Wine & Cheese ~ 95th Serving

wineandcheese2Welcome to Wine & Cheese, my weekly, Wednesday whine session.

Most Wednesdays I devote a blog to whining. Despite being a really happy, positive person, I do have things that annoy me at times. I never let anything grate on my nerves for long but thought it would be fun to vent them periodically in my blogs. I also feel that good things, the cheese in life, should be acknowledged as well. I’m even going to throw in a bit of dessert, a piece of virtual chocolate, something that made me laugh or smile just a bit more than normal. If you’d like to read the past editions of Wine & Cheese just click HERE for all of the past postings. Sit back and join me now for the 95th serving of some whine and cheese!

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:(  I am so done with winter.  I mean really over it.  I know we don’t have the snow Boston does but still, I’m really ready for SPRING!

:(  Now, no offense to those with a handicap placard who really need it, so save the hate mail.  But really folks, it clearly states on it to NOT DRIVE WITH IT HANGING ON YOUR MIRROR!  Remove it when driving.  And when that is hanging on the mirror and you are driving, does it make your car go slower or what?  Do the freaking speed limit or get off the road slow poke!  And for the record, if you can walk the entire mega super size grocery store, you don’t need to park in a handicap spot.  Save it for the folks who really need it.  Being obese is not an excuse, for crying out loud you NEED the extra steps!  And again you manage to walk the entire store, you can handle the walk in the lot.  Oh, and you can walk 20 feet TO PUT YOUR SHOPPING CART WHERE IT BELONGS! STOP BEING LAZY!

11012214_793607624058097_1983430516_n :(  There is nothing quite like a crushed roll of toilet paper.  It is never quite right again.  Instead of pulling it and it rolls smoothly, you get a rollthump-rollthump-rollthump.  And the paper usually rips at the thump part so you end up with 6 individual sheets.  Kind of annoying, like a shopping cart with one bad wheel that you should still PUT IN THE PROPER PLACE!


:)  Life is good.  I mean really good.  The Badge, he is just awesome sauce!  We have a time table for the move to Sarasota (before mid-autumn this year) and we have 10 glorious days of vacation on Siesta Key coming up the end of June and beginning of July.

:)  My baby girl finally, at 5 months along, has a baby bump!  She is one of those really fit people so her abs are really strong, making it take longer to show.  We find out at the reveal party on this coming Saturday what this little grandbean is going to be! Only hitch is I will likely be on Siesta Key when the baby arrives.  I’m praying he/she shows up before Nana leaves on her vacation, or waits until I return.

:)  I won’t have a super model style bikini body come vacation, but it will be much better than it is now.  Loving going to the gym, even at the ungodly hour of 7am.  I FEEL better now that I’m consistently working out, and I have so much more energy.


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Love. What is it? ~ Tuesday Coffee Chat

 Love.  Amour.   What is it?  Does it happen at first sight?  
Do you only get one great love per life time?  
How do YOU know love?


Well hey there, nothing like hitting a deep topic for a snow covered, single digit, thank-God-for-coffee Tuesday.  Rory, dear sister blogger, you sure know how to pick a topic!  Glad my coffee cup is bottomless today as well.  So let’s do this!


What is it?

An elder at my former church once defined it as such:

The heartfelt desire to do what is best for another, regardless of the temporal cost to self (in the spiritual, eternal sense, it is NEVER a sacrifice to to what is best for others!)  

Love is adopting the best interest of another in your heart as your own best interest. (Keeping in mind that what is “best” ALWAYS means what is best for the soul….meaning that what is best for another is ALWAYS what draws them closer to Christ.)

That pretty much sums it up for me.  Even if you are not a Christian, it applies, that it is the heartfelt desire to do what is best for another.  If you love someone, your desire is to put them and what is best for them, ahead of yourself. This would apply to love of a couple, love of parent to child, or friend to friend.  Even owner to pet, because we love them too!  It covers it all.

The bible says love your neighbor as you do yourself.  Well, that definition certainly covers it, because if you love yourself you do what is best for yourself.  And if you don’t do that, you aren’t truly able to love another, at least in my opinion.

Does it happen at first sight?

Um, by that very definition, my answer is no.  I believe in serious attraction from the get go, after all that is usually what draws us to someone to begin with, either physical, emotional, intellectual or hopefully all of those at once.  But I have never met anyone that right from that very second I’d have put their life in front of mine, with the exception of my children.  But then I believe instincts and the bonding with them before they are born, lends itself to that and you really do love them, as a mother, before they are born.

I DO believe that chemistry plays into it.  We all have our own scent (ask a dog), and I’m sure that we are hard wired some how to find instant chemistry with someone of the opposite gender who would be a good match for us.  But love takes time, and grows stronger with that time, so other than instant chemistry and attraction, no love at first sight.

Do you only get one great love per life time?

