Wine & Cheese ~ 85th Serving

wineandcheese2Welcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.

Every week on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings. Sit back and join me now for the 85th serving of some whine and cheese!

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:(  CINCINNATI:  You can’t get there from anywhere!  Traffic in these parts is akin to a warped nightmare after watching a horror movie, “Night Of The Endless Orange Barrels”.  School buses, construction on every single major highway in the loop around the greater city area, excess numbers of cars as college classes are now back in session.  No matter which direction I go, it’s a mess.  Now toss in those folks who refuse to wear sunglasses so that we can add “sun delay” to the equation and you have the recipe for a really crappy commute.  Good thing I use the time to listen to personal development CDs or I’d be a crazed zombie when I arrived at the office.

:(  I am kicking myself for not working hard enough to be at the Avon National Conference this year.  Seeing the videos and photos on so many other’s pages is killing me.  I could have been there if I would have buckled down much sooner than I finally did.  I WILL be there next year, by earning the entire trip free because I am not screwing around with this anymore.


:)  Busting butt to get my Avon business where it needs to be.  I’ve shed a bunch of things from my life so that I can achieve what I am capable of having.  This business changes lives.  It has already changed mine, I made President’s Recognition Club – means I get 40% commissions the rest of this year and all of next year.  I make enough to pay my car payment each month.  And I am going to the top.  Let me know if you want to change your life, a few hundred dollars a month is a big deal in many budgets.  I’d love to have you on my team, anywhere in the USA you can do this with me for a small, $15 investment.  Yep just $15 and you get your full kit and website, and you can change your life too.

:)  Loving being back in ‘school’ again.  Scored 100% on first round of quizzes.   I’m taking 2 classes right now and loving them both.  Learning new things is awesome, I enjoy stretching my brain.

:)  I know I’ve said it before, but I love my job!  We have such a great team here, and we laugh a lot even though our days can get really hectic and stressful.  It rocks working here even on our worst days.




My Marvelous Relationship Non-negotiables

still life with vintage writing instrumentsOne of my virtual mentors, Darren Hardy, posted recently in the morning mentoring email, about his and his wife’s relationship non-negotiables.   He then challenged folks in a relationship to huddle with their significant other and come up with said list of their own.  For us singles, he challenged us to do one that will work well later as a vetting filter.  I loved the idea and decided to work on one tonight.  I am sitting here with a glass of wine, a candle burning in my room and soft music playing.  Can you say relaxing?

Marvelous Relationship Commandments

The Non-negotiables For A Relationship With Marvi Marti

Never, ever, use the ‘D’ word - Divorce is NOT an option.  If I marry I expect those vows to mean something.  It’s about forever and not looking back.  Anything can be fixed and gotten past.  No threats of quitting.  I’m not perfect and neither are you…him…whoever it may end up being is not perfect and will come with habits and quirks and a list of faults.  Get over mine, I plan to get over yours!

Name calling is a no no!  Name calling is the stuff of playgrounds full of children.  Leave the unkind names out of things.

MOVE!  As in endless hours in front of the television is not acceptable to me.  Hour after hour of sitting there watching the same concert, movie, or playing video games endlessly is not something I can live with.  Yes, we all need to relax now and then, but you cannot nurture a relationship when you are killing off the enemy or watching some band for the 110th time on video.  Get up, take a walk with me, talk to me, grocery shop with me, DO SOMETHING with me that requires movement.

Grow on a personal level.  Read, listen to CDs, do things to improve you.  One cannot complain about one’s station in life if you are not doing something to improve it.  Stuck in the same rut day in and day out but doing nothing to improve that is not healthy.  Take a class, work toward a promotion, but do something to stretch and grow yourself.

Personal upkeep.  Yes we are all getting older, and carrying around a few extra pounds.  But at least make an effort to be reasonably fit, and take care of yourself in what you eat, in hygiene and over all maintenance of you!

Church and faith.  Faith is important and on at least most fronts we need to be of like faith and going to church together.  Lead the home front, no matter how imperfectly, through prayer and studying God’s Word together.  Helping each other in our walk will help us grow together.

Intimacy.  It is for married folks, and I will not budge on that.  I believe God’s Word is clear on the topic.  But once married, I believe sexual intimacy is a must, and the more frequent the better.  Physical expression of what is in the heart is vital.  Making love with heart, mind, body and soul cannot be put off for any length of time apart from illness or required distance apart because of work obligations, and should be resumed immediately once back together.

