7.  What is your strongest sense?

Yikes good question.  Probably my ‘6th sense’.  That gut feeling that often guides us out of trouble.  God? Mother’s intuition? Better judgment? Whatever you want to call it, that is my strongest when I pay attention to it.  It has kept me out of trouble and bad situations when I’ve followed it, and I’ve regretted when I did not.

8.  Insert your own random thought here:

Oatmeal.  Yes that is the random thought that just blew through my brain (it is a rather roomy place lately as I seem to have missed placed much of it as menopause is creeping in).  Thinking old fashioned, cooked on the stove top, oatmeal. Yum!


10 Foods I Love

As a part of the 100 Things I Love series, here are 10 foods I love.  Not necessarily in any particular order, and by no means an exhaustive list!

  1. Chipotle Steak Bowl – you just knew that would be #1, if you know me.  Steak bowl, brown rice, black beans, corn salsa and cheese.  I use the tortilla chips to scoop it up and eat it, much better than a fork and adds some crunch to the meal!
  2. Mom’s homemade bean soup – it is SO good and has a strange memory attached.   The super tornado outbreak on April 3, 1974 made bean soup a food memory.  My mom was making it when we got home from school that day.  Every time the tornado sirens went off she had to turn it off as we headed for the basement.  We now swear in order to make it right, you have to keep turning it off throughout the cooking process.
  3. Black Bean Chili – it came about one time when the ex hubster and I were going to try to make his chili recipe and we had black beans rather than chili beans on hand.  So we used them.  I’ve changed it up some and made it a slightly sweet chili, not spicy hot, but very yummy.  It is a much loved and requested meal in the Diva Den.
  4. Lime Garlic Chicken – mom has a fantastic recipe for it, it is a total Diva Den favorite.
  5. Strawberry Almond Salad – this is a warm weather favorite around here.  Chicken, poppy seed dressing, strawberries, oranges, almonds over lettuce (cannot recall what else is in it).  It is a huge hit at my sister’s former employer’s cafe so she learned how to make it and now it is a big hit here. We all over eat when that is served.
  6. Cheese Burger Soup – a woman at my former church used to make this and it is to die for good.  The ex got the recipe and would make it for football game parties at the house or tailgating at the Bengal games.  I think I need to have my daughter get me a copy. Or maybe the ex will just email it…
  7. Weight Watchers Cabbage Soup – who knew, it is SO good! And supposedly one of those things you can eat all you want.
  8. Gyros – but ONLY from Sebastian’s here in Cincinnati, on the west side of town.  They are without a doubt the very best ever.
  9. Tuna Casserole – I know, totally crazy simple, but my mom makes a good one. It’s comfort food!
  10. Oatmeal – not the instant crap, but the old fashioned, cooked on the stove top kind.  I little dark brown sugar and some walnuts mixed in…YUM!

10 Websites I Love

As a part of the 100 Things I Love series, here are 10 websites I love.  Not necessarily in any particular order, and by no means and exhaustive list! I am going to do a 10 blogs I love to read another time so this won’t include blogs.  It doesn’t include social media either, that is another category on it’s own. :)

  1. The Cincinnati Fire Department History site is one of my favorite. I have 2 brothers and 2 ex husbands that are fire fighters so I have an appreciation for the profession.  The webmaster of this site did a lot of hard work and still adds things to it.  If you are a fire history buff check it out, you won’t be disappointed.
  2. My favorite place to hunt for bargains is Woot as I have found some awesome deals there.  It has to be checked daily and most days I don’t find anything I necessarily want but every so often there is a great deal on good wine or electronics that I just have to purchase!
  3. My latest addiction is Pinterest, a virtual pin board for sticking photos that link me to fashion, food, recipes, quotes, decorating ideas etc that I want to keep track of for future use.  MUCH nicer than saving them in my bookmarks on my browser.
  4. At the moment my Avon site is definitely on top as it is my income aside from daycare and the key to my future.  I love this job and love the products.  Visit me, you can order on the site and have it shipped directly to you, and your business is very much appreciated!
  5. A proud westsider in Cincinnati, I love my local community paper to keep up on what is going on around me.  I can read the e-edition flipping ‘pages’ and seeing the actual paper itself.
  6. I also very much enjoy my township’s webpage to stay up to date on my community.
  7. While I LOVE my Kindle, there is still something that draws me to the library. The Cincinnati Public Library site is one of my top 10 because sometimes buying books for Kindle isn’t in the budget.  Not to mention there is no cluttering up the house, read ‘em and return ‘em. There are events held at the library so I use  the site not only the check for a book but to see what is going on at the local branch.  Or just go curl up in a corner in my favorite land of books to read.
  8. That brings me to my library’s downloadable site for those times when I just want to borrow a book on Kindle and not have to go out to get it or worry about returning it on time.  I need a line item in my budget for over due fees!  Free is always good!
  9. No top 10 would be complete without Google as I use it daily, multiple times a day!
  10. And last but not least Amazon is critical if I do wish to purchase a book for my Kindle, not to mention a bunch of other great things!

10 Activities I love

As a part of the 100 Things I Love series, here are 10 activities I love.  Not necessarily in any particular order, and by no means and exhaustive list!