I certainly hope not!  I don’t buy that for a minute.

I’ve said I will never love another man the way I did my ex-husband.  But there is a lot of explaining to do with that statement.  We spent 22 years together as husband and wife.  We raised children, went through good, bad, rich, poor, sickness and more sickness, health etc.  There are SO many memories and for me, most of those very good.  There is a long history there.  For me, he was a great love, was my hero, my rock, joy and heartache.  The saddest part of a marriage breaking up is that down the road, with another person, there will be no “hey remember when Bubbles was 3 and…” because those memories were made with someone else.  A mom loves her mate in a way no one can, as she watches him with their children, falling in love over and over again with him throughout those years.

BUT I do believe I can have another great love in my lifetime, and plan too.  Things will be different, getting to know someone on those core depths again, and new memories made.  There won’t be children to raise, taking some of the stress off.  There will be us, just 2, learning about each other and growing together.  But I believe it will be a great love.  I WANT to love like that again, being completely open, vulnerable and trusting of another person to hold my heart and loyalty in safe keeping.  The kind of love that the binding ritual words from the Carpathian series by Christine Feehan, would make (with slight tweaking) outstanding wedding vows:

You are my lifemate.
I claim you as my lifemate.
I belong to you.
I offer my life for you.
I give you my protection.
I give you my allegiance.
I give you my heart.
I give you my soul.
I give you my body.
I take into my keeping the same that is yours.
Your life will be cherished by me for all my time.
Your life will be placed above my own for all time.
You are my lifemate.
You are bound to me for all eternity.
You are always in my care.

So one great love?  Na, but I think there are at most 2, or 3 tops, in a lifetime, because that kind of love requires a lot heart and soul, and usually that is earned over the long haul.

How do YOU know love?

I know love as:  a daughter, granddaughter, sister, friend, girlfriend, fiance’, wife, mother, grandmother, aunt, sister-in-law, fur baby’s mama, neighbor, co-worker.

Snowmagedon Coming Soon!

10523836_10153066700611031_5274101490780350214_nI swear nothing causes panic in these parts like snow. AKA: white death.

The local news stations will cover this for their entire forecasts, with reporters all over town to show us from 20 locations that OHMYGOSH IT’S SNOWING!!!!  And because this is coming you won’t be able to buy a loaf of bread, let alone a parking spot, at the local grocery stores.

Normally we would have gone to the grocery store yesterday, for the regular, every 2 weeks trip.  But NOOOO, we waited until today.  Because we didn’t know that this morning we’d wake up to a winter storm watch that would become a winter storm warning as this day has progressed.  Naturally we expected total insanity at the store and no one let us down.

10 deep in line at each register, maybe more as I couldn’t see down the aisles that lines snaked into.  This is just plain stupidity too.  We do not get trapped here in Cincinnati, Ohio, because in winter it does typically snow in these here parts.  Therefore we have snow plows! And salt!  And at best we might have to wait it all out for a few hours or MAYBE over night.  To see this kind of craziness at the store one would think we’d be snowed in for the entire winter.

10979412_788634397888753_1381596223_nNow, mom and I just laughed as the aisles got more and more crowded and folks moved slower and slower.  It was just nuts.  We finally got in line and looked around at this sight.  Then, in front of us, a couple with massive amounts of items in their cart started unloading for check out.  He was doing it all wrong, she took over and talk about OCD issues!  Things had to be unloaded in a particular order, so things were all grouped together in a way only she understood.  They took forever to do this.  It gets better!  When it was all rang up and bagged up to their standards, and it was time to pay for their groceries, they couldn’t find their debit/credit card.  Both going through their wallets and her purse until finally they were able to locate it.  Seems the OCD tendencies don’t reach their wallet organization at all.

The snow will begin late tonight, and right now we are slated for over 6 inches.  Just south, 12 inches.  I’m praying this whole storm sinks southward and far away from us but when I commented as such on one of the local meteorologist’s Facebook post, he told me not too bet on that.  DANG!  More likely, as would be par for the course for me, it will move more north and I’ll be shoveling a foot of this crap off the driveway come tomorrow evening.


Iced Water Moments

Photo by rakratchada torsap.

Photo by rakratchada torsap.

Why iced water? Because any more coffee and I very well may crawl up a wall and across the ceiling!  And I’m trying too drink half my body weight in water because I have been told that by trainers.  Only my pregnant daughter can rival my number of trips to the bathroom in a day.

SO, Sarasota & Siesta Key were fabulous, and right now at this writing it is 138 days, 10 hours and 48 minutes until we go back again.  Yes I am counting down!!  I hate being cold, hate snow, hate winter….you get the idea.

