6 Drinks/Beverages I Love

As part of the 100 Things I Love, here are 6 drinks or beverages that I love!  Again, as with the other lists, no particular order is given.

Diet Coke - happens to be sitting on my desk at the  moment.  When it comes to sodas, I prefer diet as the regular stuff is just too sweet.  I also prefer diet Coke to diet Pepsi.  And a fountain version is always far better!

Coffee - another drink that happens to be sitting on my desk at the moment, a hot cup of pumpkin spice coffee.  I love coffee, especially flavored, and I drink it black.  In the winter I sometimes use a flavored creamer as a treat, but over all just plan black coffee is tops.

Beer - I am of mostly German roots, some Hungarian and a splash of Irish to keep it interesting.  Naturally my German side loves beer.  Of the many beers, I prefer Mich Ultra though it gives me migraines if I have one or have several.  Next up is Bud Select 55.  Yes yes, diet beer I know.  I also like Fireside Nut Brown Ale in the winter months.

Wine - I enjoy wine, though I know about nothing regarding quality, I either like it or I don’t.  I buy wines based on the labels.  The  more amusing the more likely I will try it.  One favorite to date is 7 Deadly Zins.  I kept that bottle, and the Middle Sister wine, Forever Cool, because the label is so on target with my personality.

Herbal Tea - Cinnamon Apple Spiced and Cinnamon Rose are favorites, as well as Peppermint.  During the summer I enjoy mint iced tea like grandma made.  Many of us in the family got hooked on mint tea, and some of my cousins have mint from grandma’s garden.  I need to get some from them to start my own mint bed.

Eggnog Shakes - UDF (United Dairy Farmers) makes the world’s best eggnog shake!  McDonalds doesn’t have too bad of one either, but it rates second in my book to UDF.  I LOVE these and they are only available during the holiday season.

When it comes to beverages those are the first 6 that come to mind.  There are likely many others but 100 Things list only asks for 6, so there you have it.

Wine & Cheese ~ 57th Serving

Welcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.

Many weeks on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times.

I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs.
I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well.
I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal.

If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings.

Sit back and join me now for the 57th  serving of some wine and cheese!

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WINE

:(   I think winter has arrived.  Certainly cold enough when the east side of the city was snowed on, thanks to hurricane Sandy blowing inland.   Now it is just rainy and cold.  This just stinks for little trick-or-treaters!  I recall one year taking my son out when he was little, in several inches of snow.  Not cool.  Thankfully I am a west sider, but still, this just is NOT nice!

:(  I am 2 episodes behind on watching Sons Of Anarchy, I think this is considered a crime.  Have to get caught up on that one.

:(  Feeling a bit frustrated this morning.  My budget is  not allowing for me to get my nails done, and my smart phone is acting like it is riding the short bus of late, and that isn’t in the finances at this point either.

:(  My “check engine” light is on…again.  And those shocks and struts the ex promised to get around to for 2 years before he asked for a divorce, and then promised to handle before I moved out?  Yeah, well those are getting worse by the day.  And there is no extra in the budget for those either. Grrrrrr…….

CHEESE

:)  I’m alive, breathing, walking upright (admittedly with some snap, crackle and pop in the first few minutes of the day), and if the scale is any indication I’m far from starving.

:)  I am warm, cozy, and have my yarn and hook to serve as a therapist so the body count is way down of late.

:)  I’m loved, cherished, worshiped and adored (Long Beach’s words), and seriously what woman would not enjoy that?

:)  I have the most amusing family a woman could ask for, still laughing daily in the Diva Den and my kids and siblings keep that going too.  My life is richly blessed in so many ways!

DESSERT

Eyeballs in the fridge this morning.  :)

10 Writers I Love

I am determined to finish the 100 Things I Love over the next week or so, I’ve left it hanging out there entirely too long!

So, 10 writers I love is up next.  As it doesn’t not specify book or blog authors, I’m going with both!  This is by no means an exhaustive list, and keep in mind that most of the things I read are not heavy.  I read for entertainment and to relax, it is one of my guilty pleasures in life.

  1. J.K. Rowling - yep, I am a huge fan of the Harry Potter series.  I started reading it back when everyone was having a fit about it because *gasp* it is full of witches, wizards and magic!! You know, church folks (not necessarily my church) were having a field day over it all.  My daughter wanted to read the books so like any good parent I decided to read the books first in case there was something I felt I needed to use as an object lesson.  It’s how I handled a lot of things while home schooling our kids.  I was hooked as soon as I started the series and could not wait for the next one to come out.  Frankly, it is harmless in my mind to enjoy a fantasy of a world where I can jump in the fireplace and land on the west coast.
  2. Jean M. Auel - I fell in love with these books, The Earth Children’s series.  Prehistoric man and her version of the story, centering around a character named Ayla.  I loved the first book, which was also my first introduction to herbal remedies etc. and couldn’t put it down!  While I don’t personally buy into the evolution of apes to men (why is it some apes did not evolve, was there a protest??), it was a great series!
  3. Bodie & Brock Thoene - The Zion Convenant Series was SO good! Historical fiction set during WWII, it was a serious page turner. 9 books in that series.  When my son was in high school studying WWII I got him started reading the series as the history is very well researched and I felt he would gain more that way than just from his history books.  He even loved the series.  I also loved their Galway chronicles series but only got through the first 2 books.  I need to find those in the library and start it again!
  4. Christine Feehan -  I’ve only read the books in her Dark Series but OMG would I love to be the life mate of any one of her male characters of the Carpathian race!  Steamy, racy and seriously great books.  I recommend starting at the beginning with Dark Prince as they do build somewhat on each other.  I once wrote a post, about wanting to be Mikhail Dubrinsky’s mate because I LOVED the words used in the Carpathian binding rituals between life mates.  *heavy sigh*
  5. Lori Wick - She is probably my favorite Christian fiction author.  I love pretty much all of her books, the best by far being Pretense and my second favorite, Bamboo & Lace.
  6. Martini’s Needed – I love this blogger.  She writes from her heart and about real life. Her blog is great and I highly recommend it.  She doesn’t write often but when she does, she is spot on.
  7. Cinful Cinnamon -  Her blog, Cinnamon’s Spicy Life is a personal favorite.  Not because I know her but because in knowing her I know she too writes from her heart and while we don’t always see eye to eye, more often than not she leaves me thinking!
  8. Sandi Kirk - another favorite blogger, she holds down 2 blog pages that I LOVE, Being Peachy, and Sometimes It’s Not Easy Being Peachy. Her sense of humor is off the chains and I am often laughing out loud.
  9. Amy’s Blam - is another outstanding blog!  Amy is hilarious and her life adventures are too funny.  She is the queen of bling too.
  10. Jenny Lawson - better known as The Bloggess, is probably my all time favorite of bloggers.  She has caused me to want to visit the taxidermist and buy up dead, stuffed critters.   And also to appreciate the art of large, metal chickens.  No home should be without one!