  1. The Museum Center – I LOVE going to the Cincinnati Museum Center,  so much so that I purchased a single season pass for myself, with parking!  I enjoy looking at the various exhibits of Cincinnati’s history, as well as other parts of the museum.  I also enjoy the films in the Omnimax theater.  I could spend hours just looking at the model of this city from years gone by, each time I go I notice  something new.  When done, I enjoy the gift shop, I could spend hours in the book section!  If you go with me be prepared to spend time READING about things in the exhibits, I don’t like to just wander through, I want to learn!
  2. Moonlight Tour of Spring Grove Cemetery – This past year I went for the first time and it is a definite must do again.  I had no idea how much history is in that cemetery and under the moonlight it is just beautiful.  And yes a tad spooky but that makes it fun!  I toured the Civil War section and next year will be certain to sign up for a different tour (they offer a number for the moonlight tour night) to learn even more about those buried there.
  3. Picnics for two – A beautiful day, a good friend (male of course), a basket full good foods and some wine.  Laying on a blanket enjoying the shade and breeze.  Talking or silently napping on a sleepy afternoon, that to me is a great time.
  4. Small towns - I enjoy walking through small, historic towns like Aurora or Madison Indiana.  Shops, a little pub for lunch, just a lazy day of walking around enjoying the sights and sounds.
  5. Motorcycles – Nothing says de-stress like a ride on a motorcycle.  Wind in my hair, wrapped around a friend and riding like it’s what we are paid to do.  My best times with a dear friend have been days when we rode the entire day, a few hundred miles and some relaxing places along the way.  I’ve only really trusted 2 men to ride me, the ex and Mr. Wonderful.  Hoping for some warm days and LONG rides again in the Spring.
  6. Darts – as in throwing them.  I suck big time but I enjoy it.  I am the only person I know that can hit a trash can 10 feet away from the dart board and at floor level, but I did it!  I got into it while dating a friend, now my son tries to help me when we go out for a few beers to catch up.  It’s sad though very funny to watch.
  7. Walking – I love to walk, but really don’t do it enough.  Great time to clear the mind, work through a problem, or talk to a friend.  There are two parks near me that have walking areas.  One is just a track with a few hills but nothing major, next to the Ohio River so I can watch the river traffic.  The plus is the trains come through on the other side and I LOVE trains so it is a great place to walk.  The other park has trails, with gravel paths.  More than a few hills, some are serious butt-kickers, through the woods, over a creek…it is a wonderful place to walk if it isn’t wet out.  Good exercise.
  8. Watching TV – not many things I like to watch, but when I do, I have a select few shows that will land me on the couch to view:  CSI, CSI:NY, NCIS, NCIS LA, Blue Bloods, Criminal Minds and football.  These are about the only things I will take the time to watch on TV.  Usually this is a Diva gathering with mom, sis and the nieces, popcorn and some beer.
  9. Bowling – again, I totally suck at bowling but I enjoy it.  My sister and I were in a league for a while, with the ex-hubby and my kids.  It was a good time but haven’t been in one in a long while.  I think I might need to take that up again!
  10. Crocheting – My hook and some yarn are always a great way to relax.  Lately I have 8 projects in the works and none is close to complete (except for Mario’s Bengal blanket).  I am not sure why but I seem to have a touch of ADD of late and just cannot seem to get focused on them.  I need to get at it again, best way to watch TV without feeling like I’m lazy and doing nothing constructive is to work on a blanket.

The Gift I Most Want

Every year the stress is there of finding those perfect gifts for those I love.  Most everyone I know has everything that they NEED, so what is left is their want list, which is subject to change with every flip of the Sunday paper inserts for what is on sale.  Or a walk through the local mall.

Most years I manage  to find the funds without taking out a loan, to purchase what everyone WANTS.  But this year it will be a lean Christmas, at least as far as money is concerned.  Funny thing, it seems to be going around.  When one woman will spray others with pepper spray to get the item she is wanting to purchase on Black Friday, or two grown men will come to blows over a Barbie Doll (happened here at Walmart in Cincinnati), that tells me that it is more than just getting the must haves.  This seems more and more to be about money.  People are strapped and some flat out broke this holiday season.  Nothing puts stress on a person and a fight between folks like money…or rather the lack of it.

On Thanksgiving my brother, his amazing girlfriend (my future sister-in-law), Angie, and my brother’s kids were here for dinner, along with my dad.  After dinner my son and his fiance and my future granddaughter came over, and my daughter.  Later my other brother arrived with his wife and one of their kids.  Sitting there in the living room with all of these various folks, sharing memories and laughs, I realized that it wasn’t about the traditional meal of turkey and fixings at all.  Thanksgiving was about taking time out of our busy lives to come together and be a family and share time and ourselves with the people we love.  It would not have mattered if we had spaghetti or turkey, what mattered was it was a day to enjoy being together.

I am a very blessed woman, I  have a very good relationship with my siblings, their significant others, and the rest of my family.  I have extremely fond memories of a childhood that while perhaps lean on money, was abundant in love and laughter.  You can buy a lot of things with money, but you cannot run down to Macy’s and purchase what I have…a somewhat dysfunctional, crazy, fun, and LOVING family.  Not for one minute have I ever doubted that my parents love me, or my siblings.  I might never have made “Mom Of The  Year” but I am pretty certain my children know that while I fell short in many areas as a parent, I love them more than life itself.

My ex-husband and I never bought each other things for Christmas, we felt we had everything we needed and when we wanted something we went out and got it.  Well as soon as the funds were available.  All  I ever really wanted from him was to know I was loved, to live  without doubt, to have a stocking full of reassurance that no one held  his heart but me.  Sadly, that is the one gift I never was given.  If what he says is true, he never loved me when he married me and didn’t want to marry me.  But it would be the one I treasured most had I received it.

This year, we are way lean in the Diva Den when it comes to money to buy things.  But one thing we are so very wealthy in is love for each other.  Not a day goes by in this house that there is not laughter.  I tweeted this morning that I am truly happy, and I am.  Recently I viewed a video by someone from my past where she said no one is really happy, just satisfied.  That made me sad for her,that she has never really been happy, making it impossible for her to accept that others could really be happy.  I wake every day, granted slower some than others, but I smile each morning, because I am beyond satisfied, I am HAPPY!  Every day one of us if not each of us women still says “gosh I love this house”.  We  are happy here!  Yes it is a great house, but more than the home it is the 3 households that melted and became one big happy family, where all 5 of us are unique, rub each other the wrong way at times, but we love each other.

I don’t want anything this year that can be purchased in a store.  I want those things no one can buy for me.  TIME spent making memories with the people I love.  Cooking together, going to the museum, Festival of Lights (one year me, parents, sibs and offspring rode the train there singing Christmas carols off key, out of tune, and had a blast), church, throwing darts at the bar, snuggled in bed watching TV…whatever the activity, I want the gift that cannot be returned and is gone once it is given except for the warm place in the heart that lives forever as a memory, TIME.  It is way more precious to me and far more appreciated, because when it comes to time with those important to me, there is never enough.