Faithfulness.  No question, if you are a cheater, you are not welcome in my life.  I won’t share what is mine.  Mentally, physically and emotionally there should be complete faithfulness.  The boys at the office don’t need to know what goes on between us, let them wonder, it is not their business.

PDA.  While it is not necessary to climb all over each other, I don’t care to be with someone who cannot hold my hand in public, or show small signs of affection toward me in front of others.  I’m not talking about deep, passionate kisses, but there should never be a doubt that a couple is a couple.

Honesty.  Lying is not ever okay.  EVER.

These are just things I cannot give an inch on, period.  I know there is a man out there who feels the same way, and there may be things he feels need to be added to the list.  I don’t believe these are unreasonable at all.  Now if only such a man exists!

A Long Over Due Apology To TQE

I'm sorryDear Teresa/Queenie (TQE),

You are correct, you have never read a word of an apology from me for the ugly things I have said about you in the past on my blog.  While I could swear I had done so in email, you are entitled to a very public apology here on my page, where I had posted those unkind things.  I am embarrassed that this was not sooner, as it should have been.

I am sorry, for anything I have said or posted, that was unkind, ugly, negative or caused you pain in some way.  I will not insult you by trying to justify a single word, it really was not necessary.  You did not deserve to be treated in any way but with respect and as one who ascribes to the Thumper rule (if you don’t have something nice to say it isn’t necessary to say anything at all), I should have simply kept silent.

What I said and posted was meant to cut deep and cause you pain in your heart, and if I was successful then I am truly sorry.  I had no right to lash out at you the way that I did.  I am quite guilty of using my blog to attack others in the past, you were one of my targets.  I very much regret every unkind word, and if there are an posts remaining with unkind things said I will remove them at once.

I’d like to add that I am very sorry I was not a better friend to you when we were on good terms.  I could have been so much more than I was, and I know looking back over my life that I have had a selfish streak in me that needed weeding out.

I mean every word of this post, it is from my heart.

You were a good friend, and I miss the friendship terribly.

I hope you will find it in your heart one day to forgive me.  Meanwhile I will always pray for you when I see the bracelet I wear on my arm, for all good things and blessings to come your way.

Kindest regards, and blessings to you.



Sunday Evening Coffee Musings

Close up of cup of coffee with pink roseThis post started out as Sunday Morning coffee musings.  But I just didn’t have time so when I got home from church and had some lunch and a fresh cup of java at my side I started to write.  I was so sleepy that Sunday Afternoon coffee wasn’t happening.  I decided a nice little nap was in order.  4 hours later it had been a Sunday afternoon snooze & snore fest!  I really did need it though so I’m not complaining.  In fact I feel great now.  So, it is Sunday Evening coffee musings.

I really enjoyed that message at church, it was very well done and delivered as always.  It gave me so much to think about this week when it comes to God ordained that we should work, be it at home or in an office, and we should be doing our work to His glory.  It has me thinking a lot!  I also very much enjoy that my children and I are once again attending the same church and hearing the same message.  Most Sundays we go out for lunch afterward which is very nice as well, though today was an exception.  I marvel as I sit there with them, watching them interact with their spouses and children, that it seems like yesterday they were in diapers, and now they are parents themselves.  Life is so short.

What is it with dogs?  You send one outside to go, and said puppy REALLY has to poo.  Do they just get to the yard and go?  NOPE!  They still, despite how badly they need to potty, will search over and over in a pattern, circling over an area as many as 20 times (yes I have counted and sometimes it is over that number) until they find just the right square inch to deposit upon.  Imagine if we did that?  In our house there is a bathroom off of the kitchen at the bottom of the steps going up to the upper level of the house.  At the top of the 6 or 7 steps is another bathroom outside of the 2 bedrooms on the west wing as I call it.  Now, picture a human being running from one bathroom to the other, up and down the stairs, or from west wing to east to the bathroom off the master bedroom, back and forth again and again before deciding which potty was the best, cleanest, smelled prettiest…whatever is is that would decide. Or perhaps in a public restroom, wandering in and out of each empty stall until you find the perfect one?  Heck in today’s society the decision probably comes down to which one has the best wifi reception on a cell phone so you can pass the time reading Facebook or playing Candy Crush Saga.   Odd creatures these canines.

I need to really think through the whole Sunday being a day of rest idea.  Usually I would be working on something for one of my direct sales businesses or my classes I am taking.  I justified it that because I am done raising my kids, and I’m not in a relationship, that I needed to use the time to continue getting things done.  I rarely just sit and read for pleasure, or like today, nap!  REST.  I have had to force myself to not open up homework or the work email, and just enjoy the day of mental and physical down time.  I don’t consider writing a task, this is therapy for me so blogging is okay.