Monday Quiz About Me

It’s Monday, time for the Monday Quiz About Me meme/hop.   Been a while since I did this one (was Meet Me On Monday), figured it is a good place to get my Monday morning juices flowing.

It’s the HALLOWEEN WEEK edition!

Here are FOUR QUESTIONS that everyone can answer and then you have the option to add a fifth question of your own for those who are visiting your blog to answer in the comment section, along with commenting on the four standard questions you answered!  Click the icon above to go to Acting Balanced and join up!!

And now for this weeks Questions

1. Do you consider Halloween a holiday for children or adults?
2. At what age should children stop trick or treating?
3. What are your plans for Halloween?
4. What frightens you?

Do you consider Halloween a holiday for children or adults? 

I think it is for both!  Different ages enjoy different aspects.  I still enjoy getting dressed up for a night of fun, but then I am rather in touch with my inner child still.  It keeps me young and keeps the magic in life flowing.

At what age should children stop trick or treating?

I think as long as they are respectful, and their costumes are really good (no smearing dirt on your face and calling that a costume), then I have no problem with them going all the way through high school.  Heck I did it!

What are your plans for Halloween?

Well not entirely certain to be honest.  Our first year in this house we pulled out the fire pit and sat outside like my former neighborhood (that street rocked Halloween) but we only had 14 kids.  And our neighbors over here just aren’t all that friendly.  Last year we went down to my brother’s, sat around the fire pit in the driveway, handed out candy and ate pizza.  It was a blast.  Kinda hoping for an invite back! (HINT)

What frightens  you?  

I am terrified of fire, afraid of the dark, terrified of heights, afraid of bad storms.

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Peppermint Coffee Musings

Peppermint coffee.  Gotta love it.  And my diffuser filling the air in my room with soothing scents of pure lavender oil, and 31 oil.  Mind and heart full of good ‘food’ from church this morning, both the Sunday School lesson and the worship sermon were great.  I’m listening to Twila Paris’s album Perennial.  Some of my very favorite hymns on are there, like Be Thou My Vision and Amazing Grace.   Her voice is so beautiful.  And the words of the songs beyond  description for me at times.  Also listening to a beautiful CD of  music from Fernando Ortega, The Shadow Of Your Wings, it is one  my friend Janie gave me when I first returned to church 2 years ago.  I need to share with her how much that has meant over the past 2 years.  The songs and hymns on it are in somewhat different arrangements than what you might traditionally hear in church.  And they have helped me many times to quiet my spirit and prepare my heart to pray, read God’s Word, or head out to worship services.

The lesson this morning was really good and spoke to me in Sunday School.  One thing that stood out was that we need to be very careful what we desire, as we just might get it and all that goes with it, good and bad.  And that what we sow we reap, no question about that.  Some call it karma, or “what goes around, comes around”.  I prefer to stick with what I know as a believer, God handles vengeance.

Psalm 7:14-16

New Living Translation (NLT)

14 The wicked conceive evil;
    they are pregnant with trouble
    and give birth to lies.
15 They dig a deep pit to trap others,
    then fall into it themselves.
16 The trouble they make for others backfires on them.
    The violence they plan falls on their own heads.

That is one really good passage, and here was another:

Proverbs 5:21-23

New Living Translation (NLT)

21 For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
    examining every path he takes.
22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
    they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
    he will be lost because of his great foolishness.

Dave pointed out, that if you sow seeds of corn in a field, you will reap corn as that is what grows from corn seeds.  If you sow beans, likewise.  And if you sow trouble, you will reap that too.  Gossip, slander, unkindness, sin….sow those seeds and that is what you will reap in return.