Of Ruby, Hustler and Bagels

I rarely comment publicly about news going on around me, but this time is different, I had to say something.

I am not some huge fan of Jeff Ruby or any of the restaurants he owns.  It isn’t anything personal, to my knowledge I’ve never been in any of them to know if I like them or not.  I’m on a Chipotle kind of budget and his places are a bit out of my price range of what I care to part with over all for a meal.   That may well change now, I’m giving serious thought to sticking my dollars behind him by dining in his establishments.

First I want to make it clear that I DO think Casey Anthony is guilty of killing her child.  However, I also think the prosecution failed to prove it.  It is proven she lied about a lot of things, but unfortunately there is not one solid shred of evidence to prove her guilty of murder.  It sucks, BIG time.  But we cannot go convicting people because our gut instinct screams yes they did it.  We are a civilized society and our justice system requires proof beyond a shadow of a doubt.  Those on trial are supposed to be presumed innocent until PROVEN guilty in a court of law.  The burden of proof is on the prosecution.  I’d far rather a guilty person go free than an innocent soul spend life in prison or be executed for something they did not do.

In comes Jeff Ruby, a well-known figure around the Cincinnati area who has establishments in other cities too.  He kicked OJ Simpson out of his restaurants because he feels that the man is guilty as sin.  Ditto on the feeling of guilt, but I don’t agree with his kicking him out, because again, he was found not guilty whether any of us like it or not.  However, Mr. Ruby is entitled to ban whomever he pleases and I support his right to do so even if I don’t like it.

Larry Flynt,  owner of Hustler magazine and many related adult stores, I don’t care for one bit.  Has zero to do with his profession, as I totally support adults rights to view what they wish.  If that magazine is up to your standards, or movies or whatever he publishes/releases, more power to you.   I personally prefer a hell of a lot more class in what I view  for erotic  entertainment.  But I don’t think, as long as no one is being harmed in the making of the materials, that it is anyone’s business to tell the public that they can or cannot purchase the merchandise.  I say go for it.  Please spare me the crap about it  exploiting women…you are NOT being exploited when you accept money to take your clothes off!  But that is another post for another time.  I do, in my opinion, believe the only reason he  has come to Cincinnati to  stir the pot is for a bunch of free publicity.  Whatever rocks your boat there buddy.  If Simon Leis and the media  would  ignore you, you’d find other places to seek attention to your enterprises.

Larry Flynt supposedly has offered Casey Anth0ny $500,000 to pose in his magazine.  REALLY???  Nothing like profiting off the death of a small child to get a few feathers ruffled.  That shows such a complete lack of class and talk about stooping to all time lows in the name of making a buck.  Frankly, I’d love to see every man in this country, especially the dads out there, let Mr. Flynt know what a scum bag he is by way of their wallets and NOT purchasing that edition.  It is sick beyond words that he would profit off Caylee’s death, or that her mother would.  And yes, that is exactly what he will be doing because had Caylee not died, no one would  know or give a flying frog’s ass who Casey Anthony is or was.  I hope there is a special place in hell for Mr. Flynt  right next to Casey, they deserve it and each other.

Meanwhile Mr. Ruby has taken out an ad, OJ’ing Mr. Flynt from his establishments.  He is no longer welcome in them because he is  trying to profit from this child’s  death by featuring the mom in her birthday suit.   I  don’t have the adjectives to adequately express my opinion of old Larry, but none would be anything positive.  As for Mr. Ruby, I am very thankful  he has taken such a stand.  He did, for the record, per reports, contact Larry boy and ask him NOT to do this, but guess old Lawrence can only see the potential dollar signs.  Bravo to you, Jeff Ruby.

As for John Marx of Marx Hot Bagels in Blue Ash?  I’d rather have a root canal without the benefit of medication to numb the pain than munch on your bagels.  Yes, you are entitled to ban Mr. Ruby for banning Mr. Flynt, but really????  Go  on and get in bed with the likes of Mr.  Simpson and Mr. Flynt,  it speaks volumes to me of your character.

Vanity Crack Supports The Guys In Drag!

If you live on the west side of Cincinnati, you have no doubt heard of the Delhi Skirt Game.  This is the 34th year for this amazing tradition, and they that put it on claim it will be the best one so far, that the first 33 were rehearsal for this one.  One can only imagine!

SO what IS this shin dig?  Why, some of the best men in the Delhi Township area, put on dresses, wigs and makeup, and play softball to raise money that is given to carefully selected individuals in need in the community. The first skirt game was to benefit a teenager that had been paralyzed in an accident, to help with medical expenses.  500 people attended the first game, on September 15, 1977, and $2000 was raised to help the injured youth.  A tradition was born that day on the ball diamond, and the crowd and amount of money raised keeps increasing.  It is one of the best displays of community coming out to support those in need and have a great time.  Oh, and there is NO admission fee.

Many of the fire fighters, police officers, and men associated with the Delhi Athletic Association work hard throughout the year, as a committee, to host this event.  It has become part of the tradition that the game is held the first  Friday evening in August, complete with music, fire works and some local celebrity folk.  WKRC/Channel 12’s Bob Herzog and former WUBE DJ, Amanda Orlando lead the event that is totally family oriented, despite the images you might drum up of hairy dudes in high heels.  It is one of the single best times and people come quite a distance to attend.

It is a festival of sorts, with all kinds of prizes raffled off at booths, everything donated and ALL proceeds going to the Skirt Game for those in need.  I’ve grown up on this crazy event taking place here, and several years have worked a booth to assist the Delhi Fire Division.  But this year is different.

This year, Team Diva Den, district 4156,  put their  heads together to figure out something we could do to show our support for this event.  An idea surfaced and grew and we contacted the Skirt Game committee.  We wanted to have our own Avon booth.  We presented the idea to the committee and were accepted into the fun.  We have donated over $1000 in Avon products to be raffled off throughout the game.  There  will be 8, Summer Swag bags with products (we’re tossing in some great stuff with the original contents, approximate $100 value) and one grand prize, a huge gift box of $500 worth of Avon products for the entire family.

towel and sunglasses  NOT included, all other products shown plus some other great items in each bag!

