Sunday Evening Coffee Musings: Plan B

iStock_000044919954SmallI’m sitting here with my ever present cup of coffee, musing about the past week.  For a week that should have been totally awesome, and it was pretty marvelous, it also was book-ended with hurt.

The book end at the beginning of the week was coming home and finding in my mailbox the gift I had sent off to a former friend.  It was nothing expensive, just a small thing, sent as an olive branch of sorts.  It was returned to me and that did hurt.  I will leave it at that and just say that I will always pray for her despite her feelings toward me.

In between the book ends life was pretty good.  Sticking to my blocked calendar to do my classes and enjoying the learning process.

The book end at the finish of the week brought more hurt and plainly sucked.

Friday is my favorite day of the week.  Yes, it is the end of the work week but it is more because I love reaching the end of a week and knowing I accomplished much.  My work week is always wonderful, the team is great and most days it is stressful but fun.  I went in as always with my trusty sidekick, my Yorkie, and started my morning.  It was only me and the production manager.  After a bit our web designer and IT chick showed up.  We were getting new virus software and servers set up etc as the company is about to go to the next level.  I was really excited about this, the mission and vision were coming together and I was finally in a class to learn QuickBooks and was understanding it this time.  The production manager came in my office sat down, and told me as gently as he was able that my job was being eliminated.  Seems I made too much money and they couldn’t afford to keep me.  Because they have to bring on someone else to handle emergency services with their new franchise, they had to cut someone and that someone was me.

Needless to say I ran through a variety of emotions but ended on very hurt.  We always made decisions as a team at the table, our ‘style’ being like a motorcycle club (MC).  But lately decisions were being made without the input of all members and this was one of those.  I never was given a chance to offer to take a pay cut.  So, I joined the ranks of the unemployed on Friday morning.

It was time for Plan B.

I packed what I cared to take, left the rest behind and headed home.  Channeling my frustration and pain into house work I had things in order when mom got home at lunch.  That is when we sat down like we Divas here do and plotted and planned.  The first order of business was getting me a laptop since I had always used my one from work and they wouldn’t even allow me to borrow it over the weekend.  We hit the store and purchased a nice one, so I am thankful for that blessing.

Our next plan was that since I had been praying about it a lot, I would jump into my Avon business full time.  40 hours a week will now be devoted to sales and recruiting and building up a business that can support me.  I know personally plenty of reps doing just that but I had only played at it as a hobby.  But now, my ‘why’ is pretty substantial and so it will be a full time job.  We have a large roll of paper that we cut into a big planning board on the wall of the Avon office, we worked on brochures and threw our first Girls Night Out Friday night.  We are rolling forward with well thought out plans and not looking back.

That is the benefit of living with your female family members, your Divas.  When the cards are down, they plot, plan, wrap around you, fill your wine glass and help you figure things out.  This morning at church I realized that God is never wrong and this is a blessing.  Who knows what will happen to the company, but He removed me far from it all and I have to accept that there is something much better out here for me.  Something that truly honors Him with integrity and that my life will be blessed in more ways than I can imagine.  Every song on the radio on the way to church was about trusting, and His plan unfolding in bigger ways than we could know, so I am going to give it all to God and know that He has a better place for me.  I will be working for myself now, so I cannot be a layoff victim again.

On a positive note, my evenings will now be free, as I won’t have to try to divide my time after the office, between leisure and Avon.  That leaves more time to do my class for Nouthetic Counseling too, so I can speed up the process of getting my certification as a biblical counselor.

Last night I watched my grandchildren and I walked away with new knowledge through the eyes of a 20 month old.  He trusts beyond a shadow of a doubt that his daddy is there (mommy too).  He cries when he wakes from a nap and a parent is there, he is hungry, they feed him, he hurts and they comfort him. Any need he has they handle it and it is met.  Surely then God, my heavenly Father who has all the riches and power of the universe, will go far beyond what an earthly parent can do if I can just trust Him as my grandson trusts his parents, to protect me and supply all of my needs.

So beginning Tuesday I start working my Avon business full time, working like a boss!