The trouble  with seeds is they are tiny at first.  You drop a tiny seed no bigger than a corn kernel into the soil, and a full blown corn stalk grows up with many ears filled with many more kernels of corn.  Now, think about when you plow trouble and plant seeds of iniquity, like sow gossip seeds, seeds of strife, or other seeds that are not things that will reap blessings, they reap what was sown/planted, in abundance.  That tiny seed will grow into a large plant and produce far more than you bargained.  This happened in my past.  Yes, if you go to the search section of my blogs and search the word “swinger” or “lifestyle” you will get back several posts.  I make no pretense that this is somehow a secret, I was a swinger.  And I did photos that were not good, and my kids know.  My church family knows, my friends and family all know about it.   I don’t hide these  things because others might learn from my mistakes.  It was not a good time in my life that I’m not proud of.  But it IS part of who I am today.  It goes hand in hand with the song lyrics I posted yesterday.  I will not deny the worst you can say about me, if it is true.  But I’m not the sum of my mistakes and sin.  It is in my past.  The consequences will at times  be far reaching, but that is not who I am anymore.

Now, I try hard to sow the seeds of good things.  If it isn’t nice, I just try not to say it all, and pray about the thought behind what I considered saying.  I’m not perfect, but it IS the goal I strive for now.  And I pray for those that find it necessary to sow unkindness toward me.  Letting go and not being upset by what is said about me is far easier when I do what God says and just pray for them.

Matthew 5:43-48
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. …

We are not responsible for what others do, only in how we respond.

Matthew 12:36

36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.

I am opting for a Christ like response.  Those that talk, tweet, Facebook or verbalize unkind things about others, will one day have to give an account for that.  And I will give one for my reaction.  My reaction now is to pray for that individual(s) every day.  I sleep solid at night because my conscience is clear, my heart isn’t full of bitterness and hatred any longer.

I Am New And It Rocks!

*found this in the draft section of my dashboard here on the blog, not sure why I never posted it but seems appropriate to put up tonight as I’m in the Word of God preparing for the worship services tomorrow*

I LOVE THIS SONG!!!

Back when I first returned to church, I clung to it.  Now, all the more it is perfect for me.  The lyrics speak to me.

I am not the woman I was a few months ago, or a few years ago.  The worst things you can say about me and what I have done, I won’t deny them.  In fact I freely admit in my writings on both blogs where I have been and what I have done.

I am no longer ashamed of who I was or what I did or where I have come from.

But I’m not her anymore.  In Christ we are made new, and I’m being remade daily into who I should be.

I have a long way to go, I am a work in progress.

“I Am New”

Now I won’t deny
The worst you could say about me
But I’m not defined
By mistakes that I’ve made
Because God says of me
I am not who I was
I am being remade
I am new
I am chosen and holy
And I’m dearly loved
I am newWho I thought I was
And who I thought I had to be
I had to give them both up
Cause neither were willing
To ever believe

I am not who I was
I am being remade
I am new
I am chosen and holy
And I’m dearly loved
I am new

Too long I have lived
In the shadows of shame
Believing that there
Was no way I could change
But the one who is making everything new
Doesn’t see me the way that I do
He doesn’t see me the way that I do

I am not who I was
I am being remade
I am new
I am chosen and holy
And I’m dearly loved
I am new

I am not who I was
I am being remade I am new
Dead to the old man,I’m coming alive
I am new

Forgiven beloved
Hidden in Christ
Made in the image of the Giver of Life
Righteous and holy
Reborn and remade
Accepted and worthy, this is our new name

This is who we are now…

By: Jason Gray, Joel Hanson

Friday Confessional – Auto Correct Arranged Marriages

Good grief, it’s Friday already?  Guess it is time for confessing all my sins for the week.  Jump on the hop/meme with us by clicking above.  Mamarazzi is on break but clicking the image will land you over at High Heeled Love where the link-up and confessions are taking place.

I confess…
I may have had just a little too much fun with my kids last night.  Not drunken insanity, more like drunk on good times.  My sides and stomach hurt from laughing so hard, its  the most work out my abs have had in…well a while.  My son texted me to see if I wanted to go to dinner with him, his wife and daughter.  I rarely turn down a free meal so I said yes.  He invited his sister along too (Thanks Bubbie, I love when we all spend time together and I don’t see you all enough).  My son is perhaps one of the few that doesn’t raise an eyebrow when mama orders a 32oz draft.  He knows I will take the entire meal to drink it, appetizers included.  Well most of the time.  He’d be the first person to land a second one in front of me.

I confess…
My kids can make me laugh like no one else.  We laughed til my mascara was pretty much cried off my face.  Even when something isn’t really all that amusing, my daughter has the most contagious giggle and laugh.  Sometimes I was laughing at her laughing.  And I confess much of what we were laughing about was  most inappropriate.  Just go to Damn You Auto Correct for examples of what nearly killed me inhaling tortilla  chips.  I couldn’t breathe at times I was laughing so hard.

I confess…
I am considering an ‘arranged’ marriage of sorts next time around.  Hold on, Cinnamon, my spicey friend, and read these 4 articles about romantic love and the science of arranged marriage.  You are probably the one person I know that will ‘get it’ better than others. Article 1What Is Romantic Love, Article 2 - How To Make Romantic Love Last LongArticle 3How To Easily Fall Out Of Romantic Love, and Article 4The Science Of Arranged Marriages – How Do They Work.  I seriously figured out why my 22 year marriage failed.  Someone didn’t make ME center of his world like I did him.  The incurable flirt that he was, was a recipe for disaster.  But seriously I think the arranged marriage of logic and reason has merit.

I confess…
This FarmVille2 thing has me so buried.  Do yourself a HUGE favor and never ever go there!  Do not click the link and get suckered into playing it.  It is a cult of some sort and I’ve been brain washed into worrying about making cheese, harvesting wheat and envying someone named Walter for his farm, and he and the farm are no more than pixels grouped to LOOK like something cute and real.  The illusion is powerful, the addiction very real.  I need a 12 step program for this.