Now….we need people  to come and purchase raffle tickets!  $1 each, 6 for $5 for the swag bags, one per half hour.  $5 per shot at the grand prize.  Please…come out and buy the tickets.  EVERY dime made on these raffles is going to the Skirt Game so the more you buy, the more you help!

ALSO the skirt game is hosting the first EVER tailgate party for the game, Thursday, August 4th!!!  Avon’s Team Diva Den will be there too, with free samples, brochures,  and a FREE raffle for a 5 piece bath & body collection from the Avon naturals line.  All you have to do is show up and fill out a raffle form to be eligible, and you do not need to be present to win it at the end of the party!

Per the Delhi Skirt Game Website:

Fully Sanctioned, family oriented:
Tailgate Party
Thursday August 4th
at Plaza Vallarta
(The Great Mexican Restaurant on Delhi Pike!)

Meet the Stars of the Game. 
Eat some great Mexican Food
and Listen to the sounds of Chris Goins
As with the Skirt Game – No Charge for the event.  Food and drinks will be available for purchase.

The Tailgate Party will start at 6:00.  Chris Goins is scheduled to play from 6:30 – 8:30.
Rockin’ Ron Schumacher from WGRR will be there playing oldies and entertaining the crowd.

The Dating Diaries ~ Q & A

Today I am going to do a little Q & A session (that would be “question and answer” for those of you who, like me, discovered there was only enough leaded java in the house for ONE pot this morning, split between 3 women who would kill for less than a cup of coffee).  While I AM severely low on caffeine I will try ever so hard to answer this kind, new reader’s questions.  I’m helpful like that.  I know, you are impressed, right?

So, Chuck wrote the following comment on one of my entries:

Dear Most Incredibly Marvelous Martha, you goddess of all things Marvi, (okay he didn’t say that part but I’m taking artistic liberty here because, well, I can)

hmmm… This should be interesting. I just happen to run across your blog and noticed that you have a “dating dairies” section. I found it to be very interesting and thought maybe you could give me a few pointers. See, here’s my situation… I potentially may not know what I’m doing but I met this woman online last night, moments after I changed my profile to “view” from it being down for a while, her pic/profile popped up. I looked at her pics first… because that is the first litmus of whether to continue or not. After seeing she was quite beautiful in a variety of settings, I continued to read her profile. Well, to make a long story short we winked at one another, traded phone numbers, and friended ourselves on Facebook. She seems to be one of these creative types, good sense of humor, depth of character, and so on. Well, getting to the point here… what kind of places or activities might be appropriate for a first date with this type of woman, when might it be appropriate to ask her out? I’d be willing to let her pick the place, date, and time.

You adoring fan, (artistic liberty again)


I think I should consult with my Crystal Ball but I cannot find the damn Magic 8 ball it is in the shop for a tune up so I’ll have to wing it.

*draws the blinds to darken the room, lights candles, begins rubbing temples, chanting “oh spirits, enlighten me with the answers for this kind gent”, face contorts a bit…*

The spirits tell me that there are several appropriate first date options here, as I can just tell this lady is simple in her tastes, and enjoys the opportunity for conversation.

A picnic would be one option.  A lady can tell a lot about a gentleman by what he packs  to take her to a park  to munch, sip and talk.

My guess is she is also a bit of a sport buff, and might enjoy taking in a Reds game, either in a nice little sports bar that serves good food,  or at a game if it isn’t too hot and humid.  After all, a princess doesn’t feel real attractive if she is sweating like a pig glistening in the sunshine.

Dinner and a few rounds of putt-putt and then ice cream can also be fun and amusing.

She likely enjoys concerts in the park, especially the Cincinnati Pops, though any band playing in a park usually is good with her.

I’m feeling she likes casual attire and relaxed settings.

I also feel her Sunday afternoon and evening might be free, or an evening next week.

and….. darn, the spirits are fading away….

*blows out candles, and opens the blinds*

There you have it, Chuck, the spirits have spoken.

Good luck to you, sir, though something tells me  the stars are in alignment in your favor!  *wink*

Skin Care Skeptic – SOLD!

2 Weeks to your BEST SKIN yet!!!

I have always been a real skeptic when it comes to all the hoopla surrounding various skin care lines.  After all, they are usually quite expensive and I just have a hard time parting with my money for a ‘maybe’.  So, when Avon made it possible for me as a sales representative to try the Anew Skin Care line, I figured this was my chance to prove to myself that it was highly over rated. I won’t endorse a product that I don’t believe in so before I give my review and opinion of something I want to try it for myself.

I went down the 5 question skin care survey to see which of the Anew lines was right for me.  I’m 48 years old and while I am told I don’t appear to be, I know that I’m starting to show my age.  I have  dark circles under my eyes because I’m very pale skinned (and frankly not willing to spend the money on tanning right now).  My skin also is a bit blotchy and pitted in places from a run with adult acne in my 30’s.  So I chose the Anew Reversalist regimen and ordered the 2 week starter kit.

Every day I washed my face in the morning and evening.  This was huge for me as it was because usually I fell into bed with my makeup still on, which is not good.  I also applied the eye cream in both morning and evening.  Mornings I used the day cream all over my face,  and evenings applied the night cream, then prepared myself mentally for maybe nicer feeling skin but hardly expected to ‘see’ anything change.

In addition to Avon I am a  daycare provider.  I watch 3 kids, 9 months, 2 years old and 7 years old.  I take the 7 year old to school and pick her up each day.  Usually at nap time in the afternoons I am picking her up and either my mom, sister or niece are home so that I do not have to take the little ones.  At the 1.5  week mark of my 2 week trial, I had the baby in tow when I picked up little Princess Smiles A Lot at the school.  While getting them buckled in to their seats, the 7yo  looks up at me and says “Miss Marti, your face looks a lot younger today”.  Now keep in mind the sun is shining so there is no soft light to mask over the fine lines etc. that come with being 48 years old.  I admit it did a lot for me, after all she is 7 years old, so that coming out of no where kinda surprised me.