You Can’t Make This Sh*t Up Thursday

YCMTUTUnless you have been living under a rock the past 48 hours, you are aware that Hello Kitty is not really a cat at all.  In fact she is a perpetual 3rd grade girl.  40 years ago, give or take a few, she made her first appearance in the world.  But she isn’t a cat, her creators claim that they never said she was a cat, and they also are not saying she is human either, just that she is a cartoon character.  A girl.  But not a cat.  EXCUSE ME????

She has pointy ears just like a cat.

Her eyes are not round, and while not totally shaped like a cats, they are closer to feline eyes than humans.

She has a tail.  Well sort of a tail, more of  long stump but it is shown, it’s a tail.

She has whiskers, just like a cat.

But she is not to be confused with a cat, because they say she is absolutely not a cat.  She has a pet cat though so that somehow makes it better?  They say she has never been depicted on all fours, but walks on two feet, upright.  Hello!? So does Garfield and he is cat and cartoon character!

I, the reformed cat hater (real ones that is), who is now the proud owner of a delightful black cat I’ve raised since she was rescued at just over 4 weeks old, have long loved Hello Kitty.  I own 18 pairs of Hello Kitty socks, 2 phone cases  that are Hello Kitty for my work and personal phones, my coffee mug is a Hello Kitty one, my key chain, my jammies, numerous trinkets and other Hello Kitty items and I’m sorry BUT HELLO KITTY IS A CAT!  If she is not a cat, then she is one truly freaky looking kid and someone needs to do something about some corrective surgery for her quickly.

I’ve been lied too for years, what is real anymore?  Who can we trust if we cannot trust that a character that looks dead on a cat figure is really not one at all?

Here is a small sample of the Hello Kitty obsession I have.  And yes, that this 51 year old woman is obsessed with Hello Kitty falls under the YCMTSU title too.



Wine & Cheese ~ 85th Serving

wineandcheese2Welcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.

Every week on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings. Sit back and join me now for the 85th serving of some whine and cheese!

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:(  CINCINNATI:  You can’t get there from anywhere!  Traffic in these parts is akin to a warped nightmare after watching a horror movie, “Night Of The Endless Orange Barrels”.  School buses, construction on every single major highway in the loop around the greater city area, excess numbers of cars as college classes are now back in session.  No matter which direction I go, it’s a mess.  Now toss in those folks who refuse to wear sunglasses so that we can add “sun delay” to the equation and you have the recipe for a really crappy commute.  Good thing I use the time to listen to personal development CDs or I’d be a crazed zombie when I arrived at the office.

:(  I am kicking myself for not working hard enough to be at the Avon National Conference this year.  Seeing the videos and photos on so many other’s pages is killing me.  I could have been there if I would have buckled down much sooner than I finally did.  I WILL be there next year, by earning the entire trip free because I am not screwing around with this anymore.


:)  Busting butt to get my Avon business where it needs to be.  I’ve shed a bunch of things from my life so that I can achieve what I am capable of having.  This business changes lives.  It has already changed mine, I made President’s Recognition Club – means I get 40% commissions the rest of this year and all of next year.  I make enough to pay my car payment each month.  And I am going to the top.  Let me know if you want to change your life, a few hundred dollars a month is a big deal in many budgets.  I’d love to have you on my team, anywhere in the USA you can do this with me for a small, $15 investment.  Yep just $15 and you get your full kit and website, and you can change your life too.

:)  Loving being back in ‘school’ again.  Scored 100% on first round of quizzes.   I’m taking 2 classes right now and loving them both.  Learning new things is awesome, I enjoy stretching my brain.

:)  I know I’ve said it before, but I love my job!  We have such a great team here, and we laugh a lot even though our days can get really hectic and stressful.  It rocks working here even on our worst days.




My Marvelous Relationship Non-negotiables

still life with vintage writing instrumentsOne of my virtual mentors, Darren Hardy, posted recently in the morning mentoring email, about his and his wife’s relationship non-negotiables.   He then challenged folks in a relationship to huddle with their significant other and come up with said list of their own.  For us singles, he challenged us to do one that will work well later as a vetting filter.  I loved the idea and decided to work on one tonight.  I am sitting here with a glass of wine, a candle burning in my room and soft music playing.  Can you say relaxing?