This day is quickly drawing to a close, so it is off to prepare for tomorrow, to take on my job, #workinglikeaboss, and being marvelous.  Jammies and a good book with a hot cup of Chamomile and Valerian root tea to help me sleep soundly through the night.


Friday Confessional

Ah Friday!  Time to hop on over to the confessional with Aubrey and let it all out, get it off the chest, out of the soul.  You can join us by clicking the icon above to link up with your confessions.


I confess…

Okay I did NOT hop, nor will I, over to the confessional.  I’m too stinking tired to hop.  In fact it is a small wonder I am awake right now.  I am so far behind on sleep lately as I am not getting to bed early enough then storms and acid reflux have kept me awake at night.  UGH.  And the cat who hates storms had to come make biscuits on my pillow (kneed it with her front paws) and inform me of the lack of food in their bowls because, you know how cats are, OMG WE’RE GOING TO STARVE TO DEATH.

I confess…

I brought a salad for lunch but it’s small and I’m debating if I want to run down the street and get something else.  But that would mean I’d have to actually leave the office and right now I’m more inclined to kick off my shoes and sleep for lunch rather than running out or writing.  Yes I am that tired.

I confess…

Last night I was just finished with all things technology.  Our cable company “did us a favor” and gave us a better router, and that is where the trouble started.  Sure it saved us $40 a month but the cable and Internet were down all night, with the exception of one TV.  Really????  I had 2 online classes to attend, I was not happy.  In fact frustrated would be under defining it.  I had hoped to be able to do one at work at some point today, since it is for my job, but that hasn’t panned out either.  I need another 24 hours in my day and a do over please!!

I confess…

I have made an attempt to reach out to someone, olive branch like.  Hoping it is well received.  Praying either way for this individual.

I confess…

I hear my jammies and a big, hot cup of Sleepy Time Extra tea calling my name.  My bed is calling me too.  My dog is asleep under a chair in my office, and I’m jealous.  Wonder if she’d scoot over and make some room for me?

Wine & Cheese ~ 84th Serving

wine n cheeseWelcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.


Every week on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings. Sit back and join me now for the 84th serving of some whine and cheese!


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:(  Menopause sucks when you have to go out on a job site and the structure is sealed up and no A/C or open windows.  Glad that is not a normal part of my job.

:(  Nothing like being rudely awakened in the middle of the night by the weather radio going off in advance of an approaching severe thunderstorm.  Then finding that your cat is nervously “making biscuits” (kneading) the pillow next to your head, purring in fear.  You know it isn’t going to be good, even though there is no storm just yet, when the animals get freaked out.  Then just as you are drifting back to sleep it goes off yet again, only now there is thunder and a LOT of lightening, wind blowing and reports of hail.  I was not happy and I’m exhausted today.

:(  I am having serious issues with sweet cravings.  This has to stop.  I’m doing so good and do not need to be thinking about junkie calories.


:)  I am really excited about the second class I am taking, this one for work, which starts tonight.  I LOVE learning new things!

:)  The other class is 22 lectures long, for Nouthetic (Biblical) Counseling.  My goal is to be a certified biblical counselor.

:)  I am a little slow at discovering this, no doubt, but I figured out I could save a bundle on those instant oatmeal breakfasts.  I just use a 1/4 cup of regular, old fashioned oats, a little brown sugar, and the smallest setting on my Keurig!  All goes into a large coffee mug and after a few minutes I have breakfast.  For about the same price as one or two of those prepackaged servings in a cardboard cup I have 40+ servings!

:)  I achieved President’s Recognition Club with Avon, guaranteeing me 40% earnings the remainder of this year and all of the next calendar year!  I also will be Avon’s guest at the PR Club gala dinner next Spring and receive free gifts from Avon.  My Mrs. Albee award figurine for this year is GORGEOUS!  She is my 3rd one now, and I love it.  I have my sites set on Honor Society by the end of the calendar year, that would be a first for me.


This is just funny to me.  Farting fruit!



Where I Am Spiritually, Next Time Ask ME

Marvi Marti:

I wrote and posted this over on my other page,, but wanted to share it here too.

Originally posted on A Prodigal Daughter's Return:

iStock_000019755169SmallMy church just finished up a series called, “Oh The Wonders I’ve Seen”.  It was a really good series, and I’m glad I was there for each message.  But one message really stood out to me, so much so that I got a copy of the message and I am listening to it in my car.  I’ve gone back and watched it online as well.