I confess…
I threw something at my cat this morning.  2 things actually.  I was too wired to sleep last night so I used the lavender oil on a spare pillow case to find the Sandman.  That worked like a charm but I was wide awake far earlier than I wanted to be because my darling little furry one was knocking on the closet door.  She paws at the door with her front paws while standing on the back ones, it sounds a lot like rapid knocking.  Not really loud as much as highly annoying when I am trying to sleep.  I usually let her in the closet to explore when I’m putting on my makeup in the morning because I can keep an eye on her while she is knocking things on the floor (I have a walk in closet with a dresser in there and she enjoys pushing things off the edge and watching them fall).  But I was not about to let her in there unsupervised and certainly not at 6am.  This was supposed to be my sleeping in day.  I finally waded up the pillow case and threw it at her.  She was back 5 minutes later, hell bent on getting in.  I threw my teddy bear next.  Not at her but at the door above her head so it would startle her.  That didn’t work either.   I just gave up and finally went in search of coffee, I know when I’ve lost the match.

I confess…
I am eating peanut butter crackers and drinking a diet coke for breakfast.  Don’t judge it sounded good to me.

I leave you with one of the things that got my daughter into a fit of giggles last night.  She had been on Pinterest and for whatever reason was searching on “Bob Cat” and this is what came up.  She laughed herself into tears that night, and again over dinner when she pulled it up to show her brother.  Scary thing is, I found it nearly as funny as she did.

Better Living Through…Nature!?

This week I opted in on the Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop and chose option 3 – Tell us something that fascinates  you.

I used to say, “Better living through chemistry”, as in just hand me a glass of wine and this will all be okay.  No wine? Okay a cold beer will do the trick.  Or a shot of whiskey.  Or chocolate, just give me the darn candy bar or cookies and I’ll let everyone live another day.  And of course there is the good old Lexapro because the ex said I was overly emotional and had anger issues.  He is the ONLY person who ever told me this, even my kids now tell me that no I really wasn’t that bad.  But what the heck, I’ve got myself down to 20mg and it probably has kept the body count down while I went through the divorce and these 2+ years after.  My clue that I really don’t need it, for depression or anger is when I go to take it, from the daily pill container, and discover that I haven’t had it in a week.  And no one is saying, “yikes have you had your meds today???”  I was on 40mg but honestly I was border line zombie material so I backed myself down from it.  I think having a full range of emotions is the intent, without slicing throats.  Only one throat I have had any real desire to slash and that one divorced me.  Well okay, the soon-to-be-though-not-soon-enough-former-sister-in-law, but honestly I think it would be better if she suffered.  Sorry, inner voice took over there for just a minute.

Chocolate makes my butt huge, and well so does beer.  Wine is all good but there is that whole  “in moderation” thing, and the risk of a DUI and well that would suck sour grapes really.   Honestly I do not care for taking medication of any kind.  I have grown more and more skeptical of chemicals.  I think modern medicine is amazing, but I think the less drugs we take the better.  Not to mention side effects and those lovely little warning labels that say not to exceed __ number of doses in a specified time period.  That is just dandy but what if my nose is stuffed up and I’m only 3 hours into the 12 hour period of the nasal spray???  Or  it has only been 2 hours and I cannot exceed 4 doses over a 24 hour period of some pill??

Recently my skeptical self encountered essential oils.  100% pure, pharmaceutical grade oils.  I bought into herbal teas after finding success with ailments, then discovered oils.  In struggling with allergies I allowed myself to ‘try’ spraying Eucasol from SwissJust on a tissue and laying it across my face and holy mother of sinus clogs I discovered that my head cleared right out and I could breathe!  I’ve gone through almost every drop of the stuff I have and will be buying more.  And unlike that famous vapor rub, this doesn’t leave greasy stains on anything.  I love it.

Then came Lavender Oil.  My friend had trouble sleeping, suffering from insomnia issues.  She put a few drops in her hands at bed time, cupped them over her nose and inhaled a while, then rubbed her hands on her pillow case and spent her night inhaling the wonderful scent and she SLEPT!  I was in a short struggle with brain scramble, when the ADD just won’t settle down so my mind could shut off and I could sleep, so I tried it.  I again was shocked beyond my skepticism when I found myself sleeping like a downed tree.

The granddaddy of them all is the Body Balm.  I was told to put it in a spray bottle and spray it down my chest and back a pump or two when hot flashes hit, thanks the menopause trying to elbow its unwelcome self into my life.  The primary ingredient is Arnica Extract.  There are 12 secondary ingredients including Edelweiss extract, Chamomile extract and St. John’s Wort extract.  I can tell you that it is said to be awesome for bruises, sprains and stings.  My sister put it on  a blister and it was gone the next day.  And with regards to those hot flashes?  Cue the angels singing and warm light from above, it works!

I have now taken a total fascination into essential oils and aroma therapy.  The Anti Stress Activator has 15 various oils, and 2  drops gently rubbed behind my ears and on the nap of my neck and yes, the Marvelous one is chillaxed.  Mind crystal clear and R-E-L-A-X-E-D.  Fascinated is so understated.  Call it mind over matter, the stuff of witch doctors and snake oil salesman, but I’m here to tell you that it works.  This stuff is essentially amazing!   Should you decide to try out essential oils, be certain they are 100% pure, pharmaceutical grade or they lack the necessary strength to really be effective.

Wine & Cheese ~ 56th Serving

Welcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.

Many weeks on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times.

I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs.