In my absence my poor cat had to rely on others for attention.  It is not like she lacked it, Divas love their pointy eared fur babies so she got what she needed while I was away.  Since my return and the initial snubbing, she has been my shadow.  If I go downstairs from my room, she follows.  Bathroom visits are not permitted without her on the other side of the door, sometimes knocking in rapid tap tap tap.  If I am at my desk, she is on it next to my laptop trying to purr in my ear.  Sitting on the bed reading? Yep, there she is, and if I don’t pay attention she puts her paw on my shoulder to gain it.  I think it is safe to say she missed her mama.

Now that I am back in town I am back at the gym on a daily basis.  Despite being 4 days without a workout I lost 4 pounds in the sunshine state.  No complaints here!  No doubt it was being sensible with what I ate.  Because next time we will stay on Siesta Key I did a little research and discovered there is one fitness center on the key, about 2 blocks from where we will be staying, and they have week passes for sale!  I am totally stoked.  While I will get a good leg workout walking the beach, I also want my strength and cardio session that is available in a gym so that is where I will be early in the morning while The Badge sleeps in.  Meanwhile working my butt off here to be bikini ready when I get down there.

My fitness journey is just that, a trip toward a destination and if you are on Sparkpeople feel free to follow my progress, in fact friend me!  I enjoy the motivation others post.

138 days, 10 hours, 37 minutes left.



Avon: What You Should Know Before Becoming A Representative

Originally posted on Be Marvelous With Marti:

First let me say that I am a direct sales junkie.  A junior kit-napper would describe it best. At one point I was ‘selling’ for 7 different companies, everything from weight loss coffee, those crazy wrap things, candles and diet supplements.  It was crazy.  Now? I sell only Avon and Jewelry In Candles, the candles being more of a hobby so I can get the discounts when I want candles or tarts.

I’ve spent (wasted) good money trying out multiple companies, so I’m somewhat knowledgeable about the financial risks of direct sales.

So what should you know before you opt to sign up to be an independent sales representative for Avon?


Avon has one of the lowest start-up fees of any direct sales company.  It is only $15 to sign up, which you can do online or in person with an established representative.  This cost includes your kit…

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The Marvelous One Is MIA In Sunny Florida

I’ve been MIA that past few days, enjoying the warm weather and sunshine in Sarasota, Florida.  The Badge is here for business, I came along to help drive (who would not want to drive his Mercedes after all?) and after the business part we’ve been enjoying the “cold” weather (around here they think 60’s is cold).  It’s been in the 70’s during the day (glorious compared to Cincinnati) and 60’s over night.  64 degrees, humid, windows down in the car last night as we went cruising to some of the spots he loves.

We drove to Venice Beach today to check it out, but while it is nice, Sarasota and Siesta Key are better.  It was heavenly to walk barefoot in the sand again and come June we will be staying on Siesta Key so we can walk across the street one way to the beach, or the other way to Gilligan’s and The Daquri Deck, and pretty much everything else we want to eat or drink.  I cannot wait.

The plan is to move down here, the sooner the better.  Sooner WOULD be better.  I love it here and understand why he feels home here.  It is so beautiful.  The day I get back to Cincinnati I will be back in the gym getting my fitness on so I am bikini ready for June.  I will have my son and/or son-in-law work with me at the gym to achieve my goals.

For now, this and a few other photos are what I will enjoy and use to motivate me.  I will job hunt and find something here I think, like slinging beer at a local bar.  I can’t do an office again, ever.  I want open air!!


Friday Confessional


Friday is here and time to hit the confessional!

I confess…

I think our 3 cats are trying to escape.  The door heading into the garage didn’t get closed all the way the other night.  It is NOT an area they are permitted too enter for their safety and because they are indoor cats we cannot chance them getting out if the door goes up.

I came down at 6am to get ready to head to the gym and the door is standing open and here they come, strutting in from the garage.  I strongly suspect they were trying to hot wire a car just by the looks on their little whiskered faces.

I confess…

I am totally patting myself on the back!  I’m staying the course and dragging my sorry butt out of bed at 6am each day to go workout.  I hate it.  The alarm is across the room so I am forced to actually get out from under my warm blankets and pillows and hit the snooze button or turn it off.  It is how I ensure that I get up at all.  If I am feeling limber I can stretch and reach from the bottom of the bed, though the risk of falling off the bed exists.

On a positive note the scale has started going down, jeans fit a bit better and once I finish I feel so much better and I’m very glad I went.  It’s the getting up and going part that I grumble about.  I have so much more energy now and I’m logging my food and fitness activity on my SparkPeople account so I stay aware and focused.

I confess…

I need my roots done!  Thankfully my stylist will be here Sunday afternoon to bleach them and put some hot pink in my bangs.  I’m thrilled to say the least as The Badge and I have to make a 3 day trip down to Sarasota next week and I like feeling like I’m somewhat put together.

I confess…

I think I deserve a nap today! Don’t yet know that I will take one but I feel I deserve it.  :)