I’m now in my 4th week of using the Reversalist regimen, and now I  can see changes.  My skin really IS firmer, the fine lines are much less defined, the blotchy areas are fading and yes, my skin really does look and feel much better, younger.  I feel like I received a face lift,  this is really amazing.

Yes I am an Avon representative, but I’m not biased.  I tried this product and whole heartedly believe in it, it really is amazing.

This current brochure, Avon is selling the 2 week starter kit (cleanser, day and night creams and eye cream) for $25 as a way to let our customers try out the high end skin care line.   All of the full size regimens are on sale as well.  I cannot recommend a skin care regimen more, it really has made a difference, I even stopped breaking out like I tend to do during PMS week.

ALL the skin care lines Avon sells are on sale in this current brochure, so if you cannot afford to consider a high end line, believe me the less expensive ones will still give you results you will like.

My daughter has fought with severe acne throughout high school and recently started the Clearskin Professional line and loves the results.  She was using Proativ, which was helping, but not nearly giving her the results she wanted and was far more expensive.  She highly recommends it and is going to write up a review in the coming weeks.

To view the brochure online just visit MY SITE to shop the eBrochure (you can click the Avon Lady icon in my sidebar).  If you are local in Cincinnati I deliver for a more personal touch, or if you prefer or are not in the area, you can purchase online and chose to have the items shipped to you directly (free shipping if the order is $30 or more).

Put it to the test, see if you don’t agree that a good regimen of skin care, used daily, isn’t the best thing you have ever done for your appearance!

Avon has a no risk satisfaction guarantee,  if you are not satisfied, they will refund your money – nothing to lose but great skin to gain!

The Long And Winding Road….

My butt is sore…and my legs.  Easy now, minds out of the gutter…it is from riding all day.  I tried to calculate it up and we likely were close to 300 miles before it was said and done.

The scenic route, being back roads and state routes, from my house in Cincinnati to Metamora, Indiana.

We stopped there for a while and walked around town, had coffee at The Smelly Gourmet Coffee Bar there, and sat and watched the trains (I was so in my glory).

Then we rode west for a long while and circled back around and went into Shelbyville.  We found a cute little hole in the wall Mexican place and had dinner.

We passed through Greensburg where the tornado touched down and saw some of the damage from that event while gasing up the bike for the 3rd time today.

Then we headed back home.  It was a fantastic day to ride, and this time no tears.  Just a lot of laughter and talking, sometimes deep and full of thought, sometimes just goofy stuff.

Thanks again, Mr. Wonderful, for another fantastic day of riding, great conversation and your friendship.  You make my world a brighter place!

Featured Friend Friday – Robin Pruitt

Featured Friend


Welcome to Featured Friend Friday!

I met Robin years ago through a police explorers program my son was in along with Robin.

A former police woman, Robin left the force and started her own business.

I am all about celebrating and promoting other women, so I’ll let her tell you her story


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My name is Robin Pruitt and I am excited to be a guest blogger for Marti!  I wish I had time to blog like she does, I’ve always loved writing.  A few months ago she asked about guest bloggers, and, well, it’s a rainy day and I feel like blogging!

I am a director with Thirty-One Gifts, the most amazing company in the Good Old U.S. of A.  (I’m a little biased) and want to write about it.  I’m so excited about where I’m going compared to where I’ve been, and I never thought I’d be where I am today.  There is just so much going on with the company and my business, I can feel the excitement bubbling out of me.  A little about me: My husband, Anthony, has been an amazing source of support and love and is truly the biggest reason I have been so successful with Thirty-One Gifts.  We have four children, Sydnee (12), Ashlee (7), Caleb (2), and Rylee (9 months), and live in Delhi Township which is a suburb outside of Cincinnati Ohio.  I went to Oak Hills High School, received an Associate Degree at Chatfield College, and ten years later I am finishing my Bachelor Degree in Leadership & Ministry at Cincinnati Christian University.  Other than Thirty-One, I am a stay-at-home mom- my dream come true.

In July of 2009, I was invited to what was advertised as a “purse party”… and I really didn’t want to go.  I was expecting knock off coach purses and a bunch of girly-girl women sitting around drinking tea and giggling.  I was a Cincinnati Police Officer, definitely not a “girly-girl” and certainly had no interest in a purse party.  My uniform was a white collared shirt and the only accessory I needed was a gun on my hip.  What use did I have for this party?  Reluctantly, and with a little force from my dear friend Beth, I went.  If nothing else, I’d get away from the kids for a couple of hours.

I went in and there was the consultant, with all of these purses, bags, and more- that even I had to admit were cute.  I had never heard of Thirty-One, but loved that it was based on Christian principles.  I decided to have a party, mostly to get some things free that my pre-teen daughter loved, and even bought a zipper pouch for myself- to carry my gun in (yes, really).

A couple of weeks after I held my own party, I found out I was on the list of Cincinnati Police Officers to be laid off.  Among all of the emotions and fears that went through me, making money was at the top of the list.  I had tried direct sales previously with another company and it was awful.  It just wasn’t something that worked for me.  Something drew me back to those Thirty-One products, and I called my consultant to ask her about joining.  With all of the information she gave me, my husband and I decided to give it a try.  It was only $99, right?  If it didn’t work out, I’d have some Christmas gifts to give out.

My start to Thirty-One was an extremely rocky one.  I only held a few parties between signing up in August of 2009 and giving up in January 2010.  I decided it wasn’t for me, and let it go.  I didn’t even think about the business or all of the products I had sitting in my laundry room, until my cousin called me in April asking if I would do a party for her.  Things basically snowballed for me from there. I scheduled several parties over the summer of 2010, and had a couple of girls sign up to join my team in the fall.  In January, I had 3 more girls join me and had my highest month of sales ever.  In February, I met the senior consultant requirements, recruited one more lady to my team, and beat my January sales.  I promoted again in March to director- yes, two promotions in two months.  Do you get that at your company?