In the message pastor Tome talked about how we have not because we ask not.  The bible spells that out for us.  And that God always answers prayers, be it yes, no or maybe, they do not go unanswered.  He also touched on the fact that motives behind our prayers might be why we aren’t getting what we want if we do ask.  He talked of a recent trip to a 3rd world country and the miracle that was the answer to prayer there…

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Grandma Running Through The Rain!

Marvi Marti:

This is so good and well worth 4 minutes of your day.
Go on, run through the rain!

Originally posted on Cute Puppy Love:

This film was based on a true story (written by Bob Perks) and the premise of it is very simple. We are reminded of the need to avoid becoming weighed down by the trivial hindrances that soak our paths on a daily basis.

There are always people in worse situations with real troubles and that should put our small daily problems in to perspective. (from youtube)

Perhaps things aren’t as bad as they first seem, don’t you think?

Spread the HOPE, SHARE with Friends! <3

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You Can’t Make This Sh*t Up Thursday

YCMTUTIt is Thursday, welcome to my very first episode of, “You can’t make this sh*t up” Thursday.

My life is incredibly weird, no doubt about it.  So much of it I just don’t bother to share, the small segment of the world that knows me doesn’t need any fuel on the “she is crazy cat lady material” fires.  But sometimes I just have too open up about it!

Take for instance The Count.  Remember him? Search if you don’t, over yonder in the box Looking For Something.  He has an older brother who happens to work with my younger brother.  Small world stuff, ya know?  And in a city this size,what are the odds that his older brother would happen to cut the grass of my neighbor 2 doors down?  Welcome to my insanity.

Then there is my own yard here at the Diva Den.  The ex-hubster has a lawn care/landscaping business.  My son-in-law works with him.  Guess who cuts our grass?  Yep, my ex-husband.  It’s the plot for a fun novel, no doubt.

Recently I learned that the owner of the swing club I hung out in many moons ago is in prison.  Now, Oz, as I used to call him (as in the Wizard of Oz who was all dog-and-pony-show fake), well nothing bad seemed to stick to him despite the many things he was doing.  When I heard he was doing time, I actually felt kinda bad for the guy.  He is not one I’d think would fair well in the Gray Bar Inn.  Then I looked him up on the state inmate search, and this poor soul who had a real love for his very long haired mullet? Well the prison system, it would seem, makes you shave your head.  Now I really did feel bad for the guy.  Trust me, if anyone had reason to be glad he finally got what was coming to him, it was me.  But I tend to forgive way too easily, and I’ve always had a soft spot for the underdogs and fools of this world.  The bible pretty clearly spells out how we are to treat those in prison in Matthew 25, so what the heck, I wrote to him.  We are corresponding. Odd I know!  Now do I trust him? HELL no, but he is not a violent offender and everyone deserves someone to give a rats butt.

On my way home today I had an encounter of sorts with God.  No, I did not spy Him in a bush or anything, don’t panic.  I’m a tad warped but not certifiable.  On payday I make up several cash gifts for the homeless.  Two, $1 bills, folded in thirds that I carry in my sun visor and if I see a homeless person on a corner with a cardboard sign I give them one of those.  It isn’t a lot but it is what I can do.  I have been out of them for a week, and in fact yesterday had looked up and didn’t have any to give when I saw a needy man, and felt really bad.  Today, I pulled up to a stop light and spotted a gentleman I see frequently, and felt bad I had nothing to offer.  I glanced up at my sun visor and there was money.  One single dollar bill, folded different from how I fold my $2 bundles.  Crisp and new.  I was quite shocked, but pulled it out, put the window down and handed it off to the man.  I’m still in a befuddled state, as I know that I did not put that there.  As I said, I fold them a certain way, and always and only $2.  God works in mysterious ways, and I suppose this man really needed that $1.  And I guess maybe I needed to see a wonder.  :)

That is this weeks edition of YCMTSUT.  See ya next week!



Shooting The Speaker Off The Ice Cream Truck

Courtesy of Salvatore Vuano at

Courtesy of Salvatore Vuano at

Is that considered bad form, to sit in my window and shoot the speaker off the top of the ice cream truck as it comes through the neighborhood?

That has to be one of the most annoying noises under the sun.  It could only be worse if it was playing It’s A Small World rather than the bad reggae music already blaring out of the motorized crap calorie cart.

I am ever so thankful it came through the area after I was done walking my dog, she gets uptight enough over the UPS and FedEx trucks!

I think they should have to play something pleasant, like classical music if they insist on making noise.