Marvelous Relationship Commandments

The Non-negotiables For A Relationship With Marvi Marti

Never, ever, use the ‘D’ word - Divorce is NOT an option.  If I marry I expect those vows to mean something.  It’s about forever and not looking back.  Anything can be fixed and gotten past.  No threats of quitting.  I’m not perfect and neither are you…him…whoever it may end up being is not perfect and will come with habits and quirks and a list of faults.  Get over mine, I plan to get over yours!

Name calling is a no no!  Name calling is the stuff of playgrounds full of children.  Leave the unkind names out of things.

MOVE!  As in endless hours in front of the television is not acceptable to me.  Hour after hour of sitting there watching the same concert, movie, or playing video games endlessly is not something I can live with.  Yes, we all need to relax now and then, but you cannot nurture a relationship when you are killing off the enemy or watching some band for the 110th time on video.  Get up, take a walk with me, talk to me, grocery shop with me, DO SOMETHING with me that requires movement.

Grow on a personal level.  Read, listen to CDs, do things to improve you.  One cannot complain about one’s station in life if you are not doing something to improve it.  Stuck in the same rut day in and day out but doing nothing to improve that is not healthy.  Take a class, work toward a promotion, but do something to stretch and grow yourself.

Personal upkeep.  Yes we are all getting older, and carrying around a few extra pounds.  But at least make an effort to be reasonably fit, and take care of yourself in what you eat, in hygiene and over all maintenance of you!

Church and faith.  Faith is important and on at least most fronts we need to be of like faith and going to church together.  Lead the home front, no matter how imperfectly, through prayer and studying God’s Word together.  Helping each other in our walk will help us grow together.

Intimacy.  It is for married folks, and I will not budge on that.  I believe God’s Word is clear on the topic.  But once married, I believe sexual intimacy is a must, and the more frequent the better.  Physical expression of what is in the heart is vital.  Making love with heart, mind, body and soul cannot be put off for any length of time apart from illness or required distance apart because of work obligations, and should be resumed immediately once back together.

Faithfulness.  No question, if you are a cheater, you are not welcome in my life.  I won’t share what is mine.  Mentally, physically and emotionally there should be complete faithfulness.  The boys at the office don’t need to know what goes on between us, let them wonder, it is not their business.

PDA.  While it is not necessary to climb all over each other, I don’t care to be with someone who cannot hold my hand in public, or show small signs of affection toward me in front of others.  I’m not talking about deep, passionate kisses, but there should never be a doubt that a couple is a couple.

Honesty.  Lying is not ever okay.  EVER.

These are just things I cannot give an inch on, period.  I know there is a man out there who feels the same way, and there may be things he feels need to be added to the list.  I don’t believe these are unreasonable at all.  Now if only such a man exists!

A Long Over Due Apology To TQE

I'm sorryDear Teresa/Queenie (TQE),

You are correct, you have never read a word of an apology from me for the ugly things I have said about you in the past on my blog.  While I could swear I had done so in email, you are entitled to a very public apology here on my page, where I had posted those unkind things.  I am embarrassed that this was not sooner, as it should have been.

I am sorry, for anything I have said or posted, that was unkind, ugly, negative or caused you pain in some way.  I will not insult you by trying to justify a single word, it really was not necessary.  You did not deserve to be treated in any way but with respect and as one who ascribes to the Thumper rule (if you don’t have something nice to say it isn’t necessary to say anything at all), I should have simply kept silent.

What I said and posted was meant to cut deep and cause you pain in your heart, and if I was successful then I am truly sorry.  I had no right to lash out at you the way that I did.  I am quite guilty of using my blog to attack others in the past, you were one of my targets.  I very much regret every unkind word, and if there are an posts remaining with unkind things said I will remove them at once.

I’d like to add that I am very sorry I was not a better friend to you when we were on good terms.  I could have been so much more than I was, and I know looking back over my life that I have had a selfish streak in me that needed weeding out.