I can’t put into words how much of a blessing Thirty-One has been in my life for my family and me.  I am able to stay home with my four children while my husband works or is away on military orders.  It’s a wonderful escape for me to do parties, while I am still contributing to the family bills.  Throughout so many struggles over the last several months with job loss, health issues, and more, I have always had Thirty-One to fall back on.  I know that it was brought to me for a reason, which at the time I didn’t even know I would need.  I have a great group of ladies on my team.  I love watching them meet goals, earn free products, and blossom as I have with this wonderful company.  I decided to name my team “31’s Soaring Eagles” which I got from Isaiah 40:31.  The Lord truly has strengthened me through this company, and I am thankful everyday for that “stupid” purse party.

This month, I earned a $2,000 gift card that I can use to take a Carnival Cruise, take my family to Disney World, or spend at Best Buy.  How did I earn it?  Just by doing my job.  What other companies hand out that kind of money?!?! Not only that, but because I am a leader I have also earned a trip for myself and my husband to go to Mexico in October.  Since my husband is deploying in the fall, and I refuse to take a vacation without him, we are going to use the $2,000 card for Best Buy to buy two new high tech computers to communicate with each other while he is overseas.  We’ll go to Mexico next year.

I’d love to throw out to anybody who is interested in a life changing opportunity, to please call me.  I will give you all the information you need to decide if the opportunity is right for you and your family.  I promise you I am not pushy, would not convince you to do something that isn’t right for you, and won’t bombard you with calls or emails.  Thirty-One has been under a hiring freeze due to the amazing growth they have experienced, and you can now be placed on a waiting list if you are interested.  Very exciting!!!  If you aren’t in need of extra money right now, maybe you’d like an evening of shopping with girlfriends?  I can help with that too.  Any hostess who tells me they found me on Marti’s blog will receive a large utility tote at her party (a $30 value!) for free.

Thank you for taking the time to welcome me to Marti’s blog, and for reading all about my excitement!!!

Robin Pruitt


About Annie

Annie.  That is all I have to say and it brings fond memories and smiles to the faces of my siblings.

When I was about 3 years old, my parents purchased a house in Price Hill, a neighborhood in Cincinnati.  We had a long back yard, and on the left side, 3 houses back yards meet up with our property.  At that time there were no fences so it was wide open except for flower beds.  As kids we thought it was HUGE, though on a recent trip to check out the house, as it was for sale, I was shocked at how small the yard really is.  One strong memory there as I stood in the backyard was the 3rd house, Annie’s house.

Annie was probably in her 50’s at the time we moved in,  and lived in the house with her husband, Erhart and I think her kids that were grown, Bob and  Elaine.  Oh and their old dog, Ginger.  Annie had a great back porch and when we were all outside playing she’d call us over for our “quota”.  Quota was candy,  and she  had the best candy!  A few orange slices (those gummy kind covered in sugar) were my favorite, or marsh mellow peanuts.  YUM!  Annie was always a good ear, seemed to really love little kids and chatting with us.

She was also a good set of eyes for my parents when hell broke loose in the backyard and they needed to get to the  bottom of who started it.  One time I was showing my brother how to swing a baseball bat, as if he needed my assistance, and I hit him right up side the head.  While he was screaming bloody murder, I ran up the side of the house and slipped in through the front door.  Mom was exiting the backdoor to find out what my brother was crying over.  I came out of the house behind her, acting all innocent while  being tattled on.  It might have worked had Annie not witnessed the crime and filled my mother in on the details.  BUSTED!!!!

We moved away  from there just before I started high school, and I lost track of Annie.  I ran into her and her daughter at the grocery store after I myself became a mother.  She was very old but was still our beloved Annie.  I learned  that her husband had passed away, and her son, Bob (a true to life hippie) and he had a falling out years prior and he left without looking back, and didn’t know his dad had  died.  I  could  see the pain in Annie’s face as she shared that with me.  It broke my heart to think that an argument could split two people that loved each other  and cause damage that  would forever be beyond repair now that one of them had left this world.

I hope to be remembered like Annie some day.  She was so sweet, and she reminds me of a time when my world was so much simpler and happy, when something as simple as a few pieces of candy and the lick from a dog on my cheek could make me smile!

Mama’s Losin’ It

This post  was written as a part of Mama Kat’s Writer’s  Workshop.  To join in and participate click the  icon above and chose from one of this week’s topics, write your post and link up!


Our old house - in foreclosure now, wish I could buy it!!!

Weekend Wrap Up…

This past week was a tad crazy to say the least.  Tuesday the big boss  in Columbus let me know that it was time to shut down the office for the winter as work has dropped way off.  Friday was to be the last day in operation for the office to be open, which meant being out of work for winter.  This was not good news but then again it was not unexpected as hours had already been cut and I scheduled all production for Cincinnati and Dayton so I knew it was about that time.

This job was perfect as it really was a transitional and temporary thing and it timed out to carry me through from finding out Grumpy Dwarf wanted out of the marriage and through to the end of the divorce and then beyond some months.  It was a job that gave me plenty to do but also gave me a lot of  solitude.  This was  not bad thing  considering the mental and emotional train wreck that I was, when I needed a good cry while  I worked, no one saw but me.

But the time was here  now to find something more stable and hopefully permanent and also something at a faster pace.  I am well past the divorce and the drama is behind  me.  Tuesday  evening I began my quest for a new job and by Friday had two  options.  Funny thing, I did not take the one with the higher financial potential.  Call me stupid if you wish, but I follow my gut instinct and my gut told me that the  one I have chosen is the right fit.  It is  close to home (6.5 miles) and I just feel like there is a good  chemistry between me and the new boss.  I start Monday and cannot wait to get in there and get learning.  I’ll be honest, I HATE learning a new job because I am not able to perform at my best until I learn the position.  But soon I will have the ropes down and that will mean I am ready to get in there and prove myself.

Saturday we added a new addition to the Diva Den,  little Miss Ditzy.  Diva Sarah wanted a kitten and upon meeting this adorable little 8 week old fur ball she had to have her.  She is TOO cute and photos will be forthcoming!  The other two cats were less than thrilled, but Pixel has softened up and  been caught grooming Ditzy’s head and playing with her.  Noel will get there, she is the top cat in the house and not yet approving of the addition.