I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well.

I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal.

If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings.

Sit back and join me now for the 56th  serving of some wine and cheese!

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WINE

:(  When I took mom to the doctor the other day, I hopped on the scale so I could see how accurate our home one is.  Sadly, entirely TOO accurate.  Time to pull out the staple gun for my mouth. UGH.

:(  I really need to boost my sales at the moment.  I found about a dozen projects I want to work on and pinned them to my Pinterest board for crochet projects, but currently cannot justify the expense of all that lovely yarn I would need.

:(  I want to have my own Etsy shop, with my sister, for our crochet creations.   But neither of us has the time to create all the lovely throws, baby items etc for the shop.

:(  Autumn is here, and the temps, while super nice today, appear to be headed down by the weekend.  Almost time to pull out the electric blanket and the only one around here who will think that is just wonderful is my cat.

CHEESE

:)  Until Old Man Winter arrives, things are very beautiful outside.  Lots of color and today the temps are amazing!

:)  I am working on a really pretty, somewhat complicated pattern for a another throw just for me.

:)  Great text conversation with Long Beach last night when I was wired out and couldn’t sleep, we are polar opposites which makes for lively exchanges.  He still has it in his head that I’m THE one for him.

:)  Nothing says YUM like left over, black bean chili made with venison.  Especially when the meat was free thanks to my son’s hunting.  :)

DESSERT

I resemble this:

Sniff Sniff Achoo Achoo Blow And Oops!

Usually I do Post-It-Note-Tuesday, but today, I am late even getting to blogging.  Several days late.  Too much going on, and when I had time to write I was seated in front of the 2012 Debate #3.  And that is ALL I am saying as far as politics.  Welcome to my wacky life of late.

My allergies are in full swing.  Actually if truth be told they are in over drive.  Nose running, eyes and nose itching, even the roof of my mouth and my inner ears itch.  I’m rolling through the tissues a box at a time when I am at home.  A walking, breathing, gooey, nasty, snot machine.  Sounds absolutely adorable, doesn’t it?  Yes, far less than feeling sexy, I feel like a commercial for _______ (insert your favorite allergy med).  Sniff sniff, ACCHOOOOOOO!!!!  BLOOOOOOOW.  And it isn’t the pollen, that is low. Nope this is the cats.  All 3 of them.  One of which is mine and has taken again to bedtime love fests of chin scratches and head rubs before she will return to the end of the bed and snuggle up against my leg or my feet, leaving a bunch of  fur and dander.  If I try to pretend I’m sleeping, she sits right on the pillow next to my head and stares down at me like a vulture waiting for the last heart beat of some road kill before it swoops in.  I sneezed so darn hard and so many times rapidly the other day I seriously should have considered shopping for Poise pads.  Lovely, 50 has me in the cross hairs, the AARP will be sending me crap soon, and now I can sneeze and wet my pants, such talent!  Let us not forget the hot flashes but THAT is another topic and I’m not up for that one.  Pass the Geritol if they still make it.  Right about now, my dear biker friend is freaking out on life as women don’t do ‘those’ things, like wet our pants, fart or belch.

Can you tell I’m totally out of touch with my inner diva and goddess today?

I feel so much better now!  Time to go grab my hook, yarn and plant myself in front of NCIS so I can drool over Mark Harmon, then NCIS:LA so I can pant over LL Cool J, and then Sons Of Anarchy when I just might lick the television screen whenever Charlie Hunnam is on it!

Just for you Cowboy!!!

Friday Confessional – No Skeletons In My Closet, Just A Hooker

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Time to hit the confessional, currently being hosted over at High-Heeled Love while Mamarazzi takes a break. SO the icon above will take you to Mamarazzi’s place, you need to click on High-Heeled Love to get to the link-up if you decided to participate or want to read other blogger confessions.  Face it, you KNOW you want too, because we all like juicy stuff on others.

My ex-husband used to say we didn’t have skeletons in our closet, our’s sat out on the couch where you could see them all, as we had nothing to hide.  I try hard to carry that on, as I see no point in hiding things.

I confess…. I have a slight competitive streak in me.  Okay more than slight.  A little competition for the sake of fun can get me up off my tush and onto the playing field rather quickly.  Like yesterday there was a recruit-a-thon in our Avon district, so I was more driven to go find new leads and ended up with 6!  Or when it comes to truly important things, like my farm in FarmVille2.  Staying ahead of my baby sister will drive me to pull out of bed early to harvest my wheat.  Provided it is an even playing field, with NO real money being spent on the virtual farms.  Not that I haven’t been tempted!

I confess…. I have been enjoying the attention coming my way from out west via Long Beach, my nickname for some guy that lives there that has been off and on trying to get my attention for a few years now.  Claims he loves me (I confess I’m not that dumb as to believe in love at first sight, especially through photos) and wants to marry me.  Daddy didn’t raise me to be an episode of Criminal Minds so my being skeptical is understated.  But I will admit the texts are kind of fun.  But no wedding bells or relationships in my future, as he has never actually come here  to meet me despite the 2 year attraction now.  And nothing sexual, the texts are pretty vanilla, just amusing.

I confess…. Sometimes I like the idea of a Zombie Apocalypse.  I love the show, The Walking Dead, and we even have a ‘Zombie Attack Survival Guide’ poster hanging in the upstairs hallway.  Why you ask? Okay it is all fantasy dialog, but there are more than a few folks I’d love to have a  valid, lawful reason to stab in the head with a screwdriver.  Don’t freak out, I’m not a nut case, like I said, fantasy dialog.  Admit it, you know of at least one person that in your mind’s eye you’ve splattered their gray matter on the walls via a crossbow!  Huh? You haven’t? hmm….don’t tell my therapist.