I mean every word of this post, it is from my heart.

You were a good friend, and I miss the friendship terribly.

I hope you will find it in your heart one day to forgive me.  Meanwhile I will always pray for you when I see the bracelet I wear on my arm, for all good things and blessings to come your way.

Kindest regards, and blessings to you.



Sunday Evening Coffee Musings

Close up of cup of coffee with pink roseThis post started out as Sunday Morning coffee musings.  But I just didn’t have time so when I got home from church and had some lunch and a fresh cup of java at my side I started to write.  I was so sleepy that Sunday Afternoon coffee wasn’t happening.  I decided a nice little nap was in order.  4 hours later it had been a Sunday afternoon snooze & snore fest!  I really did need it though so I’m not complaining.  In fact I feel great now.  So, it is Sunday Evening coffee musings.

I really enjoyed that message at church, it was very well done and delivered as always.  It gave me so much to think about this week when it comes to God ordained that we should work, be it at home or in an office, and we should be doing our work to His glory.  It has me thinking a lot!  I also very much enjoy that my children and I are once again attending the same church and hearing the same message.  Most Sundays we go out for lunch afterward which is very nice as well, though today was an exception.  I marvel as I sit there with them, watching them interact with their spouses and children, that it seems like yesterday they were in diapers, and now they are parents themselves.  Life is so short.

What is it with dogs?  You send one outside to go, and said puppy REALLY has to poo.  Do they just get to the yard and go?  NOPE!  They still, despite how badly they need to potty, will search over and over in a pattern, circling over an area as many as 20 times (yes I have counted and sometimes it is over that number) until they find just the right square inch to deposit upon.  Imagine if we did that?  In our house there is a bathroom off of the kitchen at the bottom of the steps going up to the upper level of the house.  At the top of the 6 or 7 steps is another bathroom outside of the 2 bedrooms on the west wing as I call it.  Now, picture a human being running from one bathroom to the other, up and down the stairs, or from west wing to east to the bathroom off the master bedroom, back and forth again and again before deciding which potty was the best, cleanest, smelled prettiest…whatever is is that would decide. Or perhaps in a public restroom, wandering in and out of each empty stall until you find the perfect one?  Heck in today’s society the decision probably comes down to which one has the best wifi reception on a cell phone so you can pass the time reading Facebook or playing Candy Crush Saga.   Odd creatures these canines.

I need to really think through the whole Sunday being a day of rest idea.  Usually I would be working on something for one of my direct sales businesses or my classes I am taking.  I justified it that because I am done raising my kids, and I’m not in a relationship, that I needed to use the time to continue getting things done.  I rarely just sit and read for pleasure, or like today, nap!  REST.  I have had to force myself to not open up homework or the work email, and just enjoy the day of mental and physical down time.  I don’t consider writing a task, this is therapy for me so blogging is okay.

This day is quickly drawing to a close, so it is off to prepare for tomorrow, to take on my job, #workinglikeaboss, and being marvelous.  Jammies and a good book with a hot cup of Chamomile and Valerian root tea to help me sleep soundly through the night.


Friday Confessional

Ah Friday!  Time to hop on over to the confessional with Aubrey and let it all out, get it off the chest, out of the soul.  You can join us by clicking the icon above to link up with your confessions.


I confess…

Okay I did NOT hop, nor will I, over to the confessional.  I’m too stinking tired to hop.  In fact it is a small wonder I am awake right now.  I am so far behind on sleep lately as I am not getting to bed early enough then storms and acid reflux have kept me awake at night.  UGH.  And the cat who hates storms had to come make biscuits on my pillow (kneed it with her front paws) and inform me of the lack of food in their bowls because, you know how cats are, OMG WE’RE GOING TO STARVE TO DEATH.

I confess…

I brought a salad for lunch but it’s small and I’m debating if I want to run down the street and get something else.  But that would mean I’d have to actually leave the office and right now I’m more inclined to kick off my shoes and sleep for lunch rather than running out or writing.  Yes I am that tired.