I found out my daughter will be spending the night on Christmas Eve and waking up to open presents on Christmas morning with me, and that just made my weekend!!!  So much has changed in my life and I miss her so much now that I no longer live with her.  I really do still have some bitterness toward her dad for putting me in a position that I no longer get to share in her life on a daily basis.  It may seem selfish but I’m very glad he will be on duty at the fire house and she will be at the Princess Palace! :)  His Scroogie ass hates the holidays any way and was always like a little black rain cloud over the day so I am thrilled  she will be with us.

I  really do not care for the time change, it messes with me for about a week.  My body says it is 9:37 and I should be getting ready to sleep.  I do plan to crawl in my bed here shortly but the early darkness now setting in  makes me even more tired.  UGH

These hot flashes  must be more than a passing thing.  Between them and the night sweats most days are turning into a total waste of makeup!  And I am just miserable when they hit.  Wondering what wonderful things I can do, eat etc without medication to make this more bearable?  If you know of things please share!

Okay, time to get the electric blanket turned on so my bed is nice and warm, get the contacts out and get ready for work tomorrow.  My pillows are calling me!!!!

A Bowl Of Fruit Loops

Last time I referred to it as walking through the fruit loop garden, but tonight I’m kinda tired and feeling a tad lazy, so we’re just going to sit on the side of the bowl and dangle our feet in.  This is one of those posts full of random thoughts that have zero connection for the most part other than it came from my brain, a confusing and scary place for many when I open up and start sharing.  Get your spoon.

This was an interesting week.  Tuesday the big boss decided work had dropped off enough to shut down our Cincinnati and Dayton offices for winter.   I wasn’t really surprised, I schedule the work and maintain the production board so it was rather evident to me that this was coming.  Still wasn’t a happy moment when I got that call to start tying up the loose ends.   I resisted the urge to panic and instead got online and started mass sending my resume through local job sites and on various hospital career postings.  I  also utilized Facebook and Twitter, and sent a ton of emails to contacts, feeding my information and resume.  Even dug out a business card from a potential a year ago.  Hoping to be working again next week, I CANNOT handle the boredom of being out of a job again, I’ll be crawling on the ceilings in under a month.  Hoping to find something far more long term…as in years.

I am thinking this whole menopause  thing is settling in and that makes me most  unhappy.   I am rolling through the hot flashes and finding them to be quite irritating.  We don’t need the furnace, I can slowly stroll through  the entire  house and keep it warm.   The night sweats are a real treat too.  Power surges? Heck I could light the whole township for an hour at a time with those lovely attacks.  Sometimes being female truly sucks.

Ya me!  I found eye glass chains for my readers/cheaters!  I stopped at a local, family owned Pharmacy and got my flu shot ($20, which is $5-10 cheaper than the big grocery store pharmacies have them) and while there found the chains!  Go ahead, make old lady jokes, I don’t care because now I  know where my glasses are all the time when I need them.

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: We interrupt this blog to alert you to the following information:

There are only 50 shopping days until Christmas!!!!!!

We now return you to your regularly scheduled blog post already in progress….

The neighbor across the street has a shutter that periodically falls off the house.  He gets up there and messes with it and puts it back, then along comes a good wind or thunderstorm, though sometimes for no apparent reason at all, and it falls off the house.  Currently it is back up but I’m  seriously considering taking $1  wagers here in the Princess Palace on when it will fall down again, as many chances as you’d like, and she who comes closest without going past wins.  We sick chicks find the  whole thing very entertaining.

I GET TO SLEEP IN TOMORROW!  I am easily amused and thrilled by the little things in life.  Sleeping in being one of my guilty pleasures makes me HAPPY!!

So, how DO you solve a problem like Maria?

YIKES! CSI tonight is looking gross!  Well okay it IS gross!!!! But I love watching this stuff.

That nasty, 4 letter word is in the forecast.  I do not care if it is only flurries, it means cold and I really don’t like cold!!!  I’m missing summer so badly, I love warm weather.  Turning on the electric blanket !!

ATTENTION SON AND DAUGHTER – still waiting on your Christmas wish lists.  Really, I want to be done before Black Friday so step it up please!

I  just saw a commercial for baby carrots, using sex to sell them.  Really? Unreal…and frankly a very creative commercial!

Okay, CSI is wrapping up this  neat little murder case, in under an hour as usual. Gotta go see how this ends, it has been very good!

Okay, spoons and feet out of the bowl everyone!

Meet Me On Monday – 10/04/10

Welcome to the 17th edition of “Meet Me On Monday!”

HOSTED BY:  Never Growing Old

Blogging is a funny thing…we tell our most intimate thoughts for all to read and yet most of the time I find myself sitting and wondering, “who is this person!?”  I know them…but yet I don’t know them!  I want to know who the person is behind all those words so I thought of a great way for all of us to “meet” each other!

Every Sunday Java will post five get to know you questions that you can copy and paste into your own Monday post and we can all learn a little more about each and every one of us!!

“Its a great way to to meet new friends and for others to get to know me better….one Monday at a time!!!”….as quoted by the Chacogirl!! Java will make this SIMPLE and FUN!!!

Java will add a linky so we can follow who participates and get to know them better!!  Be sure to link the POST and not just your whole blog.

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1. What is the best dish you can make?
2. How often do you change your sheets?
3. What is the longest car trip you have ever taken?
4. What is your favorite fruit?
5. Would you rather have breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?
My Answers!

1. What is the best dish you can make?

Black bean chili!  I admit, it was hubby’s recipe but I have perfected it.  It is one of the most requested dishes in the Princess Palace, the girls LOVE it and it is SO simple!  NOT a spicy chili, kinda slightly sweet, and very meaty!

2. How often do you change your sheets?

Every week, on Sunday morning.  I like crisp sheets so I want them changed often.  We sometimes sit around the fire pit to sip wine on Saturday night, so the sheets can smell a bit smokey sometimes (cause I smelled smokey!).  And because I am so highly allergic to cats and my kitten sleeps with me, about one week of dander is all I can handle even though she sheds very little and I lint roll the pillows and bedding daily.

3. What is the longest car trip you have ever taken?

18 hours to Ft. Lauderdale from Cincinnati in ONE trip, no stopping.  Took the kids down there for a 9 day vacation.  As a kid I know we went further but did it all over several days of travel, but that was the longest, single drive I’ve ever taken.

