If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
There is no ‘if’ about it, life is short. It seems like just yesterday I was changing my son’s diaper, newly divorced and in the role of single mother. Today he pushing is 27 years old, carries a gun and puts his life on the line as a cop. I swear I blinked and went from protecting him to him protecting others.
So why DO we do so many things we don’t like, and like so many things we don’t do? In a word: FEAR.
Many times I stayed employed in a job that I did not like because it was stable, the pay was good, and I had medical insurance. There were countless benefits that were unseen too, like free parking, location etc. I transitioned through many positions within the 26 years at the company, some I really liked, others I didn’t care for at all, and some I was simply content. I feared leaving because there were too many ‘what ifs’ associated with leaving and trying something new. It wasn’t until I was let go during a down sizing that I was forced to look for something new. And the next two positions were similar in nature, still stuck in a rut of doing what I knew I could rather than going after something that I thought I wanted to do but was unsure. There was also much negative feedback associated with my occasional mentions of what I wanted to try doing.
After the next two jobs bit the dust, one was a seasonal lay off, the other the company just went under and I bailed when I saw the writing on the wall, I was forced to make some choices about my employment. I was brain storming with my mom one Saturday morning, before the rest of the Divas were up and about, and I brought up childcare. I really do love kids! I am not really a domestic type, never got the joy of being the stay at home mom I had dreamed of, but I still knew enough to know that watching children can be profitable, very profitable. And then there is also Avon, something I very much wanted to sell. I had taken a stab at it when my kids were little, and did it all wrong. Now the corporation provides so much in the line of training that it is hard not to succeed.
Being home during the day watching children gives me a lot of opportunity to write, read, work the Avon business, and do something I very much enjoy, being a stay at home ‘mom’ of sorts. I enjoy taking care of the kids a lot! And I can pitch in around the house more, cleaning, doing dishes, and tackling Mt. Washmore, the Diva’s ever growing laundry pile. It did take some initial adjustment, which worked well in the beginning as I only had the kids two days a week, then three, then four and now all five weekdays. I eased into this and now I have a solid routine down. It really works out well.
Avon allows me to do sales, something I have always wanted to try my hand at but never thought I had what it took. And the product line is something I very much believe in. I try the items that I recommend, and only recommend them if I really do like them. I even started another blog page, I Sell Lipstick – Chronicles of an Avon Lady to not only share my adventures in this business but to review and give away products as I try them myself.
I also do some side work when needed for a friend that has an insurance business, to keep the office skills up to date.
I still do not have medical insurance, but I am working with the agent friend to get a major medical policy in place and dental. First I had bills that needed catching up from being without a paycheck.
Which brings me to another reason we tend to do things we don’t like, and avoid doing things we do like: other people’s opinions.
It is easy to become discouraged when others close to us have issues with what it is we are doing or want to do. We write our dream off as a bad idea and stay where we are not happy. For me, it was a deal breaker in a relationship with a guy that I really saw so much potential with for a possible life partner. I wasn’t getting a ‘regular paycheck’ from anyone. I think it had a lot to do with my not being ‘kept’ by that one, never mind that I get paid weekly, quite regularly and the same amount each time. But that was an eye opener to me.
I’ve been employed in positions where I hated getting up and going to work each day. I was moody, unhappy and most unpleasant to be around. So many wasted years getting up and doing something I did not at all care for when I could have been doing something I really enjoyed. I don’t care what you do for a living, as long as you pay your bills and you ENJOY what you do! You cannot get back the time that is wasted in a very unhappy career. No, not going to change what I do to make someone else feel happy and secure with me. I love what I do, I am singing in the shower, humming and singing while putting on my make-up for the day, I enjoy being a daycare provider! I enjoy cleaning the house and doing the laundry (dear gawd did I just really say that?? THE UNDOMESTIC GODDESS LIKES BEING DOMESTIC???). I love selling Avon and plan to make that one helluva living too! I don’t care what you do, be it a teacher, cop, firefighter, sanitation worker, stable cleaner, auto mechanic…if you enjoy what you do, if you are happy getting up and going to work each day, and we hit it off, then I accept you as you are, package deal. If we don’t hit it off, I will cheer you on in what you love, because life is entirely TOO short not to do what makes you happy!
I am now doing what I enjoy, and ever so thankful I finally took the risk and went for it!