I confess…. I do my best work in the 11.5th hour.  Hence I will be crocheting my sweet little fingers off today to finish up blankets  for the baby shower for my grandson tomorrow.  Don’t judge!  One is actually for my granddaugther, as she became my son’s the day he married her mother.  We adore this little red head and I promised myself once that all of my grandchildren would have a blanket from their grandma.  So I am making one for her just not a baby one, this is a beautiful big-girl blanket.  I will post a photo later this weekend, as my daughter-in-law reads my blogs sometimes and she doesn’t get a sneak peak!

I confess…. I am not going to make it to ladies bible study this morning because of that blanket.  But it has to be ready.  It is hard being the big sister with a new baby getting the attention, especially when you blend families, so I want her to feel extra special in her new role.  So I need to get back to my hooking here in a brief few minutes!

I confess…. I am NOT going to have an iPhone.  Just not caught up in the hoopla or sold on it.  After a side-by-side comparison online of iPhone 5, Droid Razr Maxx and the new Samsung Galaxy SIII….I am probably going with the Galaxy.  I am very familiar with Droid software, and in comparing them, I actually see little difference that matters except the price!  And I’m seeing more and more apps that were iPhone now coming out in Droid as it is being realized that not everyone thinks the iPhone is the end all.  It helped that my daughter, an iPhone owner, opted to go with the Galaxy SIII when her upgrade time came this past week.  And she loved her iPhone, but says she feels the Galaxy wins hands down. And this phone talks to you in that creepy lady voice too, and does face talk, and the battery life is nearly twice that of the iPhone 5. Right there is enough for me.

Okay, that is all I have for now.  Off to find my hook and yarn and finish these blankets!

Signing off,

The Happy, Somewhat Of A Nut Case, Hooker

Essential Skeptic Turned “Snake Oil” Sales Woman!

For years I’ve been a huge skeptic of the “snake oil” salesmen out there pushing all natural remedies for whatever ails you at the moment.  Mostly because of a lack of education.  Home remedies, holistic healing, you name it I was against it simply because I just didn’t buy into it all.  My daughter contracted poison ivy one time, and unbeknownst to us she had the oil from the ivy on her skin  which was transferred from her skin, to her rag doll and pillowcase, then onto her face.  We were out of town at a family conference at the time, and the first morning there she woke up looking like the elephant man. Her entire face was so swollen she didn’t have a chin, and one ear was HUGE.  I regret that I didn’t take a photo of that, but she was very insistent that we not.  It took a lot to convince her that she was not going to look like that forever, especially when I wasn’t sure what was wrong.  My husband ran her to the Emergency Room and they put her on steroids for it, seems the child is highly allergic to poison ivy.  One of the not so sweet things she gets from my side, as I am also very allergic.

While there at the conference a fellow attendee told me she had an all natural remedy for my daughter, and that it worked great because it was, after all, all natural.  Skeptic me said “thanks but no thank you, poison ivy is all natural too and you see where that got her.”  Well yes, it IS natural, but not all things natural are bad for us or dangerous.  But as I said, at the time I thought the ‘all natural’ crowd were a bunch of kooks with braided hair, flowy skirts and they homeschooled their kids.  I never braided my hair, but there is a lot to be said for those flowy fabrics, and I did end up homeschooling my kids!  However I still didn’t buy into aroma therapy and essential oils.  And I didn’t know anyone else who did either.  My family is made up of nurses and paramedics, a doctor and, well we’re pretty solid on medical science and technology.

Years ago I began reading a series of books by Jean M. Auel, called The Earth Children’s Series.  Dated to prehistoric times, cave man days, the characters of the book used all sorts of plants for medicinal purposes.  Chamomile for teas to sleep etc., which I found on the grocery store shelf!  In fact there are all sorts of herbal teas  on the market and honestly I’ve used a few and found them to work as claimed.  Of course it could all be in my head but there are those out there like my ex-husband who shall remain unnamed, that would say there isn’t much of anything in my head.  But mind over matter or real properties, they work for me.

Recently a friend began working for SwissJust, a company that sells “Swiss natural products for the body and mind”.  Essential oils and herbal therapy type items.  My skeptical barriers went up immediately, though she was very sold on the benefits.  I spent some time researching online and discovered that there is a difference between SwissJust and many other ‘essential oils’ on the market.  The vast majority, about 95%, of the essential oils on the market are perfume grade.  SwissJust sells 100% pharmaceutical grade essential oils.  They are not diluted, they are the real deal.   But I still found it hard to believe that the aromas and oils could have any real benefit.

My friend had me sent the Just Favorites set to try.  I admit I did not go into this with a real open mind, but rather set out to prove it’s all bunk.

The first item I ended up trying is the Eucasol.  My bad cat allergies make for a very stuffy nose most of the time.  So, I sprayed it on a tissue, then got comfy and put it across my face.  All prepared to dispel the myths…I found I could breathe.  Seriously, head opened right up, go figure.  My sinuses are traders!  But hey, I could breathe!  I’ve sprayed it on my pillow case next to where my head is most nights (you don’t want to have it directly on your skin or it irritates it).  But still I was not sold. One item doesn’t make me a believer.

Next I tried the Anti-Stress oil.  Don’t know if it relieved my stress really, but I DID feel way more relaxed.  But I wrote that off to being all in my head.