4. What is your favorite fruit?

Kiwi!!! I Love a juicy, ripe kiwi, oh so good!!!

5. Would you rather have breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?

Either! I admit to having cold fried chicken or pizza for breakfast and pancakes or bacon and eggs for dinner.  Both work for me, not limited to a mind set that one or the other is appropriate at a particular time of day.

Simon Howden /

Wine & Cheese – 13th Serving

Every week on Wednesday I  devote a blog to whining.  Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times.  I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs.

I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well.

I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile  just a bit more than normal.

Sit back and join me now for the 13th serving of some wine and cheese!


Traffic Light Forfeiting

I swear every day I can see more and more reasons to ban cell phone use when driving.  Not just texting, as the city of Cincinnati has now passed an ordinance that bans texting/emailing while behind the wheel, but ANY use of cell phones while operating a motor vehicle.  Today when I headed out to pick up some lunch,  I was waiting for the light to turn left out of our office complex.  Turning left at this intersection requires waiting for the signal to give you the arrow, because someone deemed it too dangerous to make  that decision for oneself.  Likely due to idiots like the one I observed waiting to turn left INTO the complex.  Two cars were in that turn lane waiting on the arrow, and believe me this is a long wait, I have to endure it every morning.  I could balance my check  book during the wait and if you know me you know that takes a while.  When at last the signal changed the first car pulled away and turned into the office complex.  The  second car never moved.  I began to wonder if the driver had died at the wheel when I looked closer and could see he was so busy texting he did not realize the light had not only changed but that the car in front of him was gone.  I am not entirely certain he ever did realize he had sat through the long awaited opportunity because by the time I got the light to turn out he was still keying something into his phone, oblivious to the fact that he was one and a half car lengths from the stopping line and occupying the  turn  lane all alone now.  THAT is just plain ridiculous.  Anyone that absorbed in a text conversation should not  be driving.  Put the phone on silent and put it down and concentrate on driving the car.  And please, never, never, NEVER be in front of me at a light, or behind me while in motion, I don’t think you are safe.

What Not To Wear – Ever

If you are a man pay attention to this please.  Unless you work out on a regular basis and are muscular and solid, please do not wear wife beater shirts out in public and think you look hot.  Seriously if you have man dinners peaking through your shirt (man boobs), you have no business being seen in this shirt out in a public place.  And when you need suspenders to hold your pants up to go along with this shirt, then dear gawd go purchase a full length mirror and take a good look at yourself.  If you are over weight that is fine, but please, consider those of us that have to look at you when you use one of your dumb pick-up lines.  We do not find you attractive, you not a hunka hunka burning love.  You have bigger tits than an NFL cheerleader, cover that train wreck of a physique up please!!  I’d gouge out my eyes or pour bleach in them but the image is burned in my mind for life.  You won’t see my big butt in Daisy Dukes or spandex shorts, gain some fashion sense!

Sam Witches

No,  they are not a new Halloween treat, or decoration.  It is a total mispronunciation of the word sandwich.   S A N D W I C H.   Read it again,  S A N D W I C H.   Note that there is no ‘M’ in that word, sandwich.   It is is NOT pronounced ‘sam witch’, there is no such thing as a samwhich, samwitch, or samwich.  It is a SANDWICH.  The ‘D’ is not soft.  Say it with me, SAND,  and now this part, WICH.  It makes me flipping crazy when people order a samwich or tell me they made a ham and cheese samwich for lunch.   There is no such thing, even did not list it as slang.  One more time, try it, SANDWICH…..thank you.


Nothing is quite as nice as finding money you forgot you had.  In your jeans pocket, stashed behind your drivers license for a rainy day, or in my case opening your ashtray to figure out what is rattling around and discovering a nice handful of change!!!  Obviously I don’t use mine for ashes as I do not smoke.  I forgot that is the ex-hubby’s favorite place to dump change and the other day was trying to figure out what I was hearing in the car when I opened the ashtray and discovered about $2 in change. YA ME!!!

Recently I stumbled across a blog page that caught my eye, because they had developed a FUN way to shrink your jeans…by sizes. Shrinkvivor is like the show Survivor but online and for losing some weight. This is so cool and I cannot wait for it to begin tomorrow! My sister, a fellow blogger, decided to get in on it too. We’re in different tribes which adds to the competition and will make this much more fun!

And last but not least, sleeping with the windows open!  While Summer is by far my favorite time of year, because I HATE being cold, I have to admit that with the gradual change of seasons taking place it is SO nice to not only have the windows open and the air conditioning off, but I LOVE sleeping with the windows open.  On top of the nice breeze while I sleep, and the night sounds of crickets and tree frogs, my kitten is able to occupy herself when she isn’t sleepy by watching out the window, which beats her climbing on the night stand or dresser to pounce on me when I’m sleeping.


I have NO clue of the  origin, but this was too funny not to share.  Longer than the usual dessert I serve up but very enjoyable!

Amazing Grace

As a bagpiper, I play many gigs. Recently I was asked by a funeral director to play at a graveside service for a homeless man.  He had no family or friends, so the service was to be at a pauper’s cemetery in the Eastern Oregon back country.

As I was not familiar with the backwoods,  I got lost and, being a typical man,  I didn’t stop for directions.   I finally arrived an hour late and saw the funeral guy had evidently gone and the hearse was nowhere in sight.  There were only the diggers and crew left and they were eating lunch.  I felt badly and apologized to the men for being late.

I went to the side of the grave and looked down and the vault lid was already in place.  I didn’t know what else to do, so I started to play. The workers put down their lunches and began to gather around.  I played out my heart and soul for this man with no family and friends. I played like I’ve never played before for this poor, homeless man.

And as I played ‘Amazing Grace,’ the workers began to weep.  They wept, I wept, we all wept together. When I finished I packed up my bagpipes and started for my car.  Though my head hung low, my heart was full. As I opened the door to my car, I heard one of the workers say, “I ain’t never seen nothin’ like that before and I’ve been putting in septic tanks for twenty years.”

Apparently I’m still lost…