I confess…

Last night I was just finished with all things technology.  Our cable company “did us a favor” and gave us a better router, and that is where the trouble started.  Sure it saved us $40 a month but the cable and Internet were down all night, with the exception of one TV.  Really????  I had 2 online classes to attend, I was not happy.  In fact frustrated would be under defining it.  I had hoped to be able to do one at work at some point today, since it is for my job, but that hasn’t panned out either.  I need another 24 hours in my day and a do over please!!

I confess…

I have made an attempt to reach out to someone, olive branch like.  Hoping it is well received.  Praying either way for this individual.

I confess…

I hear my jammies and a big, hot cup of Sleepy Time Extra tea calling my name.  My bed is calling me too.  My dog is asleep under a chair in my office, and I’m jealous.  Wonder if she’d scoot over and make some room for me?

Wine & Cheese ~ 84th Serving

wine n cheeseWelcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.


Every week on Wednesday I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings. Sit back and join me now for the 84th serving of some whine and cheese!


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:(  Menopause sucks when you have to go out on a job site and the structure is sealed up and no A/C or open windows.  Glad that is not a normal part of my job.

:(  Nothing like being rudely awakened in the middle of the night by the weather radio going off in advance of an approaching severe thunderstorm.  Then finding that your cat is nervously “making biscuits” (kneading) the pillow next to your head, purring in fear.  You know it isn’t going to be good, even though there is no storm just yet, when the animals get freaked out.  Then just as you are drifting back to sleep it goes off yet again, only now there is thunder and a LOT of lightening, wind blowing and reports of hail.  I was not happy and I’m exhausted today.

:(  I am having serious issues with sweet cravings.  This has to stop.  I’m doing so good and do not need to be thinking about junkie calories.


:)  I am really excited about the second class I am taking, this one for work, which starts tonight.  I LOVE learning new things!

:)  The other class is 22 lectures long, for Nouthetic (Biblical) Counseling.  My goal is to be a certified biblical counselor.

:)  I am a little slow at discovering this, no doubt, but I figured out I could save a bundle on those instant oatmeal breakfasts.  I just use a 1/4 cup of regular, old fashioned oats, a little brown sugar, and the smallest setting on my Keurig!  All goes into a large coffee mug and after a few minutes I have breakfast.  For about the same price as one or two of those prepackaged servings in a cardboard cup I have 40+ servings!

:)  I achieved President’s Recognition Club with Avon, guaranteeing me 40% earnings the remainder of this year and all of the next calendar year!  I also will be Avon’s guest at the PR Club gala dinner next Spring and receive free gifts from Avon.  My Mrs. Albee award figurine for this year is GORGEOUS!  She is my 3rd one now, and I love it.  I have my sites set on Honor Society by the end of the calendar year, that would be a first for me.


This is just funny to me.  Farting fruit!



Where I Am Spiritually, Next Time Ask ME

Marvi Marti:

I wrote and posted this over on my other page,, but wanted to share it here too.

Originally posted on A Prodigal Daughter's Return:

iStock_000019755169SmallMy church just finished up a series called, “Oh The Wonders I’ve Seen”.  It was a really good series, and I’m glad I was there for each message.  But one message really stood out to me, so much so that I got a copy of the message and I am listening to it in my car.  I’ve gone back and watched it online as well.

In the message pastor Tome talked about how we have not because we ask not.  The bible spells that out for us.  And that God always answers prayers, be it yes, no or maybe, they do not go unanswered.  He also touched on the fact that motives behind our prayers might be why we aren’t getting what we want if we do ask.  He talked of a recent trip to a 3rd world country and the miracle that was the answer to prayer there…

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Grandma Running Through The Rain!

Marvi Marti:

This is so good and well worth 4 minutes of your day.
Go on, run through the rain!

Originally posted on Cute Puppy Love:

This film was based on a true story (written by Bob Perks) and the premise of it is very simple. We are reminded of the need to avoid becoming weighed down by the trivial hindrances that soak our paths on a daily basis.

There are always people in worse situations with real troubles and that should put our small daily problems in to perspective. (from youtube)

Perhaps things aren’t as bad as they first seem, don’t you think?

Spread the HOPE, SHARE with Friends! <3

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