The Chamomile hand cream, okay this stuff is flat out amazing.  A little bit goes a very long way, and lasts through 4 hand washings.  It isn’t sticky or greasy so I could text (very important) right away.  But hey, a good lotion doesn’t necessarily have to be natural, I thought.  But I was sold and have continued to use it.

The biggie for me is the body balm.  I was told to put it in a small, clean spray bottle to spray down my shirt front and back for hot flashes.  As life has me in the beginnings of menopause I’m BFFs with hot flashes the past few years.  Now that, I know was NOT all in my head, the portable tropical climate I walk around in is very real.  This stuff  is amazing, and it works.  My sister used a little on a blister and it was gone the next morning.  Okay now it has my serious attention.

I was now plain curious and the next thing I tried, that is not in the Favorites, is Lavender oil.  I was having some insomnia issues and someone said a few drops rubbed in my hands and inhaled would help.  I did as my friend and rubbed my hands on my pillow case too.  And yes it helped, I slept like a downed tree!

My sister used the Juniper cream for some serious neck spasms and pain she was having, said it worked like a charm.  She being a nurse, was skeptical at first too until the blister went away so fast.

So here I am, a skeptic turned believer.  So much of one that I’m now working for SwissJust.  Still with Avon too, but now also a “snake oil” sales woman.

And I’m recruiting.  SwissJust is 80+ years old, and in Switzerland, but is still relatively new to the United States.  If you are interested let me know, I’d love to have you on my team.  Or if you just want to purchase essential oils because you are already a firm believer in their properties, please browse my site!  Yes, 100% pharmaceutical essential oils are pricey, but remember you are using a few tiny drops at a time, they last.  And honestly, they work and they are worth every penny!  You can read info on the company and products when you are on my site as well.

10 Social Networking Sites/Apps

As part of the 100 Things I Love series, here are 10 social networking sites or apps that I’ve come to really enjoy! If they are underlined it is a link so you can check it out online.

TWITTER – I am very much Twiddicted, I tweet a lot, and follow people that tweet some fun stuff I like.  Some are family, some news, mostly just people that struck me as interesting or amusing.  Twitter is a 140 character mini-blog basically, and it is harmless fun.  Online or as an app, both ways are awesome.

 Foursquare – I love this app.  You ‘check-in’ where you go and earn points, badges and if you check in the most, the Mayorship of the location.  I’ve stolen said Mayorship and had them stolen from me  several times.  It is absolutely pointless other than some places offer food or other specials when you check in or if you are the Mayor and check in.  Harmless fun for us easily amused types. This of course is an app.

Facebook – Facebook is kind of like an ongoing sitcom for me.  Or a never ending newsletter I can read on friends and family.  As busy as everyone seems to be it is one of the best ways to stay in touch with my cousins that I would really talk to otherwise.  Comes in online and app versions.

GetGlue – Another truly pointless site and app, you check-in when you are watching TV and earn stickers (glue).  I have multiple sheets of stickers for various shows and specific episodes of many of those shows…and not sure what I should do with them.  It’s fun to see how many others have checked in to see the same shows, but it is pretty pointless.  Online or app, whichever you prefer.

Pinterest – ERMAHGERD this is totally amazing.  Okay to me it is.  It is a pinboard for things you find online that you like and want to remember where  you saw them.  You categorize your pins to help you find them.  The best thing to do, if you are not familiar, is go look at mine by clicking the link.  I LOVE Pinterest.  I have all kinds of things pinned for crafts I want to do, room decor I like, even a dreamboard.  Online and available as an app for iPhone and Android!

Words With Friends – Available through Facebook online and as a app, it is scrabble against friends on your friend list.  I love it, but tend to forget that I need to go play it.  I’ve had numerous games going at once but I admit, I have a cheat site to help me.

Draw Something – Pictionary with your friends, also a great app, and one of my favorite ways to waste  time when I have nothing else to do.  Which lately isn’t very often.

HEYTELL – Basically it is voice texting.  I love it because I can talk a lot faster than I can type, and sometimes I just like hearing my kids voices rather than reading texts.  Especially useful when driving or busy and cannot type I can speak and send, then listen when the answer comes back. Rather cool if you ask me.

WAZE – I am new  to this one,  but I LIKE it!  Hard really to explain, but it will help you find your WAZE around town, bad traffic, speed traps etc. Best bet is to read the FAQ, as it seems you can find ‘treasures’ and win actual prizes. Go figure.

Texting – Last but not least, texting rocks.  I text a lot between my Avon team, family, friends etc.  Texting is my favorite, and easiest way to communicate with family and friends because calling, while far better, usually finds people busy, or like my brothers out on a fire run, it’s just easier if I text and they can return it when they have time.

By no means is this an exhaustive list, just the ones that come to mind.

A 100% Refundable Candidate!!

There is no way you could miss that it is an election year and that we are coming up on election day!   Both parties are pushing hard to get your vote with lots of promises, and if you are like me you are skeptical about them keeping most of those promises.

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My Wild, Untamed Tongue

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Social media has ushered in a new way of communicating.  Where we used to speak our words for others to hear, or actually write them out in long hand on paper, now we put them in texts, on Facebook walls, Twitter etc.  Our words can now reach much further simply by hitting the enter key, or as in this case, publish.  The trouble with social media is it is much easier say things when sitting behind my computer than when I am in person.  I’ve always communicated much better when writing my thoughts, but now there is a safety in the anonymity of using electronic media to stick my opinion and thoughts out there for others to ‘hear’.

In December of 2010, just 4 months nearly to the day after my divorce was final, I ventured back to my church ‘home’.  I thought I was ready for it, the prodigal daughter going home to her Father and faith family.  I was welcomed back with open arms and tears, and I knew that it was HOME.  But it wasn’t long before I hit the ground and ran from there, and somewhat back to what had been familiar to me.  Part of that was due to my own words, which were a reflection of my very battered heart.

I was still up to my neck in bitterness and pain at not only my ex-husband, but many former friends.  One I lashed out about on Twitter.  She proceeded to send copies of that tweet to my pastor, in an email in which she painted herself to be a wounded believer by my words.  She also made sure to let it be known of my past in the swinger lifestyle.  It was an attempt to hurt me, I get that, and she was successful.  It was one more flame on the fire that was burning away at my heart and soul.  That combined with a few other incidents concerning  my ‘words’ and I hit the ground running in to opposite direction of where I needed to be.

Part of the problem with going back was that things had changed.  I was no longer “Pete & Marti”, and that was hard.  The couple who had been our best friends were divorced and he was there alone, she was missing.  And I honestly felt that no one there could understand the road I was on at that time.  Honestly, I still don’t know if anyone understood or could begin to grasp what I was going through.  It was not just the divorce, but where I had been during the final years of my marriage.  I was constantly on the defense so when someone did point something out, it felt like I was being judged.  That was all my own heart issue, I get that now.  This time, I went back and instead of being on the defense I decided that I would simply relax.  I don’t have to be liked by everyone, because not everyone is going to like me.  And yes, I am going to be under scrutiny by my fellow believers, because I did walk away twice, and I had been in a very dark, sinful place for a long while after having been a proclaimed believer.  I gave folks reason to be skeptical and that is okay.  My return isn’t about them, it’s about where I  know I need to be, being fed and worshiping the Lord.

One of the reasons that former friend’s email to my pastor upset me so much is that deep down I knew she was right.  Her motives were questionable, but I had in fact done something that was unbecoming of a believer.  I don’t have to answer for her motives, that is between her and God, but I do have to one day give account for every careless word spoken by me:

Matthew 12:36

New King James Version (NKJV)

36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.

If I had a dime for every careless word/idle word that has come out of my mouth just since I’ve been a believer, I’d never have to work again and could live off of the interest only.  Judgmental? Oh yes that would be me!  Run  off of the mouth? GUILTY!  I used to take pride in the fact that I could slice someone’s jugular verbally.  Not exactly something to be proud of, I know.  And it doesn’t matter if what I say is true, it is the motive and intent of my heart that is behind the words that is also at issue.  When in doubt, I should just be silent!

Which brings me to the whole social media side of the issue.  Back when James wrote his letter that is now the book of James, written and spoken words were all we had.  And while he addressed the tongue, or verbal side of communicating, I think the spirit of the passage applies to written words, and now social media as well.  But not just on posted, public places where we write, but in emails and texts along with the spoken word.  Because we WILL one day have to give an account before God, on the day we are judged, and it will include, no doubt about it, every word spoken and written.

I’m learning to keep my mouth shut more than I run it.  To stick to what my grandpa used to tell me, that if I didn’t have something nice to say, it wasn’t necessary to say anything at all.  I later realized that is what Thumper’s mom taught him, in the movie & story of Bambi, what I call the Thumper Rule.   This is by far one of the hardest things for me to do, keep my mouth shut, sit on my fingers when I want to lash out at someone on Twitter, in my blog, or on Facebook.  I have a tendency to go all mama bear on people and need to be more careful.  Stop, think, think again, wait 24 hours, pray during that time.  It will keep me from stumbling in this area.  And meditate on this verse above from Matthew, apply it like spiritual duct tape to my mouth and hands.

James 3:5-12

New King James Version (NKJV)

Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things.

See how great a forest a little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. 11 Does a spring send forth fresh water and bitter from the same opening? 12 Can a fig tree, my brethren, bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Thus no spring yields both salt water and fresh.[a]

Friday Confessional

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It is time to slide into the confessional and let it all out again.  Mamarazzi is on a blog break so they are linking up over at High Heeled Love.  Come on, you know you have  stuff to get off your chest!

:)   Naughty – Oh I have been a really bad girl this week….yes really bad.  I went and got myself involved in one of these time wasting, online games.  On Facebook.  I am so darn stuck in FarmVille2 that when I’m out running errands I have this nagging thought in the back of my brain that I might have forgotten to harvest something and will return to a field of withered plants.  It is just pathetic, I know.  They are just computer pixels, not real fruits and veggies, yet I let this eat at me.
:)   I didn’t care – Okay, I confess.  The Cincinnati Reds were in the baseball playoffs…and I did not give a flying frog’s butt.  Really.  I am a hometown girl, I love my city and our teams, but it is October.  WHY is the baseball season so long now??  It used to be long over by now didn’t it?  Sorry but it is FOOTBALL season now, I don’t care anymore about baseball, those are the boys of summer.  I also wasn’t the least bit surprised they choked and blew it in the final game yesterday.  And I just didn’t care.

:)   Meat – as in deer, ground venison.  My son got his first deer of the season and brought his mama a few pounds.  It is going to be mixed into my now famous, black bean chili.  I will use both the venison and ground round, but not going to tell anyone around here in the Diva Den.  They’ll only know if they read this today.  But bet me they will forget by the time I get around to making it.  Waaahaaaahaaaaa……

:)   Over Indulgence – I’m using donating blood today as an excuse to over eat.  Cannot have me passing out and hitting floor, right?